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oo5 I Dr. Roy Ciampa on Paul’s Household Instructions in Ephesians 5

My guest this week is my former Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary professor, Dr. Roy Ciampa, whose transformative class, Ephesians in Depth, has stayed with me over the years as my faith has grown and changed. In this conversation, we discuss the theological implications of Paul’s writings, the cultural context of the Greco-Roman world, and the significance of mutual submission in relationships. Dr. Ciampa shares insights from his academic background and teaching experiences, emphasizing the importance of understanding scripture in its historical context. The dialogue highlights the beauty of God’s love and grace, encouraging listeners to reflect on their own faith journeys and the role of women in ministry.

I think my favorite thing Dr. Ciampa said to me, was that Ephesians was “written in the key of worship.”

Dr. Ciampa mentions a document he compiled to help students understand first century Greco-Roman views of women and marriage, beginning with Old Testament and Classical Greek texts up through the time of the New Testament, so that NT texts might be better understood in light of the developing contexts. You can read that insightful document here. And find more of Dr. Ciampa’s scholarly writings on his website, viceregency.com.

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Transcript:

Ruth Perry (00:16)
This is a new thing for me and I appreciate you being one of my very first guests, Dr. Ciampa.

Roy Ciampa (00:22)
Well, I’m honored to be invited and hope this will be helpful to people.

Ruth Perry (00:26)
What I’m hoping to share on my podcast for my first season is I’m going to go back and have conversations with people who helped me as my faith has shifted and changed over the last 20 years. Because my background is very conservative, complementarian, traditional, But it’s changed a lot over the years through crises of faith and through cognitive dissonance that’s happened and different things that have gone on. And I’m just really grateful that my faith has remained strong because I’ve encountered people like you who’ve helped me to reimagine my faith and think about things differently.

Roy Ciampa (01:04)
That’s nice to hear.

Ruth Perry (01:04)
And so at the time that I had you as a professor, I was a complementarian student, pretty committed to that perspective. And I was an educational ministries student at Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary. And I think that I took Ephesians as one of my core theology classes. And it’s the only class that I encountered you as a professor. But looking back on my seminary experience, I really loved that class so much and the book of Ephesians has just remained my favorite book of the Bible.

And I’m really grateful that I had that experience because I didn’t have to learn Greek or Hebrew in seminary as an education student. And this was the only class where we really went through word by word and you taught how to parse Paul’s Greek into English and how to make sense of his run on sentences and you taught the importance of understanding the context of the passage. And I just learned so much from you. And so I’m really excited to talk about that with you today. But I thought before we get into that, I would like to know more about you. I don’t really know what your faith formation was like, your background, where you’re coming from. If you’d like to just go back and tell us a little bit about your own spiritual journey.

Roy Ciampa (02:15)
Sure, I’d be happy to. I grew up in an nominal Christian family. We went to church about once a year because my grandmother wanted us to. I was confirmed in a Congregational church when I was, I suppose, a young teenager. But it didn’t really mean much. I never really understood anything about the Bible.

I came to faith when I was in my first year of college, I owe it, a large part of it, I owe, I think, to next door neighbors who moved in when I was in middle school. Wonderful, dedicated Christians, the Monk family, and they had two sons, one a year older than me and one a year younger, Robert and Stuart. And the whole family just modeled for me, a wonderful Christian faith and love. And so they took me to evangelistic events.

But I didn’t think that I thought I was a Christian. I remember sitting during one, in a roller skating rink while somebody was speaking and we had our heads down and I’m saying that this isn’t for me. I’m already Christian. They’re not talking about me. I’m a Christian. Anyway, it was my first year of college. Some guys shared the gospel with me and I realized that this was the message that had transformed their lives and their family and I realized it was true and I was in need of it and so I trusted in the Lord and I was baptized, came to faith, I was discipled.

