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021 I Jenna Dunn on Seven Scriptures to Prove Complementarianism is Wrong

In this episode, Jenna Dunn of Ezer Bible returns to the podcast to revisit her journey from complementarianism to egalitarianism, exploring key Biblical passages and challenging traditional interpretations of gender roles in the Church. This episode offers deep insights into how we read Scripture, translation issues, and the theological basis for gender equality in Christian ministry.

You can read the Bible passages we discuss here: Romans 16, Genesis 2, and Genesis 3:16, 1 Corinthians 11, 1 Corinthians 14, 1 Timothy 2:12, and 1 Timothy 3.

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TRANSCRIPT:

Ruth Perry (00:15)
My guest today is Jenna Dunn from Ezer Bible. You were my very first interview when I started this podcast. Even though I released our conversation as my third were my very first. When I listened to our episode back, I was like, Oh, I should have asked her so many other questions. And I just really appreciate you being my guinea pig. And I appreciate you coming back on and being gracious enough to do that again. So thank you, Jenna.

Jenna (00:38)
Thank you, Ruth. I’m really happy to be here. It’s been really amazing to get to see all the people you’ve interviewed. loved our conversation last time, but yeah, I’m excited to talk seven passages that I mentioned before.

I remember telling you the backstory about how I had these seven passages bookmarked in a Bible that I always carried with me. And I put together an online guide that’s a video, but I’m always thinking that maybe it’s better to just talk to people who want to know the Bible for themselves and they’re already curious. Maybe other women or couples who are in a complementarian church and they’re like well, I want to know how to explain what’s wrong with that position or what the Bible really says because I noticed if you try to talk directly to somebody who’s really invested in complementarianism or if you’re going to a church and that’s part of their doctrinal statement, you can’t really change people’s minds easily and maybe you shouldn’t. Maybe you should find a different place to fellowship.

I think for myself it was really destructive in my life to think that you can convince somebody and it’s tempting too because you’re like, well we all believe in the Bible. Just show them what it says in the Bible and that was definitely my mindset. I had these seven passages bookmarked and I’ll just show them, this is what it says. It’ll be so easy. They’ll just agree. But there’s almost like a spiritual resistance to people who are upholding that worldview, right? It’s not even just, Oh, the Bible says men need to do this and women need to do this. It’s so much beyond that. It’s their political framework. It’s how they’re interpreting scripture, it’s a whole framework that’s imposed onto the Bible. It’s how they’re doing relationships.

Ruth Perry (02:18)
I think it’s like the parable of the soils; some soil is receptive and some is really hard. And the people who are most considering that maybe complementarianism isn’t the way is the person who has had a bad experience and they’ve realized that the fruit of complementarianism isn’t good. And so they’re experiencing some cognitive dissonance. And that could have been either in their relationship at church or in the home.

Or perhaps they’ve felt a call from God. And so now they’re trying make sense of that because they’re a woman. That can’t be right. And so it seems like the people who are the receptive hearers of egalitarianism, if they’re coming from a complementarian background, they’re in a spiritual season of, that’s not working, I need to find a better way. But if it is working for them, they’re just gonna ignore you. They’re gonna cast you out as heretical. They’re gonna warn themselves about you and others.

Jenna (03:13)
Yeah, and I have to say too, when you’re in a complimentarian church and you haven’t really questioned that mindset or that framework at all, it seems like it’s not that big of a deal. So some women feel called to teach or pastor. What’s the big deal? They can teach and pastor women and children. There’s plenty of opportunities. Nobody should be feeling bad. And it really just doesn’t seem like it’s that important.

And it isn’t, you can still do a lot. I would have been perfectly happy just doing children’s ministry. I was writing Sunday school curriculum and I loved it. I never wanted to teach men. So the only reason why it was an issue is that what was being taught to everybody was not what the Bible said. So that’s the issue is that you have a framework people who are different in some way, like they’re female, they bring truth to the light. They can’t call somebody into repentance. They can’t even make positive change in their marriage, right? It’s the whole framework where only men the leadership capabilities and the ability to tell everybody this is why you need to repent. This is what the Bible actually says. So that’s the issue is that women can’t come against that framework. They can’t question that doctrine. They have to go along with it.

I remember there was another situation where I brought up to leadership that there’s not any women in positions of authority so what if I as a woman was in a dangerous situation like an abusive marriage or I had something very personal and I needed to get counseling or help or advice from a woman they were like well pastors wives, ministry wives, look at all these women and you don’t understand you can’t go to a woman who’s married to one of the leaders and say, I think that the way that Ephesians 5, the way the pastor talked about it, was really bad because there’s women in the church that are in abusive marriages. You can’t question anything, you can’t change anything, and there’s no women that have a rightful authority, right? Following their place in the pyramid structure, right? Trying to keep their position.

That’s not a healthy dynamic, although the issue is not, well, women can’t teach men, and they’re just not happy only teaching other women. It’s really that what’s being taught is not able to be questioned, and men are only called into repentance by other men. So they have a whole blind spot, you know? And they’re only interpreting scripture according to this narrow framework of what other men have said it says, and you can’t question it.

And a lot of times, a Sunday morning teaching will not even have a very healthy perspective, it’s very narrow minded. I remember one example was seeing a male pastor teach about the woman at the well. And it just drove me crazy because his bias was so visible. So there’s all these passages in the Bible that are really about women and they are the words and theology and conversations of women and the stories of women and then only men can teach it and they don’t understand, they don’t see, they don’t ask the right things.

I think it took women to start saying Bathsheba was raped. So many male pastors taught that story. And then it was women that came along and they’re like, was she able to say no? Did she have to if the king comes and says, you have to go with me? Did she have an option? Women think to ask that. And the Bible is not just this rule book and it’s not stories of only men. There’s all these really personal stories of women and it makes sense to have women help with that translation and interpretation.

So it’s not about, well, women want to be able to do all these things that men do because they’re not happy being a woman. No, men aren’t doing things good. And how is that going to get fixed? If you silence the people that are really given by God as gifts to help his body. That is what the leadership positions in the church are supposed to be, is people that are given by Jesus to his bride to teach and to lead and to preach and to evangelize. If you only have men doing those things, it’s not going to be as good as it could be.

Ruth Perry (07:17)
I also think of the value that you bring to this conversation and that I bring to this conversation is that we up complementarian. And so we’ve read the Bible through that lens, and then we’ve rediscovered the Bible through a new lens. And just having that insight of both perspectives, I think, is really valuable. And I know growing up complementarian, the way that complementarians spoke of egalitarians. I would say it was not according to the New Testament one another commands that we’re supposed to love one another and consider others better than ourselves. But rather, there was a lot of demeaning language and writing off and just assuming that egalitarians were playing fast and loose with scripture and that they weren’t taking it seriously and that they were letting their culture influence the way that they read the Bible. And as I’ve met egalitarians and read egalitarians, that couldn’t be further from the truth.

Jenna (08:08)
Yeah. Yeah, who’s doing mental gymnastics? The people trying to make it fit the most common social structure we’ve had throughout the world, throughout time is patriarchy and trying to make the Bible fit that, trying to make the Bible prescribe patriarchy. I think that that’s really pandering to the culture.

Even the name complementarian, I find slightly deceptive because nobody is saying that men and women are the same. Both sides think that male and female were created by God to complement each other so it’s not even being honest about what their position is. Their position is not just that men and women are different and compliment each other, but that there must be this hierarchy between them. But if you say, well, they’re hierarchalists, they don’t love that. And if you say, you’re advocating for patriarchy, they don’t really love that either.

But being complementarian, it’s a weird thing for them to name the movement, but also just the fact that everything came out as a response, right? It was a very reactionary movement. It only makes sense in America and it only makes sense since the 70s and it only makes sense as a reaction to feminism. And so there’s these bigger issues that are hard to bring up and I think one of the strategies is to ask the right questions and to help them bigger ideas in scripture. So one of the first things that I think is really important to bring up is Romans 16.

So the seven passages are Romans 16 and then Genesis 2 and then look at Genesis 3:16 and then you get into the First Corinthians 11, First Corinthians 14 and First Timothy 2. So everybody starts the other way around with first Timothy 2, and I actually think that’s the least relevant passage But I also think it’s important to look at the whole chapter.

So, those seven chapters, I think you can give people an overview of what that passage is talking about and the big picture and it’ll all fit in. And hopefully it illuminates all of scripture and it doesn’t just feel like this disconnected framework. And I think that’s one of the things that really bothered me about complementarianism is that they will make a list of something like, nine proofs of male headship or, the true woman manifesto. There’s also the biblical manhood and womanhood. It’s kind of like a manifesto, but they’ll make 10 points, like 10 sentences, and then they’ll just be like three scriptures to support that statement.

And the scriptures are different genres of the Bible. They’re just a hodgepodge and then the scriptures don’t support the statement, or they’ll be saying something slightly different. They’ll say, well, Paul is quoting the created order. And then you go and you look at where they’re saying Paul’s saying that, but Paul’s never using the phrase created order.

I don’t see egalitarians use the Bible that way, right? There’s more respect. There’s more providing context and explaining who’s saying that and who their audience is and why they might be saying it. There’s a need for that because I think using the Bible like it’s just a rule book or a blueprint for how to have a good family or how to have a good marriage or how everybody should act according to their gender, it’s just a weird way to use scripture.

And so with those seven passages, kind of the crux of the issue is the complementarian idea of created order that they get from Genesis, right? Because the verses that they’re using from Paul, they think that he’s quoting Genesis. So looking at Romans 16 first to say, what did the early church look like? And Romans 16 not only gives you a list men and women working together, it does list one married couple in ministry, Priscilla and Aquila, but it lists a lot of women with no statement about who they’re married to or whose wife they are. It also gives women titles of respect. It shows that they’re set over others. You know, even listing churches that they are set over. You have Phoebe presiding over the Church of Centrea.

So just the amount of women and the way women are listed and then how Paul is commending them. So it doesn’t only just tell you how the church looked and what people were doing, but what Paul thought about it. And everything else that you talk about after that, every other part of the Bible that you read, would Paul really be contradicting himself if he’s commending women for leading? Is he later telling them to be silent?