But I was in a very conservative context. I was listening to the guys that discipled me had me listening to some fundamentalist preachers. John R. Rice wrote a book I Am a Fundamentalist and after a year I felt like God was calling me into ministry and I went to Jerry Falwell’s school at the time was called Liberty Baptist College for a year. And then after a year there I transferred to Gordon College where I did my undergraduate degree.

By the time I graduated from Gordon College, well certainly I was no longer a fundamentalist, was I would say mainstream evangelical and probably still conservative on women’s issues but very open to other ways of understanding that issue.

I don’t really remember at what point, if it was near the end of my college experience or beginning of my seminary experience, I went to Denver Seminary, had some great mentors there. And I know while I was at Denver Seminary, I became a convinced egalitarian.

And that came out of various kinds of experiences. Part of it was coming to have a much better understanding of the world in which the New Testament was written, and especially Paul, in the context of his letters and the things that he says about women, among other things. And part of it was just understanding more broadly what theology would say about how I should relate to my own wife and other women as well.

But maybe we’ll get around to that later. After seminary, my wife and I were appointed to go overseas and we had two kids by then and we took our kids and we went to Portugal where I trained pastors. And overall, our time in Portugal span about 12 years, and in the middle of that, I spent a couple of years in Scotland doing my PhD.

I had wonderful time training pastors and Christian leaders in Portugal, worked with the Bible Society there to help with their contemporary Portuguese translation of the Bible. And then I was invited to go teach at Gordon-Conwell in 2001. So I taught the New Testament studies at Gordon-Conwell from 2001 to 2014. At a certain point became the Chair of the Division of Biblical Studies there.

And then after or 13 years there, I went and worked for four years for American Bible Society, training Bible translators and Bible translation consultants around the world. I still taught for Gordon Conwell on weekends while I was doing that, but my main gig was training Bible translators and Bible translation consultants. So that was a great experience, but I missed the full-time academic community.

So in 2018 I accepted the invitation to take on the role of Chair of the Religion Department which soon became the Department of Biblical and Religious Studies at Samford University in Birmingham, Alabama. But.

In 2024, I retired and moved back to New Hampshire, which is where my wife and I had had a place for a while, and it’s our happy place. And so I’m now a professor emeritus at Stanford University, and I teach a course a semester for Gordon Conwell. I’m teaching Interpreting the New Testament for Gordon Conwell on Thursdays right now. So I mean, that’s that’s more than you wanted, probably, but that’s kind of the overview.

Ruth Perry (06:38)
No, that’s great. Congratulations on retiring and then continuing your work.

Roy Ciampa (06:44)
Thank you. Well, there’s lots of what I’ve done that I love. I’m still writing books and articles and teaching one day a week scratches that itch. so it’s fun.

Ruth Perry (06:53)
I’m a Gordon College graduate myself. I was a music major there and the reason why I decided to study music was because I loved the church and I wanted to be in ministry and that’s where I saw women serving in the church. So I studied music and then I decided to go to Gordon Conwell in 2003 when I graduated from Gordon College because I still loved learning so much and I wanted to continue learning and in my conception of my ministry life, I always conceived myself as just being in volunteer ministry in the church. And that I would be a pastor’s wife, likely, or a missionary’s wife. I really wanted to live overseas. I went backpacking through Europe while I was in college, and Portugal was my favorite. I loved Portugal.

Roy Ciampa (07:41)
It’s a great country.

Ruth Perry (07:41)
And so I would have liked to have been a missionary or a musician, but those were really the only two ideas that I had in my brain that a woman could do in the church. I knew that I loved the church more than anything and I really wanted to serve the church. So that’s what brought me to Gordon-Conwell and brought me to your classroom. And it sounds like it was early on in your teaching there.

Roy Ciampa (08:00)
Yeah, it was early on at Gordon-Conwell. I taught for a number of years in Portugal, but that was in my early years at Gordon-Conwell, yes. And I remember that course called Ephesians in Depth, as I recall.

Ruth Perry (08:09)
It was in depth for sure. Yes. I remember we went word by word and we would, I can’t even remember how to explain what you did with us in the class. I was trying to find my class notes because I know that they’re in my basement somewhere. But I remember we parsed every sentence and figured out what the structure was. And you really brought it.

Roy Ciampa (08:29)
Ha

Ruth Perry (08:37)
It was hard work and it brought the book to life for me.

Roy Ciampa (08:41)
That’s so kind of you to say. I’m grateful to hear that.

Ruth Perry (08:43)
And it’s such a beautiful book. Ephesians, it just, the words that come to mind when I think about Ephesians is, Paul keeps talking about peace and love and unity and the power of the Holy Spirit and all the blessings that we’ve received from God. And it’s just such a beautiful theological grounding of then why we should follow Christ and live in a way worthy of the calling we’ve received.

And so I don’t know how much you want to talk about Ephesians itself before we get to the household codes in Ephesians 5. But what I really want to talk with you too for my Beautiful Kingdom Builders audience is the context of the book of Ephesians and what was going on in the cultural world at that time that would have helped the people who are hearing Paul’s message in that day understand it maybe differently than we understand it today.

Roy Ciampa (09:35)
Well, yeah, there’s a lot to talk about. So many different aspects of it. And I think one of the things, actually in our church, we’re in a small group right now that’s going through Ephesians. And so it’s been kind of fun to do that in a church Bible study again. But one of the things I think that’s key to Ephesians, you just have this joyful, kind of, I would say worshipful kind of tone to the whole thing.

Many people have pointed out that the letter has a different style than most of Paul’s letters. It has these kind of run-on sentences and these kind of complicated sentences. There’s lots of what we call pleonasms where you could say something simply, but in a pleonasm you could put up two or three different ways of saying it within the same sentence. So over and over again Paul will say we have kind of this blessing of redemption, the forgiveness of our sins. And it’s like, well, those are two different ways of talking about the same thing, or he’ll talk about within one line, he does this a couple of times in the opening part of Ephesians, that everything’s happened according to God’s purpose and his will and his choice. It’s like, well, those are just three different ways of saying God did what he wanted to do.

And I’m reminded that, We find examples of this in various contexts. We find it in poetry and we find it in worship music. An example I typically use is the song Majesty, Worship His Majesty. And if you go through that song over and over again, it finds different ways to say the same thing in new words. Kingdom authority, majesty, kingdom authority, so exalt, lift up on high. Those are two different things, they’re not. Exalt, lift up on high, the name of Jesus. Magnify, come glorify. What’s the difference between magnifying, it’s all the same thing.

Singing this is just a worshipful, excited, rich, different way of expressing yourself. And Paul begins the letter with what’s called a Jewish Baruchah, which in Hebrew would be blessed, be like Baruch HaTah, Adonai Eloheinu, blessed as the Lord our God. he starts out, blessed is the…

God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every blessing in Christ. And so I think the style is different and I think it’s different for a purpose because Paul’s wanting to express his theology in a very worshipful almost liturgical kind of way.

And it’s remarkable that he’s doing that while he’s under arrest. He says he’s in chains, which reminds us of Acts of course, when they’re imprisoned in Philippi and they end up singing songs and praising God in prison. And here Paul is, he’s in prison and he writes a letter and he writes it in the key of worship. And partly that’s because just who Paul is and partly because he’s writing to readers who are Gentiles, who are so far away from where Christianity began in Jerusalem and Judea. And they’ve got to be thinking as Gentiles, like their spiritual leader is now in prison and could lose his life.

What does this mean? Have they gotten themselves messed up with something they shouldn’t have? Has a train gone off the rails and they’ve got to be concerned about Paul. They’ve got to be concerned about what all this means. And here’s Paul, he writes from prison, he’s like, God’s plan is working itself out in this wonderful way and it’s such a blessing to me to be a part of this. let’s praise God for all the blessings that we have. And let me just list off some of these blessings for you.