If he’s calling them coworkers and partnering with them and even having women over him as a man, is he later going to say, yeah, I don’t want any women to exercise authority over men? The conversation has to start with that. You get this picture of the early church as being very diverse the women that are commended are not all somebody’s wife and somebody’s mother. It’s not like when you are at a pastor’s conference by The Resurgence or by The Gospel Coalition and the only mention of women is so-and-so’s wife. It’s a very different feel.

The early church movement had a lot of women and maybe their husbands weren’t saved. Maybe their husbands weren’t with them and maybe they weren’t married and there was a lot of householders that were women. And they impose this 1950s Leave it to Beaver family model onto the text and it’s just not in the text.

And also, a lot of these things that they think Paul is saying are much worse. He’s not just saying women ask your husbands at home and be respectful and show deference to male leadership. He’s not saying that. He’s saying the voice of a woman shameful or filthy. So you either think he’s quoting a different idea or that he believes that and that somehow makes sense when you see Romans 16 and it doesn’t make sense, right?

So I think starting with Romans 16, that’s the biggest thing. If you have two seconds to talk to a complementarian, ask them if they read Romans 16 what they think about it. If you’re reading the ESV, some of these passages are interpreted in such a way, like it’ll say, well known to the apostles, right?

Ruth Perry (14:09)
Hmm. Yeah, I was going to ask you about how can away from Junia?

Jenna (14:13)
Yeah, well, it was Junius for a while and then they realized there’s no way it was a man’s name. And so then they changed the other words in the sentence. So you see, not only is the actual scripture important to look at, but that history of how we’ve translated it. Also, it reveals that there’s been a historic bias against female leadership.

And so I think that’s important to recognize because it’s not just people being difficult or politically correct because of feminism now. It’s not just our modern culture. Women have always been discriminated against and they’ve always been trying to serve the Lord. They’ve always been full of the Holy Spirit and trying to do what they’re called to do and there’s always been a historic bias there in translation and we have a history of how it’s been translated. The end result is nobody thinks that it could possibly be Junius. Everybody knows it’s Junia.

And so that should cause you to also doubt the other things that the ESV tries to get away with in modern times. Like they still try to, say, not deacon to say servant. None of the other places where men are called deacons do they try to say servant. And you actually have the church that she’s presiding over listed. So yeah, I think that that is an obstacle, the translation issues. And unfortunately, that is one of the reasons why people continue to be complementarian is just cause they’re reading the ESV. And so they’re not seeing what scripture really says. And that’s too bad. ⁓

Ruth Perry (15:37)
It’s interesting how people say, well, there’s no women pastors in the Bible, but there’s no one in the Bible that has the title pastor. It is deacon or servant or shepherd or some other term.

Jenna (15:41)
No pastors. Yeah, and the bigger picture of that though is that there aren’t offices. There’s not these elite titles, right? The fact that Paul is like, I’m going to call the people that are in charge servants. It’s so Jesus-like. It backs up the whole ethic of Jesus, to say, don’t be like the Gentiles who lord it over one another.

Whoever is going to be the greatest among you is going to be your servant. So to not try to seek to be the greatest. I love all of the stories where the male disciples are arguing about who’s greatest among them. There’s one where they’re like outside arguing and they come into the house and Jesus knows what they were arguing about, and he’s like, what were you talking about back there? You know? I see that feeling in the whole nine proofs of male headship that they get from Genesis, right? Like the whole concept of created order. This is their whole argument in those bullet point checklists.

The man was created first, the woman sinned first. And it’s just this childish, immature framework of who did what first, who is greatest, who’s not greatest. It’s just a weird way to look at the Bible and it goes against the bigger picture of everything Jesus said. And then you see Paul really running with the exact same ethic, setting up churches and just saying, we’re gonna call everybody who leads a servant.

And even the five-fold ministry titles, those are all things you’re doing. You’re a teacher, you’re an evangelist, you’re a shepherd. It’s not about this official title.

Ruth Perry (17:24)
I think it is a little bit of projection, the way they talk about women who are trying to follow their callings in the church. They’re like, well, you just want power. But I feel that reveals what their perspective is, that those positions are power. And it’s about authority and lording over others rather than service and servanthood.

Jenna (17:37)
Yeah. Yeah, I do see the projection too. It’s really interesting being told that you just want attention when you’re a woman in the church, that was really odd for me. It’s so not my personality and I can’t think of anything I’ve done that would warrant somebody saying, well, you just want attention. Their view of womanhood and what I should want and what I should be is so narrow and small that it’s like anything outside of that is oh, you want all these things.

Yeah, it takes empathy, I think, for somebody coming from that framework to imagine what that must feel like. You get saved and you get baptized and you start learning about the Bible and then you get filled with the Holy Spirit. And for some people, they really feel called to teach or to lead or to even preach, to call people into repentance. And then if you’re a woman, you’re supposed to show this special respect. You can’t be in any sort of authority position where you’re telling a man what to do or criticize him. You can’t tell him that he’s teaching the Bible wrong or that he’s not seeing things. I’m not saying that you would ever do it in a disrespectful way, but it’s just not allowed in any way.

And so what do you do if you really want to build community and be a part of a community? There’s just not a way do it in a healthy way, I don’t think. And it also is really destructive for a lot of marriages. If you are married and you’re in leadership in that type of environment, there’s just a lot of ways that your marriage is going to be attacked because especially if you’re the woman thinking that the Bible is freeing towards women and opens the mouths of women and is empowering for women and then you’re in a complementarian culture, it’s going to be hard not only socially, it’s going to be hard to actually to be honest with people and to be in community. And then if you’re in a marriage that’s disjointed that way, it’s really hard.

I wish it was just a matter of saying, well, we all have the same Lord. We read the same Bible. We have the same Spirit. Let’s just open up the Bible and just see what it says. But unfortunately, there’s a lot more to it. But yeah, Romans 16 is good. I think the next thing to focus on is the whole creation account, mainly Genesis two, because everything in complementarian theology hinges on them establishing male headship before the fall.

Everybody agrees as soon as the fall happens and he’s gonna rule over her, that’s Bad. It’s, you know, what do you think before that, you think God instituted a form of patriarchy or a good male headship hierarchy, right? That’s the crux of the issue and I think the fact that you have new language to prove that is a good indicator that it’s not just obvious in scripture. Phrases like, God’s design, created order, order of creation.

Even male headship is kind of a questionable phrase. The Bible definitely talks about men being the head of their wife, but I see all the time people are reading a scripture and every place that says head, they say headship and sometimes they’ll even just say authority. I’m like wow, that’s a crazy metaphor, authority in a body. That’s not even a metaphor anymore, right? You’ve just completely changed a word. But yeah, people will say Paul said and then say something that’s not even in the Bible and not what he said.

And this idea equal, but different roles, even the idea of roles or gender roles, that’s all really modern stuff. It like the sixties? They started talking about gender roles. That’s a social construct. It’s a weird thing to impose onto the Bible.

Once you see how weird it is, once you start questioning it, you’re like, this is really a whole way of looking at things and actually taking a story and saying, God instituted a certain design or order and then the sin in the Garden of Eden is a reversal of that. At that point you’re redefining sin as not acting like your gender or not following your role. Try to find another story in the Bible where that’s what the sin is. Not following, not staying in your place.

That really struck me the other day, how it’s all hinging on a really modern idea. And now you’re taking a story in the Bible that is foundational to understanding the rest of scripture and you’re saying, it’s about not staying in your place. Have you seen what I’m talking about where the chain of command is supposed to be, God, Jesus, man, woman, and then the reversal is the serpent, woman, man, God, you know what I mean? But that idea is sticky.

Ruth Perry (22:05)
This is really where we read our culture into the Bible because we are conditioned in a patriarchal culture where there are roles, and we call them traditional values. So it feels old, just using that language of this is the traditional view. It feels like this is the right way to view things, but it really is the culture of the world and we’re supposed to be renewed and not conform to the culture of the world, but conform to the values of the kingdom of God, which I feel like Genesis 1 and 2 really lays out a beautiful vision of partnership between men and women in having dominion. They were both given the same job description to have dominion and care for God’s beautiful creation, and they were connected with God and they were connected with each other. And the sin creates disconnection and harm between our relationship with each other and with God.

But your ministry is called Ezer Bible. So I’m obviously wanting to hear from you about how you understand that word helpmeet because that sounds, in the King James Version that people love to read, it says that the woman is a helpmeet or in the ESV helper. And we just read that through our modern English lens as subordinate and that there’s hierarchy inherent in that. That that’s what God’s created order is. That we’re assisting the man in his calling and his dominion. So can you explain how to better understand that word helper?

Jenna (23:21)
Yeah, that was actually world-changing for me. I think that that was the thing that caused me to leave complementarian theology. And I’ve noticed that some of the different well-known complementarian bloggers or authors, they’ve changed that list. It used to be like the second point was that the woman’s called ezer was actually one of their proofs of male headship. Which is crazy because you know if it was the other way around where God created the man to rescue the woman from being alone, that God calls himself ezer. And it would be a proof of male headship.

And then, to even have it say, equal to or facing him, like on his level. So she’s a rescue, a deliverer, but on his level. I think it’s really difficult to get subservience out of that word and when I really looked up that word and I saw the other places it was used I actually felt it elevated, I mean, I know it’s equal to but I was thinking wow, that’s really an elevating title for the first woman to be called, and the fact that God’s like, I’m gonna make an ezer like this..

I think that the takeaway that complementarians get about like, he was created first, she sinned first. It’s a really weird takeaway when you see the story as it is, how everything is done in such a way that they can’t not be interdependent. She’s built from his body. So, can you say that he existed first if, the materials that she’s built with are his body? It’s done in such a way that I think what you’re supposed to take away is wow, they’re really interconnected.

That’s the idea that eventually leads to marriage is that she’s taken out of him, so then he’s going to leave his family and cleave to her because he’s seeking that wholeness. That seems like the bigger thing to take away from that story but also isn’t that story all about Jesus? There are so many things in that story that go against the natural world that we know. We all know that every human came out of the body of a woman. This is the natural order of things and this story is flipping a lot of that on its head and Paul uses all of that in the New Testament to show interdependence and connection, not to show a hierarchy.

I think that another huge thing to point out is that Paul doesn’t say that the man is created first so to stop putting words in his mouth, to stop misquoting him is huge. Because then you have to be thinking, what is Paul saying? He’s not saying that the man was created first. It literally doesn’t say that word in there. And take the phrase created order and to start imposing that onto how you’re interpreting the Bible. Paul says the man is formed first. And then you have to look at the formation going on.

That there’s a completely different word for the idea of taking something that already existed in chapter one and molding it like clay and then breathing life into it and then taking part of the bone and the flesh off and building a woman. I don’t know if you’ve heard something that was kind of new to me that I heard from Tim Mackey was that the word ezer is just one little dot different from the word city.

So like this idea of building an ezer, it’s like an architecture word. It’s like how you’d build an altar, or you’d build a house, or you’d build a city. You look in the New Testament and you have the New City that’s prepared like a bride. There’s some really interesting spiritual stuff going on in this story, right? The natural order shows us that we all got our life from a woman. And so maybe there’s some respect and honor due to women that we all are born of a woman and then this story maybe gives men this idea well everything came from a man, he was first and I think that they really glom onto that as sort of a projection of male superiority but I don’t think that that’s why God gave us that story.

And I actually think the entire creation account is about the Creator. I see Jesus in every in every part of that and Paul does too. In fact, most of what Paul is talking about whenever he’s quoting the creation account, he’s talking about that interconnection. He’s talking about two become one, a head and a body, make He’s talking about the fact that the woman is made, is built from his body and just the same thing with Jesus and his church. The church is being built from the broken body of Jesus and the church is a bride and the church is like a city.

But the big thing to make complementarians, look at it different, it’s just to make them look at what it actually says. You can see that these phrases their framework is dependent on don’t exist in Scripture. I think too it’s important to not misquote Paul. There’s a lot of things that they say Paul is saying and then you look at it and that’s not what he’s saying.

You know, like I talked about the quote, that’s called like the quote refutation view where he’s quoting, I think, the Jewish oral law. But when you look at what he’s actually quoting, if you want to try to make that his actual opinion, it’s pretty extreme. It’s actually a really mean thing to say. I actually just walked away from Christianity when I did a word search I think it’s verse 34, it says something like, the voice of a woman is shameful. And I was like, I’m sure it doesn’t say shameful. Like, I don’t recommend looking up that word, It says the voice of a woman is filthy.

It’s not just saying, women maybe aren’t educated at this time in history and they just need to hush down a little bit and just ask their husbands at home and stay in their place. It’s saying something about the quality of her voice, no matter what she’s saying.

Ruth Perry (29:08)
It’s deragatory.

Jenna (29:09)
Yeah, and to say something’s filthy or shameful is hinting at the idea which was prevalent in the first century, that the voice of a woman is sensual, which you know you still see that in other cultures today. Some of the Muslim majority countries have laws against women speaking in public, because they think it’s immodest. The idea that that’s representative of Paul, I think just doesn’t fit with the rest of his story.

It does fit with who he was before he encountered Christ on the road to Damascus. So you see him confronting his past worldview. You’ve seen Galatians 3.28, he says that there’s neither slave or free, or male or female, or Jew or Gentile. That is almost verbatim a prayer. So he’s refuting what he probably used to pray when he was a Pharisee. So you see him come against the world view that he used to hold to. I think it’s very unlikely that he’s out of nowhere just going back to being a Pharisee.

But I think that sometimes people who don’t power of the gospel, they just kind of synchronize everything in his life. They’re like, oh, well, he was a Pharisee. So he believed that. And they sync that together with who he was as a Christian in Christ. No, he did a 180. Before he was rounding up all the Jesus followers and locking them up and killing them.

You can’t synchronize that with who he is in Christ. He had a conversion experience. Whereas he used to follow those ideas, now he’s partnering with women. Now he’s learning for women. And I think the idea that he’s saying that is just, I think it’s so out of line with everything else that his ministry is about. And I think it’s perfectly in line that he would say that and refute it. There is a quote Rabbi Eliezer that says the voice of a woman is filthy nakedness, and there is also the quote that says little woman know nothing but the use of her distaff like her spitting, so there’s things that are really similar to that idea in the Talmud, but at that time they could have just been Jewish oral laws or slogans and I think it’s very likely that he’s, quoting them and saying, what? Did the Word of God come from you or did it come to you only?

I think that with that passage, just getting people to really look at what it says and to not say that it says something it doesn’t. That was the way it was presented to me. This is about headship. Same with 1st Timothy 2. It’s about headship. It’s about the created order. Paul’s quoting the created order. Well, he’s not. That phrase isn’t being used. And what he’s saying, that the voice of a woman is filthy is nothing to do with the created order. you know? And that’s actually not one of them that he’s quoting the creation account. It’s the 1 Timothy 2 and 1 Corinthians 11 where Paul, specifically quotes the creation account.

So, you you’ve got like this circle where how they’re interpreting the creation account is influencing their view of these two verses and then how they’re interpreting those two verses is influencing their creation account idea. And so it’s like, how do you break that loop? It’s a negative feedback loop. How do you get them to see both sections correctly? You can’t just fix one, right? But the crux of the issue is they don’t see the creation account accurately. They’re convinced that it’s about something different than it’s about, they don’t read that story and think, this is about how men and women were rule together. They were created in a way that they’re interdependent on each other.

Ruth Perry (32:42)
This might be a tangent, but I also think Calvinists don’t start in Genesis 1 and 2. They like to start in Genesis 3 at the fall where we are, you know, original sin, that we are filthy and just totally unworthy of anything from God. Everything is a free gift, which Armenians would agree. Everything is a free gift from God.

But Armenians would start with Genesis 1 and 2 about common grace and the creation of God and the dignity and value of every human life, the very goodness of human beings. But there could be patriarchal Armenians too. And they might allow women to use their gifts in the church, but then they’ll still want that order in the home of male headship and women’s submission.

Jenna (33:21)
Yeah, I’ve seen that. Yeah, I’ve been really intrigued by that. I came across that pretty recently where I was listening to somebody who said, yeah, I believe in male headship in the home, but not in the church. And I had to think about that for a second because that means that you still hold to the idea of the created order in Genesis. But that means it’s only applicable to a man and a woman in marriage. I think a lot of that has to do with how you’re interpreting all the head-body metaphor.

You’re either reading the head-body metaphor as a metaphor about connection and interdependence, or you’re breaking that metaphor and replacing that word with a different word. Headship and authority, those are the same thing, but the metaphor is not a headship and a body. That’s like saying, let’s hike up this trail, meet me at the authority of the river. You’d be like, no, that doesn’t even make sense. So there’s no other place where we use words that way, you know?

And actually, the word in Greek, we have the perfect match in English, the word head in English. It has the same meanings. It can mean your literal head. It can mean authority, like a CEO. And it could mean source, like the head of a river. So it really is like the perfect English word. Usually you don’t have an exact match, it really is head is head. If I’m saying to you, take that hat off your head, I’m not saying take the hat off your authority.

I just don’t understand how people break that metaphor and then think that they’re reading the Bible correctly. I mean, I know what happens is they’re like, well, Jesus is the head of the church. And those are similar things, but can’t you see you can use the same word in different contexts. You can say that Jesus is head over the church, because that’s also true. But that doesn’t mean that men take on every single thing that’s true about Jesus. It’s only in the context of a marriage that a man is a head of a body.

You can’t have more than one of each for that metaphor to work. If you’ve ever seen the umbrellas, the umbrellas are crazy. You can have five umbrellas under one umbrella. If it’s just about authority, there’s not one of each, right? You can’t have two becomes one. It like completely breaks the metaphor.

Ruth Perry (35:14)
That’s not how umbrellas work. You only need one. Yeah.

Jenna (35:26)
Maybe that’s even just like a language issue that people don’t understand where the Bible is using a metaphor. You know, maybe people wanting to be very literal with the way they read the Bible. They’re trying to be literal with the metaphor. But yeah.

Ruth Perry (35:38)
You would also think, if Jesus is head of the church in the way that they want to be head of their church or their wife, then we wouldn’t have 40 something thousand different denominations. We would all be submitted to Christ and look the same, right?

Jenna (35:52)
Yeah, I actually think that the complementarian position’s a little bit more about the unwillingness to let something be less structured than we would like. The unwillingness to sort of hold things with an open hand and say, we are all submitted to Jesus. Jesus is the head of his church. Jesus is building his church. But instead we want to create a structure that looks like the world. We want something hierarchal so that everybody knows what they’re supposed to do. We want to be able to follow rank and have this certain structure that makes sense to us.

And I think, the Bible just doesn’t really give us that. I don’t think that what you see in Romans 16 shows that that’s what there was, at that time. the fact is not even after a lot of persecution that you get a really structured church. And even at that point, you still see women doing that complementarians say that women can’t do today. That’s another thing that’s crazy to me. Just if you look at the history of the church, women have always been trying to do stuff. So this idea that it’s just only women today because of feminism. It’s only women now that are trying to do things that they shouldn’t do. Like throughout history women have just been completely satisfied serving men.

Yeah, there’s there’s so many different aspects that go into it that show it’s not just about what does the bible say because if we could all just like read the same bible and say well you know it says this it doesn’t say this that would be simple right but yeah people are bringing a lot of baggage into the whole discussion

Ruth Perry (37:04)
Yeah. So back to your seven passages, then you move to Genesis 3:16 and you talk about the fall. What do you say about that?

Jenna (37:25)
Yeah, so I think that the major thing to take away from Genesis is just the idea of created versus formed, and to see that the phrase created order needs to be examined, to see what’s actually there. But the Genesis 3:16, it’s crazy how one verse has so much baggage.

But the quickest, easiest thing to take away from that verse without going into the whole history of how it’s been mistranslated is that Paul read it a certain way. It’s different than what you see in most translations today. For the vast majority of church history, I think like for 1500 years, it said turning. It didn’t say, it didn’t even say desire.

Ruth Perry (38:08)
This is where it says your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over you.

Jenna (38:12)
Yeah, and also if you look at a Septuagint it says, she will be turning towards her husband. He will rule over her. And it’s a prediction, It’s just saying this is what’s going to happen. It’s not saying that he has to rule over her. I think the 2016 ESV actually changed it to your desire will be to control your husband or something like that. And then in the more recent, I think it’s 2025 or 2026, they updated it and went back to desire.

So I think almost every translation today says your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over you. And I think that’s fine, but you miss out on the parallelism. if you notice, if you leave it as turning, which is how Paul read it, there’s a reciprocal thing going on where he’s returning to the ground, which is where he came from. That’s what he was formed from. And she is turning towards where she came from.

So you get this idea of repentance almost. Now that there’s sin in the world, now there’s sin and death, the temptation for men and women is to turn back to where they came from, which is turning away from God. And the idea of repentance, at least in the Old Testament, the Hebrew shove, is like you’re turning. You turn to God and you turn away from sin. So, I’m a huge advocate for the idea that that should say turning. I was really moved when I realized that that’s definitely what Paul was looking at. And for most of church history, it has said that. But even if we leave it as desire, that is a crucial verse because complementarians are using that to say that he needs to rule over her. Prescriptive, not in a descriptive way.

And so you have to point that out that God’s not prescribing men to rule over women. That’s the product of the fall. That’s a negative thing. And the other reason why that verse is really important, I have a gigantic ESV study Bible and so it has a lot more footnotes than most Bibles do. But when I was reading the whole passage in First Corinthians 14 and it says, as the law says, my footnote in my ESV had reference to Genesis 3:16. So that means they were interpreting that passage as Paul quoting Genesis 3:16 to silence women.

I don’t know how prevalent that idea is among other complementarians, but it’s something to point out. Really, you think Paul’s quoting Genesis 3:16 and telling women to be silent or to be subject to men? I don’t know. I think that’s a crazy cross-reference.

Ruth Perry (40:37)
Yeah, on this side of the resurrection, we’re supposed to be living a new life and in a new kingdom. And, all of the results of the fall have been defeated.

Jenna (40:40)
Yeah. Yeah, my feeling is that that’s not that common of a view. I think most complementarians, would say, well, there’s headship before, but now it’s a distortion. He’s ruling over her and that’s a negative thing, not a positive thing. I mean there’s so many things that the ESV translation team did that were really a stretch, but to me that, to think that Paul’s quoting that, which means you’re making Genesis 3:16 a law.

And I think it is worthwhile to start with Romans 16, to see this is a really good representation of what was happening, what women did. Like we’re going to talk about women in ministry, let’s look at the passage that has a bunch of women doing ministry and then see what Paul is saying about it and how he seems to feel about it. And then to look at some of these other verses, that are quoting the creation account where they’re getting the idea of created order. Because if you go to interpret 1st Corinthians 11 or 1st Timothy 2, but you think that there was headship before the fall, you’re not gonna see what Paul’s saying, right?

Both of those passages tend to be the only ones that people talk about when they talk about women in ministry. And so many times that you’ll have a woman teaching or preaching or a video explaining the egalitarian position and there’ll just be a comment that is, say first Timothy 2:12. It’s basically like saying, shut up, but it’s a Bible verse reference used like a slap in the face, like a weapon to silence a woman. I don’t think you can really make headway with somebody that has that mentality, but it shows how contagious that idea was, is that Paul basically said women can’t exercise authority over a man. That idea became very contagious.

So I think the most succinct thing to bring up is does that word say exercise authority? And you can actually go to some of the older translations. So the King James version says usurp authority. I think there’s a translation that says domineer. So that’s the crux of the issue is was the woman doing a positive or a negative, because exercise authority is a positive thing throughout. That’s what you’re saying is men exercise authority if they’re a pastor or a leader in the church or exercising authority over men and women. So that’s a positive, but you’re just saying a woman’s not allowed to do that.

So you’re assuming authentein is positive. It’s not used anywhere else in the Bible, first of all, but I think to think that it’s a positive word, of course the ESV needed to translate it “exercise authority” in order to uphold their position. But the fact that they are not able to uphold their position using the older Bible translations should make you wonder. You couldn’t argue for a complementarian worldview just using the King James Version, at least not with this passage, because you’re like, yeah, of course a woman can’t usurp authority. Of course a woman shouldn’t domineer. Of course, nobody should authentein anybody.

Ruth Perry (43:36)
There’s a hermeneutical rule where you don’t make a blanket rule for the church from one verse or from one word like that. You should be able to verify it through the whole testimony of scripture.

Jenna (43:44)
Right, yeah, I have a list that’s like the 10 rules of Bible interpretation and I think I can’t remember the first name, but Gundry, or, there’s a list of scholars that put together a list and that sounds like one of the main points, but yeah, basically you’re not gonna argue for something using something obscure. And so just the simple fact that that word is not used anywhere else in the Bible noteworthy. I’ve never really heard complementarians give a good response to that.

Ruth Perry (44:18)
Or they’ll turn that into a rule for all times and all places, but then say, well, we don’t have to greet each other with a kiss for all times and all places though. Yeah.

Jenna (44:24)
Right? Right, yeah, Paul is giving a lot of personal advice, like bring my cloak back and drink a little wine for your stomach. And there’s all these like personal things and we don’t make doctrine out of it. But also the bigger picture of why is Paul writing to Timothy? What’s going on in Ephesus? Why does he feel the need to make sure this young pastor what these men and women need to be doing in worship because there’s directions for men and there’s directions for women and why in the world would you need to tell women that they’re going to be safe during childbirth? Like in Ephesus in the first century what could he possibly be talking about?

I think that the complementarian position is just so unsatisfactory for interpreting the entire passage because they give you no context. You know, why does Paul feel the need to point out that Adam’s formed first and it was the woman who was deceived. Why is he pointing that out? Is he talking about some women who are deceived? Is he talking about this idea that there’s somebody who’s superior because they were first, they were born first? So it’s like, what’s going on in Ephesus in the first century?

That verse needs to be in context of the whole thing about how the women are dressing and how they’re worried about dying and childbirth. And so, yeah, I think the way complementarians pluck it out and put it in this bullet point list of the nine proofs that men are in charge and to just lump it together with their statement about Paul says that the man was created first, which is them saying that he said something he didn’t. And it is mental gymnastics. It’s also just a really disrespectful way to use scripture.

Ruth Perry (46:05)
So we’ve talked about Romans 16, Genesis 2, and 316. We’ve talked about 1 Corinthians 11, 1 Corinthians 14, 1 Timothy 2:12. That’s six passages. That’s all I wrote down. What was the seventh passage?

Jenna (46:19)
This is probably the hardest one and it’s usually the one that I would bring up last, but you have to get into the whole one woman man thing. It’s in Titus, but I just focus on 1 Timothy 3. You’re already talking about Paul giving advice to Timothy, but there’s a whole section that usually has the chapter heading qualifications for leaders or qualifications for elders or overseers.

And you got this whole list of character qualities. And you have the sentence structure saying, whosoever. And then you’ve got all these male pronouns added in. And the only reason why they add the he’s in there is because they translate the idiom “one woman man” to “husband of one wife.” And that’s a terrible translation because those are different things, right? An idiom, an expression, like a one-horse town is an idiom.

If you told me you know that such and such town is a one horse town and I went there and I came back and I said there’s no horses there. You’d be like, we’re just saying it’s a small town. It’s the same idea. A one woman man is somebody who’s faithful, it’s a character quality and it fits in with that list that’s all character qualities.

And so because they translate that to one woman man, then they start adding in the male pronouns and make that entire passage about men when it’s whosoever. If anyone desires the office of bishop, if anybody stretches out their hand be a leader, that’s a good thing to desire. That is actually the Holy Spirit in you calling you to ministry. And so that passage is for men and women. A one woman man is a woman. So there is another scripture that talks about women like widows or single women. Sometimes I think in the New Testament, widow is not literally to mean that your husband’s dead. It can just mean that you are a single woman.

But there’s a passage that talks about the women who are one men women. So that would be useful to use that phrase, that idiom, if you were only referring to a group of women. But as soon as you’re referring to a group that’s men and women, you have to say a one woman man. That includes everybody. So part of the problem with interpreting this wrong, is not only does it disqualify a lot of people in the New Testament who were not married, and it makes Paul contradict himself, right? Because he actually has a few statements where, especially for women, he’s like, it might be better for you to stay single because you can serve the Lord with your whole heart. You won’t be having to take care of your husband.

I think in some ways, Paul encourages celibacy, especially for ministry, and ministry during persecution. this to like, now you have to be married. And then the idea that people were actually practicing polygamy, you have this culture in Rome where men were having sex with a lot of different people but they only had one wife. He’s not trying to say in order to be a leader you have to not be a polygamist. He’s not saying you have to be married, he’s saying you have to be faithful. And when you look at like the modern church in America there’s a lot of men who are in ministry and, look at the scandals that are coming out weekly, right? So-and-so cheated on their wife. So-and-so was, you involved in some kind of assault situation. According to the ESV’s interpretation of this passage none of these men are one woman man, but they’re all husbands of one wife. They’re all just married to one woman. So they’re qualified for ministry. You know, they’re not.

We should, as a church, interpret this correctly and understand that there is a character that is demanded of people who say, hey, I want to be set over others. I want to be in charge. I want to lead others. Like there needs to be a certain level of character that’s proven there and it’s not about gender.

Ruth Perry (49:57)
Yeah, I mean, it’s really weird just if you think about it, it’s really weird that people would be eligible for leadership because of their body and their equipment. That’s the least of our concerns. It is character and maturity and a life that displays the fruit of the Spirit. And that can be a man or a woman. We all have the Holy Spirit. We’ve all been given gifts. Your sons and your daughters will prophesy.

So if you’re a woman who’s grown up with this complimentarian point of view, but God has called you to something different, I just encourage you to explore more and read more and start at Jenna’s ministry, Ezer Bible. What is your website, Jenna?

Jenna (50:36)
It’s ezerbible.com and there’s a bunch of video courses that I’m putting together. I’m putting together basically guides that you can just print and use on your own, but you can also come into the community and go through a video course that has worksheets and printables and different resources. And the idea is that you would learn and then talk to other people.

I really wanted to learn from other people that are called to be teachers, but also people who are prophetic or evangelists or people who are pastoring. I guess I really view the people in the church as being the gifts, and so I want to be able connected with other people and community. So yeah, I really would like people to come and either follow me on social media or sign up for the free community and just get to know me better and get to learn the Bible better.

One of the things with the New Testament that I’ve put together over the years is that there’s all these things that women are, and they’re not things that women are really told. So like women are one woman men. Women are sons in the New Testament. And this gets into translation stuff, but I actually think you should leave it as sons and not make it sons and daughters. But the idea of sonship is is a huge principle in the New Testament. But women are men of God in the New Testament too, because the word men is anthropoid, it’s human of God. Women are fishers of men. There’s all these things.

I made a list one time of all the things women are in the New Testament. And it’s unfortunate that the way Christianity is presented to so many women is leaving out all these very deep theological concepts, even just the concept of where we have brothers, like the word Adelphoi in the New Testament. There’s some translations that just translate it to brothers and then some say brothers and sisters, but that Greek basically means, from the same womb. You have Christians who are all part of the community all born-again believers, they’re all of the same Spirit, they’re all following the same God. There is this word of unity that is used and I think that that’s been the biggest thing for me as a woman is just seeing all the things that the New Testament calls me that I normally would have excluded myself from.

Ruth Perry (52:42)
That’s awesome. That’s a great place to end for today, Jenna. Thank you so much for all your hard work and sharing your wisdom and your resources with us. And God bless.

Jenna (52:52)
God bless, thank you.


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018 I Rev. Dr. Marg Kutz on Stories that Propel Us Forward

I was delighted to talk with my Virginia United Methodist Church candidacy mentor, Rev. Dr. Marg Kutz, about her book “Nevertheless, She Preached“, which tells the story of the two first Virginia Methodist clergywomen and all of the obstacles and barriers they smashed in their ministry, paving the way for women to come after them. Marg herself was in the next generation of clergywomen and broke many barriers in her 39 years of pastoral ministry.

Marg’s process of researching and writing the book alone was fascinating to hear about. The Virginia UMC historical records say very little about the contributions and milestones of Rev. Lillian Russell and Rev. Mildred Long in their years of ministry, so it was really important for Marg to take her insider knowledge and experience to fully flesh out their contributions and the impact they had on their denomination.

Our conversation is saturated with stories that will amaze you. If you would like to have Marg speak with your church or book group, please contact her through her website, Nevertheless She Preached. She just released a brand new book about a Western Pennsylvania clergywoman, Clarie Settlemire. You can purchase her books here.

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TRANSCRIPT:

Ruth Perry (00:16)
My guest today is Reverend Dr. Margaret Kutz, a retired elder in the Virginia Conference of the United Methodist Church and my mentor for the VAUMC candidacy process. Welcome, Marg.

Marg (00:27)
Thank you. Thanks for having me this morning, Ruth.

Ruth Perry (00:30)
I’m delighted to have you. And I am so honored that they gave you as a mentor to me. In our conversation today, we’re going to talk about the book you wrote, “Nevertheless, She Preached” about the two earliest clergy women in the Virginia Conference their story and all of the barriers that they overcame in ministry. But one thing that really stood out to me as I was reading it and as I’ve known you just for a little bit and I’m new to United Methodist Church, I feel coming from the Baptist Church, which is so far behind even where the Methodist Church is, it’s been so amazing to me to just feel the lack of barriers. So I’m just really grateful reading this story, how far the UMC has come since not that many decades ago.

Marg (01:11)
Yes. Right? Yeah, it is good.

Ruth Perry (01:15)
Before we talk about your book, I don’t want you to jump to the parts of your story in your book, but can you take me back through your story, your faith journey as a child and into when you were called to ministry.

Marg (01:30)
I come from a large family. I have four brothers and two sisters, so there were seven of us. And my mother wanted us to grow up in the church, so she made sure we got to Sunday school when we were little. And then as we got older, that we also went to worship. So I had that early upbringing in the church. And I always liked church. I liked being there. There was a time in about sixth grade that I wanted to go to Sunday school, but I didn’t want to go to worship. So I went through that period about six months, but by and large, I enjoyed going.

And my earliest memory is really of, I was about three and I just remember having a conversation with God. So I guess, at the time I didn’t really know what I was doing. So I think that’s pretty significant if your earliest memory is of God. There must be some kind of path for you.

And then I was set on being a missionary. I felt called to be a teaching missionary in Africa and that didn’t happen because I met and fell in love with a man that wasn’t going to work with. So instead, I went to seminary and then became a pastor and did that for 39 years. And I eventually did become a teaching missionary in Africa, but it took me till 65 to do that. That’s another story for another day.

My ministry really comes through that call to missionary work, because then when it looked like it wasn’t going to work, then what was I called to, to sort of clarify that. And so the local church pastor felt like a fit. And I began to meet on campus some other women who were pastors. And that became more of a reality. In addition, in my own home church, there was one other person who came out of that congregation who went to seminary and went on to be ordained. And that was a woman named Clarie Settlemire. And I just finished a book about her. So I had that model as well. Somebody that was about a generation older than me, 17 years older than me, who had gone into the ministry, finished college and seminary and out of this little rural place that we both were from. And so that was a strong emphasis and for me as well.

Ruth Perry (03:27)
Can you tell my audience a little bit about struggle you had deciding between to the mission field and marriage to your husband?

Marg (03:36)
I can do that. We dated for some time and then we were engaged had the wedding, the date planned all of reconcile the two. So I just postponed the wedding and felt that was unfair. So then I gave the ring back. So it broke the engagement. And then I was a school teacher at the time. I finished college and was teaching school, because both the Peace Corps and the Mission Board said, get some experience in United States first teaching and then come back to us and apply again. So I was in the process of doing that.

I remember it was a morning and it was a snowy day, which it is in Western Pennsylvania. And I was driving to school and I heard an audible voice that said, “Marry Bob.” And I thought for sure it was coming from the back seats. Of course there was nobody there. And that’s the only time I’ve heard an audible voice from God. I felt nudgings and had calls in my sleep and such, but that was the first time in the daytime I heard that. So I waited two weeks, did the pros and the cons, and it just felt like, this is stupid. It just doesn’t make any difference. So I called Bob and said, you know, I had this, he said, well, I’ve been trying to tell you that for two years. So that was in February. We were married April 1st that year.

You know, once we got that sorted out, because we knew we cared about each other and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together, but I just couldn’t reconcile the other. So then I still had to figure out, so I did this, God, now what happens? And like I say, it was really in seminary that that became clearer to me that that’s what I was to do. And so did that. We’re married and still married, we’re coming up on 54 years. And we have two kids and four grandchildren.

Ruth Perry (05:14)
I love that story so much. And I thought as I was reading your book, Nevertheless She Preached, both and Mildred Long were unmarried. And it’s kind of sad that that was necessary for them to fulfill God’s call in their lives. And then I think there are a lot of challenges now for women to manage both a call from God and a family, we don’t have to regret that we didn’t have that opportunity either.

Marg (05:38)
It’s interesting to me, Ruth, that for a male clergy, it’s an asset to be married and In fact, a lot of churches don’t want to take a man who’s never been married. That just seems rather strange to them. So that’s an asset for them. But for women, it’s better to never married, no children. That worked better. And I would say it’s probably still very similar to that actually. Churches still prefer a man’s coming to be married with children and a woman not to have so many with family. So many commitments gets in a way.

Ruth Perry (06:09)
Can you introduce us to Reverend Lillian Russell and where she came from and how she came be a minister?

Marg (06:16)
Okay. Lillian was from Richmond and her family was really active in the church. I mean, that they sort of lived and breathed their church. So she grew up in that and, after she preached one time, a minister in the area said he had seen her do things with the youth. So a lot of youth would come and she would speak to them. And so he said, would you speak at my church? And she did. And then she was asked to speak at a revival. And that was going to be, you know, four or five sermons in a row to do that. And she did that at age 17 and people loved it because here was this teenage girl, petite little thing. I don’t know that Lily never weighed more than 120 pounds and she had this voice and this presentation, something to say.

So then she started being invited a lot and she became a full-time evangelist. Well, she wasn’t officially that, but she really was an evangelist in the Methodist church. And had preached for 17 years all over Virginia, Maryland, West Virginia, Pennsylvania, North Carolina, and she never drove. So her family had to support her in all of this and take her places and such. And I don’t know that she ever felt like she was going to pastor a local church, but there was a shortage of ministers with the war and she got a call from her district superintendent to go to a little church in Petersburg and to be the pastor there. She learned later that she sent there because they thought the church was going to close and they didn’t really want to waste that on a man.

So they gave it to this little petite evangelist, Lillian, to do it. Well, she stayed and she stayed and she stayed. She did her whole career there and the church grew and it became a really a vital church. Now they grew in numbers and in ministry and in passion for Christ. It was quite a ministry that she had there. And they came to absolutely love her.

Ruth Perry (08:03)
And then what is Mildred Long’s story?

Marg (08:07)
Mildred, came from a large family as did Lillian, but I think that wasn’t terribly unusual back then for people to have larger families before birth control and such. But Mildred came out of North Carolina and was looking for work and found a job at the mills in Dan River. And so she went to work there and they had it all set up for women to come in and have special places for them to live. And it was really interesting to learn more about that. I could have done three chapters on that, just the life there. And I think that really shaped her a lot. She was there for several years. And then somebody there spotted in her potential and they actually paid for her to go to college. So she dropped out of work with the Dan River mills and, and went back to college and she never quite finished. I couldn’t get all of the story on that, but my guess it had something to do with the war and things that were going on in her family, some deaths and that sort of thing. Anyways, so she came back to work at the mills and while she was there, she was real involved in the local church there and did a whole variety of things. Pastors there seemed to be really open to her knowing lots of things. she did that and she was noticed by her pastor, I think, not the district superintendent.

So he started a new church and then he asked Mildred to help him with that. And so he said, you know, as I move into another church, a logical person to appoint to this church plant, they didn’t call it that back then, but this church plant would be Mildred Long. So she got an appointment there. It was there about two years and then she got an appointment to another church. You know, people just began to see her ability. Now they were very different from each other, Ruth. They were both strong and Lillian could be fierce, but Mildred was fierce. And she ruffled some feathers. Lillian tended to sort of calm things, but Mildred was more likely to confront things. And their friendship meant a lot to them because they were the same age, born the same year, but Lillian was about 10 years in experience ahead of Mildred. So Mildred leaned on Lillian’s experience and they became friends through all of that. they were the only two.

Ruth Perry (10:12)
Do you feel you have anything in common with Lillian or Mildred, Marg?

Marg (10:16)
You know, I connected more with Mildred. There was a, I don’t know, there was a spiritual, both innocence and powerhouse in Lillian that I really admired, but I don’t see in myself. There was fierceness and a determination in both of them, but the way it got acted out in Mildred, I think, was more like how I acted out. A little more upfront.

Ruth Perry (10:37)
So you knew of them when you were coming into ministry and you had contacted them, which you write about, they actually retired the year that you were ordained, is that correct?

Marg (10:48)
They retired a couple years after I was ordained. I think in 79 and I was ordained in 77. So yes, two years. But I had never met them. And I wanted to get together of the clergy at conference for lunch. So I looked to see who all the clergy women were. I think there were five of us. so I asked, this was all written, know, and typed. And it was when we had carbon paper behind it. So it wasn’t, I shot an email out to them, but actually, you know, typed up a letter and sent it out to women to invite them. And it was Mildred that responded back to me and said that she had talked to Lillian and they decided not to come, that they really hoped that our experience would be different from theirs. And they didn’t want their experience to color or influence our own experience.

So I was sorry about that. Because at the time I was sort of peeved. then as I look back, particularly as I researched for this book, I was really sorry that I didn’t know them. And I think it really would have made a difference for all of the clergy women at that time to have known them, even if we had to hear their stories and all the things that happened to them. Once they retired, they sort of set it aside. They were interviewed by a woman, Kathy Morgan, who wrote the history of the United Methodist Women’s Society in Virginia. It was just a little booklet. So it’s maybe 50 pages, if it’s even that. And she had two pages on Mildred and Lillian. And how she did that was she interviewed them by mail. So she wrote them a letter with some questions and then they wrote back with their And they talked as if nothing of any consequence, there wasn’t wasn’t any blowback or pushback on them of any consequence. And I think that by that time they had gotten to the point was like, just letting this go. I don’t need to carry this banner anymore about the prejudice. But it was there. It was clearly there when you read their history. They may not have said it, but they lived it.

Ruth Perry (12:43)
You wrote your book in the genre of historical fiction, which was so beautiful because it really captured not just the facts of what happened, but the emotion and the impact in a really powerful way, I think, and really beautifully captured the culture of their age. Just the little particular things about their own personalities that I think wouldn’t have been conveyed as well, as So I really appreciated your approach to writing the book. And you said in the introduction, that God led you to write this through a dream. Can you tell me about that?

Marg (13:16)
This time I was retired and I had been thinking about writing my own story. People had encouraged me to do that. And so I was sort of thinking about that. Well, I have time now that I’m retired, maybe I could do this. I had a dream and the dream was to tell the story of Lillian Russell and Mildred Long. I mean, it was just plain and I knew even when I was having it that this was from God and that I was going to do this.

And I knew nothing about writing. I did learn that I’m not a good writer. But critique groups helped me tremendously. They were very patient with me. I was definitely the worst writer in the group. And they just sort of brought me in. The first chapter became the first three chapters. And then the first of those chapters, I took to the group three times. And the third time I said, now, when I say make these edits, you want me to bring it back to you again? And they said, no, they were tired of it. Move on. And I had started it as sort of a biography and then I didn’t like it. So then I made it biography combined with historical fiction. And the group said, you got to make up your mind. You can’t write a book that’s both. It’s got to be one or the other. And like you said, as I got to know the women, I wanted people to know them as people and not just the facts of their life. So that’s the reason I made it fiction so I could tell the conversations.

And oftentimes it would be either something I read or something that somebody told me in interview about them, either something that happened or a trait they had in their personality. And then I would create a scene or a story that would help convey that rather than just to write it in a paragraph or in a sentence. And that was fun to think about that. OK, so I know this about them. Like I know that Lillian Russell had to appear before the committee. So what must that have been like? What did people wear? Where would they have been? How would she be feeling? What was going on? And I could sort of refer back to my own experience as part of it, because even though I was a generation behind them, my experience, particularly early on in those first five to 10 years, was almost identical to theirs. Things had not changed much at all in that time period. And then they changed rapidly in the 70s and 80s with the women’s movement.

But up until then, really my experience was very similar to theirs. So I could fall back on my own experience and think about how I felt and what happened and what I saw in the men, either obvious or subtle.

Ruth Perry (15:35)
You clearly worked very hard, and I think you wrote excellently. I was just talking college minister in a previous episode and she quoted GK Chesterton, “Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly.” But I don’t think you did it poorly at all. I think it’s amazing and I really enjoyed reading it.

Marg (15:39)
Thank you. Yeah. I hear what you’re saying though. Yeah.

Ruth Perry (15:55)
I mean, their story is so important.

Marg (15:57)
It is, it is. And I think what makes the book interesting is them. It’s not the way I told it. It’s them. They were amazing people. And I came to what I felt sort of know them, you know, through all of this. And there were times, I remember one night my critique group met about 45 minutes from where I live. And on the north side of Richmond, and I live in the south side.

And so as I was coming back home, I was thinking about this because one of the men in the group said, as he was critiquing, they would read 10 pages and tell you what they thought. And he sort of pushed the paper back. He said, look, you don’t have a lot to work with here. So if this is going to be good, it’s got to be written really well. And it’s not. He said, I was like…

Ruth Perry (16:40)
Brutal!

Marg (16:44)
It was brutal. So when I went home that night, I was driving home talking to God saying, you know, these people deserve a really good book. So either I need to get out of the way for somebody else to write it, or I need to get out of the way for you to help me write it. So help me with this, God, if you really want me to do this, help me, because I want this to be a good book for them, because, you know, they really do deserve this. So it’s just a sort of a conversation, you know, if you I don’t know how people pray and listen to God, but I felt like God was trying to tell me how she was informing me and was sort of, listen harder and wait longer. Because I’d be like, why don’t I just do that and then to go forward with it. And she was saying to me, wait a little longer and listen a little harder. And then as I thought about it, I thought, that is true.

Because sometimes what the critique people tell me is exactly what I was thinking when I was writing it but I didn’t stop writing long enough to stop and listen and then to write as I was directed. So I thought God really is directing me in this. I’m just moving forward too fast and not listening enough. I don’t pretend that this is the Bible, but but it did cause me to think, I wonder what it’s like for the Bible writers, particularly like Paul or even the gospel writers telling a story. And we think about them being directed by God. And I just wondered if they had critique groups, you other disciples, you know, sort of this is what I remember how it happened. And maybe you should add this so the reader will see this. And so anyways, just thinking about how God has led people to write all kinds of things over the years from the heights, you know, the Bible to historical fiction and how that works. So I think God still words that are inspired by God, whether they be sermons or books or poems or hymns.

Ruth Perry (18:27)
Absolutely. Part of my own experience now in the United Methodist Church is that I came in completely blind. I knew nothing about polity. I knew some Wesleyan theology because I had already been licensed in another Wesleyan denomination. But I was brand new to all of the language of the Methodist Church, the structure, the politics of it, and it was very overwhelming coming in. So was grateful that they gave me mentors to help. But can you give a little bit of a crash course on the process of becoming a clergy person in the Methodist Church?

Marg (19:01)
So it starts with the local church. And if the person feels a nudging or a call, he or she talks to the pastor. And there’s some resources they can use, some books and such, to sort of walk through it. And if the pastor feels person has thought it through adequately, and it might take a week, it might take two years, and working through some of the resources.

Then has the person go before what’s called the Staff Parish Relations Committee. It’s sort of the personnel committee at the local church. And then they recommend or not recommend for the next step. And if they do recommend, then it goes to the church’s charge conference, which is sort of a group of their leaders. And if they recommend, then the next level, so now it’s done by the local church, the person who knows that person best.

And then it goes on to the district level, which is what the district superintendent overseas. And if they are approved for that, and there’s a lot of papers to write and interviews, and so it’s a long process for that, then they can recommend them for ordination. I guess it’s consecration and becoming a provisional member. When I came in, was ordination as a deacon and probationary membership. And now it’s provisional, but what’s the other? not a deacon anymore.

Ruth Perry (20:12)
Associate.

Marg (20:14)
Yes, associate. And when they’re brought into provisional membership, then they still cared for by the district, but then they’re eligible to be recommended to the annual conference. And then ultimately they’re on by a clergy session. So all the ministers in the conference vote on who gets to come in. And if they’re voted in, then they’re ordained and brought into full membership.

It’s quite a process, as you know. So there’s that polity side, but then there’s a whole education piece, know, with college and seminary or lay licensing school and all those in addition to this approval process through the ranks.

Ruth Perry (20:40)
So it’s good, they definitely equip their ministers, which is great. So and very affirmed in their local church their gifts were obvious had opportunities to local pastors that supported them. But what were some of the barriers that they started to encounter as wanted go through the steps of increasing their status in the United Methodist Church.

Marg (21:14)
Along with that, I found out through reading newspaper articles and Mildred was more likely to tell some of her story and as she was being interviewed, Lillian a little less so, but you could tell from they came through. For instance, when Lillian was appointed to the first church, it was because they thought she was going to close it.

And then when she went to seek some kind of status, because then she was just lay supply, which means at any moment that she could be out of there. There was no guarantee or security really in that position. So as she sought to have some level of status beyond lay supply, she needed to appear before the district committee. And what I read was that she was in the Richmond district and she was approved in a Rappahannock district. Now that didn’t make any sense because you would always be approved by your home district. And then they have the pastors listed for each of the districts, she was listed in the Richmond district. But the newspaper said that she was approved in the Rappahannock. So this is just one case that I did some investigation. And without the newspaper article, I wouldn’t have known any of this had happened.

But with that, then I went to a retired minister named Raymond Wren, who had been around then and knew Lillian Mildred. And at this point, he was over a hundred years old, but he had a really, really good memory. And so he talked to me about that. He didn’t know so much the particular stories of Lillian Mildred, although he knew of them and had met them. But he said, tell me who two district superintendents were. And I told him, and he said, yes.

So she had to leave her district to go to another district in order to find a district superintendent who would even allow her to appear before his committee. So she did, she was approved. And I remember going through those ropes young woman. And so again, I was able to sort of describe her experiences based on my own, how the men were, how their behavior was, what her response was, or trying to read the room. When I first came in, they wanted the minister’s wives to come with them for the interview. Now that just seems archaic now.

But that was standard then and my husband did go with me when I was first interviewed on the district for a deacon So when Lillian went she would have taken her father And her father was a big deal on the district, but now they’re on a different district. They’re not on the home district So he didn’t carry quite as much weight there as he had But just trying to navigate all of that as a young woman.

It was quite remarkable what she did and quite disappointing how the church was, just how much more it had to grow. I also found out, Ruth, that even though it was in the Discipline, it was not enforced. It was sort of like, well, you know, not all of us are on board with you girls, so you can go to this district because this DS thinks it’s okay to have a girl in ministry.

So there were some of that and that was happening in Mildred when she wanted to be brought into full connection, ordained an elder and brought into full connection. She was on one district. I think she was still in Danville then I’m not sure. But anyways but then she had to move and this was something she had written had shared in an interview for a newspaper article. That’s where I read that. The bishop moved her to a different district.

And my take on it was when she couldn’t get the DS to allow her to come and appear before the district committee, that Mildred probably called the bishop. That would be my guess, knowing what I know about Mildred. And the bishop said, let me move you this year. So she moved to a different district where the bishop knew there would be a district superintendent with who more amenable. So they didn’t enforce the rules. They just sort of worked around them because it was a boys club.

They didn’t want to come at each other. They wanted to do the right thing, but they didn’t want to hurt each other. So they just found other ways to do it. It was really hard for Lillian and Mildred and other women in the days that I came in to feel supported by the hierarchy. It just wasn’t there. The very first appointment I had when superintendent called me to tell me where I was going.

It was Round Hill and I said, well, where is that? He said, get a map and look it up. huh. So then he talked a little bit about it and then not much. And, cause I had been out of town and he said, I’ve been trying to call you. And this is, know, before voicemail and all that long time ago. and, and I said, well, I was in California. You shouldn’t travel during appointment season.

And I thought to myself, I didn’t even know there was an appointment season. But see, these were things that the men knew because they mentored each other. the women were totally kept out of those kinds of things. So I was scolded for that. And then he said, glad I’m going off the cabinet this year because I don’t ever want to have to appoint another woman again.

Yeah. So there were district superintendents, even though we were in there as, when I came in being eligible for Deacon, Elder and full connection, just all the rights and privileges the men had the district superintendents for not kept in line with the, with the same book that we all shared and they made a commitment to when they were ordained that they would support and uphold that Book of Discipline. And they, didn’t, and they weren’t held accountable to it. And the people that suffered were a lot of people, but

I was aware of the clergy women as separate as a result of that. The first district I went on was the Winchester district and Lee Schaefer was the district superintendent there. And he was brand new in that position. And I found out that really he made my appointment. He was invited as the new district superintendent to come in and sit on some of the appointment things. And, this is a story. They thought they were all done.

Now they use laptops, but then they had books, their appointment books. And so everybody had closed it up and Bishop Goodson said, well, I guess that’s it. Because it was long, know, our long arduous project process. And the district superintendent, the outgoing retiring district superintendent from that district raised his hand said, Bishop, I still have one church without a pastor. So they don’t open up their books. And so at that point, they’re thinking about appointing somebody that’s retired because it looks like everybody’s taken. And it was Lee Schaefer that says, Bishop, where’s Margaret Kutz gone? And he said, well, she’s going to go to Graham Road part time. And I was going to be part time there because they didn’t want me working after dark. It was just one of those things that’s like when the streetlights come on, all the kids and the associate pastor have to come inside because they’re not allowed out.

Anyways, so I was going to be part-time at a church because I couldn’t be out night and was going to my senior pastor told me a nice guy, but he told me said I don’t know really what I think about women in ministry, but my wife thinks it’s a good idea. So I thought I’d give it a chance. Anyways, so I knew there wasn’t going to be a lot of support there. So when Lee Schaefer found out where I was appointed part-time, he said, well, what about her? No, they would never take a woman. He said, well, let’s ask them.

So they called and they gave him a choice, apparently. I figured one was dead and the other one was nearly dead, or me. I don’t know if that really was true, but anyways, probably two retired people or me. And they said, well, we’ll take that woman. It was the president of the local bank that was chairing the committee, Mr. Cooley. As I came to know him, I thought I can see him being open to that. So that’s how I got that appointment. My district superintendent who supposedly made the appointment. I was the only woman he’d ever appointed and he didn’t want to have to do it again. Hard to believe, isn’t it?

Ruth Perry (28:21)
It really is. So at the end, the last few chapters of this book, you share pieces of your own journey you talk about a minister and pregnant and some of the terrible things that people thought about that, that they didn’t want to see someone behind the pulpit and know that they had done it.

Marg (28:32)
Yeah. Yeah. Yes, you can just tell she did it. And there’s teenagers in the congregation and they’ll know she did it. You know, that and women are naughty.

Ruth Perry (28:38)
and just archaic ideas. So I was thinking about Lillian being posted at a church that they thought only had about two years before it would close. And the idea of the glass cliff that oftentimes when an organization is sinking, that’s when they give a woman an opportunity. And it’s not just an opportunity to lead, but it’s also kind of like putting the woman in a scapegoat position where they can criticize her and blame her. Yeah.

Marg (29:07)
See, we told you. Yes, yeah, we told you. I remember one time I went to a district superintendent saying, I’d like to be considered as a church planter, know, a pastor who would be particularly trained to start new churches. I always thought that a lot of work, but I thought it would be a lot of fun. And he said, I don’t know. He said, you know, we had a woman try it and it didn’t go well. When I knew who she was, I’d went on to seminary with her and a fine minister, really gifted. Anyways, and I said, So if you ever have a male minister try to start a church and fail and he said, yes. And I said, well, what are you going to do if you can’t ask men and you can’t ask women? He was like, Because he’d do such a broad brush for women and a little tiny hair brush for the man. So there was all of that, what you’re talking about send her to the place that is almost impossible. And then say, see, we told you not only that she can’t do it, any of her kind can’t do it. The whole broad brush thing.

Ruth Perry (30:04)
So can you tell me a little bit about the 1979 annual conference how that was a pivotal of mantle passing between Lillian and Mildred and future generations?

Marg (30:13)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Lillian Mildred born the same year, but they didn’t come into ministry the same year because Lillian was the head of Mildred. But they retired the same year, 1979. They were both 65 and retired in 1979. And so when I went back and looked The Advocates of the historical records, the magazine for the annual conference, I looked at what was going on that year. And it really was a pretty big year for several levels, but the year that they retired should have been noted that the two earliest clergy women are retiring and there was of course nothing. But then it listed the people that were ordained that year. And that was also the year that they elected delegates to general and jurisdictional conference.

So it tends to be a really heated session, very competitive and the way it works and you have caucuses that, you know, supporting different people and And the clergy women were just trying to figure out how to influence that vote. We hadn’t quite figured it all out yet, but we did eventually. And truly we changed the face of General Conference from the Virginia side totally. And did it for some years, which really puzzled and frustrated other people who thought they knew how to do this. But anyways, we came up with a different strategy and overcame the biases.

So that year people were contesting for General Conference and they needed one more delegate from Virginia for General Conference. You had to have a majority, but there were three that were elected on the last vote. Usually they reduced how many were needed to elect as they went on. They were trying to wrap up annual conference. They would say, okay, now you only have to have so many to be elected.

So these were these three people. One of them was Jim Turner, the guy that told me, you know, I’m glad I don’t have to point another woman. But anyways, he was elected to General Conference. But the person that really stood out for me was Leigh and Teen Kelly. She was an African American woman, a whole generation older than me. She was just a year younger than my mother. And Leigh and Teen, and she was ordained the same night I was, you know, in order, Kelly and then Kutz.

But anyways, Leontine Kelly, then she went on not only to represent Virginia at General Conference, but she went on and was elected a bishop. She was not elected from the Southeast. They would not elect her. So she got on a plane out of, out of North Carolina and, flew to a place out West. can’t remember now the name of the city where they were having their own. jurisdictional conferences they were all held at the same time. And she was elected there. These people didn’t even know her.

But they knew of her and she went from group to group, you know, and introduced herself, talked about they asked her questions. And so when it was time to vote, they voted for this woman who had just showed up at their jurisdictional conference. It was it was truly an act of God, truly an act of God. So so there was that with Lillian teen Kelly and they probably didn’t even know her. And then Cynthia Corley was ordained that night and she was the first

female district superintendent appointed in Virginia and in the whole Southeast. There were three of them appointed the same year. So she was one of the three first. And none of us knew that this was how it was going to play itself out. But you know, Elisha asked for a double portion of Elijah’s. And I think that was what it was. It was two of them and they both gave a double portion. And here we had two history making things happening as they passed that mantle. So you think about the power that they carried in their mantle. And when they passed it on, the power that then was spread and shared with the, what do you call your blog, the peaceful kingdom kind of thing.

Ruth Perry (33:47)
Yeah, the beautiful kingdom.

Marg (33:48)
Beautiful kingdom. and they they became part of that. So lots of times we are part of what the Spirit’s doing and have no idea Have no idea that what I’ve what we done and they didn’t know they were retiring. They didn’t know they were doing anything, but they did. And the spirit took that and wrapped it up, their mantle up, parted the waters, and through they came.

Ruth Perry (34:11)
Praise God. And then you were the first woman that served on the Board of Ordination. Can you describe what that experience was like, Marg?

Marg (34:20)
It was really hard. It was really hard. The only time in my life that I actually had allergic reaction to anxiety was there. Something had happened in one of the interviews that was totally wrong and it happened to a friend of mine and as a result of that she wasn’t approved and they had there was.

confidential information that wasn’t true, confidential information that wasn’t true that they went and intentionally told each of the committees before she got there. So each time that she went into one of the interview committees, they confronted her with something that was none of their business. It was confidential and wasn’t true. And then they wondered why she came across as sort of angry and she wasn’t approved. And

I wanted so much, because she was a friend in particular, but it was awful that I couldn’t help her. And I didn’t know how to do it. It was so much bigger than me. I remember leaving, going back to my room, they had a birthday party for one of the guys and they wanted me to bring in a cake and they one of Dolly Parton’s songs. And it was the whole thing was just, you know, the men are hooting and.

with this old guy that I don’t know, he’s celebrating his 70th birthday or something. Anyways, because I was young, so everybody seemed old to me then. So there was all this guy stuff going on, and I was just carrying this burden for my friend. And I remember going up to my room and crying and calling her after I knew that she had been informed to apologize to her that I didn’t know how to make it right. And then I went directly from there to a clergywoman’s retreat.

And every time I tried to tell the story, I couldn’t breathe. I had to stop talking. Like I said, was the first time I’ve had an allergic reaction like that. I was just closed up and I couldn’t talk. I was made mute.

So that was the worst thing that happened, but it was difficult. We didn’t require inclusive language then. In fact, most of the guys didn’t know what it was. But if somebody came through, a candidate came through and they had used inclusive language in their paper, I just thanked them for it. I said, I noticed you did that and just want to let you know I appreciate that. And some of the other guys on my interview team would apologize for me.

And I said, you don’t have to apologize for me. If they used it, clearly they appreciate it. So you don’t have to say anything, you know? But by the time I left, I had made a motion to require inclusive language in all papers. So I thought, OK, this is a test to how well I did here, see if this passes. And the chair said, Margo, I really want this to pass. I think you need to make it recommend rather than require. I said, mm-mm. I’m going with require.

Let’s just see what happens. And it was approved, not unanimously, but it was approved to require inclusive language on all papers. And I thought, okay, I have come and I found a place for myself and I’ve made a difference and now I’m leaving. I’ve been here seven years and I’m going to leave. But that was an affirmation that I’ve done a few things right anyways. Had earned some crud on the board.

Ruth Perry (37:11)
Where do you see that Virginia needs to continue advancing in their inclusion and treatment of women and minorities? And where do you think we need to improve?

Marg (37:21)
Mm-hmm. I do think that ethnic women in particular really need some attention. There was a time when we had very few Korean pastors, male or female, in the conference. And then just a whole lot came to the board of ordained ministry. And my thinking was that we needed to look to see what God was doing to say, you know, why are all these Koreans coming out? Why is God sending them to the Virginia conference?

And is there supposed to be a specialized ministry that we’re supposed to be doing? Because also a lot of Koreans were moving to Virginia. But instead of doing that, they tried to find a way for them to fit into what we already have. You know, how do we how do we appoint them? Well, let’s just point them with no bias, just as if they’re Anglo. Let’s just move forward with that. So there was no preparation for the pastors nor for the congregations because I think they thought the best way to avoid bias is to pretend there isn’t any. And so it was really difficult. And the women really struggled because in their own Korean culture, they were a step behind the women, I would say, in the United States in terms of recognition. So they had their own bias coming out of their own culture. And then coming into the church and being both female and Korean, they were really hurting and felt really invisible. So that one, and I also think Hispanic and African-American.

The race issue becomes secondary every time another one comes up. So when it women and, you know, race came second and then other things happen. Now it’s LGBTQ and then race is second. And so we’ve made great strides and with women and some ethnic groups and certainly great strides with LGBTQ plus, but we still have a ways to go, I think, with our ethnic groups. the women’s movement has notoriously been about white women. And we need to change that. And I think the women need to come together and the white women need to sort of shut up and do more listening to our sisters who are Black, Latino, Asian, and listen to what they have to say and see if there’s some way that we can back them up and help.

Ruth Perry (39:31)
So on Wednesday, I was participating in a Zoom talk about your book that you were invited to do at the conference. And it was striking that no men signed up to participate and hear from you. Have you experienced a lot of feeling ignored or accepted by your male colleagues or has that mostly been a marginal experience for you?

Marg (39:52)
I think, no, there have been some that have read the book and most of them are acquaintances. So I think they read it as much because a friend of theirs wrote it. But I’ve been invited to a lot of groups to speak about the book, know, women’s circles are, but it’s all always either been the whole church, the whole congregation, like on a Sunday morning, or it’s been just a women’s group. have yet to be invited to a men’s group.

I was invited to one clergy group and I asked, it was Drew Colby that did this and I asked Drew if he would do it. I wanted to see what happened. And so he brought them together. had not read the book, but anyways, it was a good discussion. That’s the only one I’ve had, but that was because I asked somebody to do it.

Somehow history, just history, which is really history that the white men write. And I don’t mean anything against white men, but that’s just sort of the reality that we live in. That that’s for everybody. But then if you have Black history, that’s only for Blacks to hear about. And if you have women’s history, that’s just for women to hear about it. But we need to hear the whole history.

I don’t know what you do with that, Ruth.

Ruth Perry (40:52)
Absolutely. Well, I think calling it out is a place to start and just bringing awareness that we need to listen to each other.

Marg (41:00)
Mm-hmm.

Ruth Perry (41:00)
I was kind of sad towards the end of the book reading about Lillian and Mildred’s retirement years. Lillian especially seemed very lost without her ministry. And just the contrast between their retirement and your own retirement, you’ve never stopped. You’re still going, going, going, and you’ve had amazing opportunities. Can you tell us about the school in Africa that you, and you finally made it to your missionary dream.

Marg (41:25)
Yeah. I heard the call at 18 and finally at 65 was there. So when I was at a church in Williamsburg, Wellspring in the 1990s, we sponsored two of the Lost Boys of Sudan. It was actually the year 2000. And then when I moved from Williamsburg over to another appointment near Richmond in 03, kept my relationship with them, but particularly with one of them named Angelo. And it was amazing what he did with his life. He got his GED and his associate’s degree and his bachelor’s degree and eventually his master’s degree. He got married and he and Stephanie have three children. And so there was all these things that he had accomplished, but one of the things he always wanted to do was to reach back. He always wanted to go back home and help the people there.

And he knew that he was saved. He would say this, I would say for a purpose bigger than myself. And he knew that it was about helping the people in South Sudan. So we organized a team and then it became a committee and then it became a nonprofit. And for a while it was part of the conference and now it’s not, it’s a separate nonprofit. And the idea was to start a school. And so we hired somebody over there to do it it just wasn’t getting done. wasn’t getting done. And I just knew that I needed to go and I know nothing about this. So I don’t know why I thought I was the person that needed to go there, but I did and went with a good friend. Well, she wasn’t a good friend at the time. I barely knew her, Bev Neeland. We’re good friends now, but she and I went together with Angelo. He stayed two weeks and then we stayed almost three months while we were there. And we went back to his home community called Roombaek and the director was there. His name was Philip.

And what’s amazing, Ruth, is that we were in Roombaek for a week and the Monday of the second week we were in a classroom teaching. Now, no human being can do that. That’s the thing of God, because people would say, well, how did you do that? I said, I have no idea. We just showed up and God did the rest. So there I was teaching in Africa, finally.

And I’ve had people say, wasn’t that like sort of a glorious angel singing, moment, you know, with that happening. And I said, no, was so freaking hot. The sweat was just dripping off my chin. I didn’t feel any angels at all. It was fun, you know, but it was really hot. Yeah, too hot to know the angels. It felt more like, I think angels like air-dishing. I think it’s the other end that likes the heat. But anyways, but it was, to me, I guess the phrase that kept coming back to me was, God remembered. Well, it’s sort of like, of course God remembered, but to me it was like, God remembered that word to me. Anyways, it was powerful for me in that sense, that all those years that God honored that, all I had to do was show up and that God gave me an opportunity to teach.

We taught for awhile and then we hired some teachers and they were way better than us, partly because they could understand them and teachers could understand the students. And then we set about setting up a school, you know, doing what we needed to do. Set that up and then we came back home so we could raise money to pay the teachers that we had just hired. And now this school is called Bukloi, which in the native language of Dinka, it means yes, we can. We started with about 35 students and now we have over 700. And it’s considered one of the best schools in South Sudan and one of the largest.

Ruth Perry (44:46)
Wow.

Marg (44:48)
Yeah, pretty amazing. And I’m totally out of it now. I mean, I, you know, continue to support it, but I’m on on the border. I don’t go anymore. I made my last trip when they celebrated their 10th anniversary when they began. But there were many years where we had enough to pay people for a month if we spent everything we have. So we did. We just spent it all and just hope the next month somehow more money would come in to pay the teachers again for another.

Ruth Perry (44:49)
Congratulations, that’s amazing.

Marg (45:15)
We had months that we didn’t have enough and we paid the teachers what we could and told them we probably will never make this up because we’re running really tight. But they hung in there and they stayed with us. And we still have, I think, one teacher from that very beginning time. Maybe two, I think it’s just one now. Pretty amazing.

Ruth Perry (45:33)
Marg, can you put your mentor hat on and speak to young women like myself who are starting out in ministry and give us some of your best from your decades in ministry ahead of us?

Marg (45:44)
If this is what you’re called to do, there is no greater life than you can live to do this. I mean, there’s times that it’s just frustrating and demoralizing and makes you angry. But in the end, it’s amazing what God lets us do. I think about that we get to proclaim the good news of Jesus to people who are sitting there and listening. And we get to do that.

And then when we visit people, they open up their lives to us and tell us things that we get to enter into people’s stories and to walk with people through all of that. It’s to me, it’s just such a wonderful privilege. Certainly it comes with all the challenges and but but to never lose sight of the beauty of what we do and a power of it. Not just political power, but spiritual power and the life power. That’s what I would say, Ruth

Ruth Perry (46:32)
Where can people find information about your fiction?

Marg (46:38)
Okay, I have a website called neverthelessshepreached.net .com and dot org were taken. I got dot net. Nevertheless, she preached dot net and you can get a hold of me through that and I’d be glad to speak with your group. If you want me to do it in person, I can do that or I could do it via zoom or whatever. I have had some book clubs read the book and then I would come in. I’m in a book club and I think it’s wonderful to be able to have the author come in and be able to ask questions and share stories and such with that person. So anyways, I’d be glad to do that or speak to a group of those like me to do that.

Ruth Perry (47:14)
Thank you so much for all the time that you’ve spent with me. I think you were to be my mentor for a year and a half, and we spoke monthly. And you were just always so generous and encouraging and uplifting. And always felt affirmed in my calling by you. And I can’t tell you how and impactful that was for me. And so thank you for that.

And I just want to give you the last word before we sign off.

Marg (47:38)
Praise be to God, we worship an amazing God.

Ruth Perry (47:42)
Amen. Thank you so much for coming on the podcast today Reverend Marg.

Marg (47:47)
Okay, thank you Ruth. And you are an amazing pastor, very gifted, and you have much to contribute to the the reign of God.

Ruth Perry (47:55)
Aw, thank you. Blessings to you.


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