And it really is, I think, meant to reassure the readers that… the train hasn’t gone off the rails, that God is in charge, that everything that they’ve experienced is part of God’s plan of redemption and of reconciling Jews and Gentiles together and to God, and that Paul is not at all, know, fretting or depressed or himself concerned that something’s gone wrong because he’s in prison, but he sees God’s hand in all of this. So I think that’s a, for me, that’s a very important part of the background.

And then you have to be careful because I’m tempted to try and lecture my way through a whole semester’s worth of stuff on Ephesians in one little conversation. But I do think, you know, that most people recognize that two halves of the letter have different tones and sometimes they describe the first half as doctrine and the second as practical teaching.

But an important key is that it’s not just that Paul decided to talk and discuss theology for a while and then look at his watch and said, well, that’s maybe enough theology for them. Maybe I should give them some practical stuff. And so let me talk practical stuff for a while. But the theology underwrites the practical part. That is, the theology, the first part is there to support everything he’s going to tell the church that they ought to be doing.

And the second part, they are organized organically related to each other. And the whole first part is about God’s grace, his mercy, his love, how he hasn’t treated us the way we deserve when we were, you know, children of wrath by nature. He hasn’t treated us that way, but he’s shown us love and mercy and grace and blessing upon blessing upon blessing. And then we get in the second half of the letter. And in my understanding, the second half of letter is primarily all about imitating God.

And so we get that theme early on how we should be imitators of God. We shouldn’t live like the Gentiles live. That’s one of the themes. But we should be imitators of God. And then he talks about how God has shown his love to us in Jesus Christ who gave himself for us and his love for us. And so we have sections that talk about how we should be one, united together as one body.

And then we have material talking about how we should and love and we should walk in the light and then later how we should walk in wisdom and then finally the last part is where we should put on the full armor of God and we look at those things they come what do these things have in common being one walking in love and light and wisdom well love and light are two main attributes of God God is love God is light

And then wisdom is another very well-known attribute of God, the all-wise one. And there’s large sections of scripture dedicated to wisdom and Proverbs 8 and elsewhere. And that’s understood to be an attribute of God. And then you think,

When we walk in love, we’re imitating God. When we walk in light, we’re imitating God. When we walk in wisdom, we’re imitating God and His wisdom. And then you realize that the full armor of God we’re supposed to put on is not just armor that God gives us, but the Old Testament background tells us this is the armor that God puts on. He puts on a helmet of salvation. He puts on a breastplate of righteousness. When he goes and he fights spiritual battles for his people. So even when we put on our spiritual armor, we’re still imitating God.

That earlier part about being one, it’s like, that’s right, God is one. So when we’re one, you there’s one God, one Lord, one baptism, and when we act as one, we’re also imitating God. So one of the greatest ways we imitate God then, when you understand the relationship between the first half of the letter and the second half, is by treating other people the way he’s treated us.

He hasn’t treated us as he could have, but he treated us with love, with mercy, with grace, over and over again. And this ends up becoming very important for, as you referred to, the household codes, because they’re a main theme is about how people in charge with authority treat people that in that culture were under them, wives were under their husbands and children under the parents and slaves under their masters. And so one of the main themes that comes out there is, again, the emphasis tends to be on the person with power, treating the one with less power with grace and mercy and not being harsh with them. But I mean, that raises all kinds of other questions about why do we have household codes and what’s this about?

We’re talking about household codes, we’re talking about slaves and masters. And we don’t have slaves and masters in our household. We think of those as something outside the family. You get your family, and then you get your employees or other people. But of course, that was part of the family. But hey, I’ve been going on for a while now, Ruth, so maybe feel free.

Ruth Perry (18:02)
No, you’re cooking. I’m enjoying it immensely. I was thinking about back to your class, I remember that before we got into the household codes, you started that passage in Ephesians 5.18, be filled with the Holy Spirit, singing songs and hymns and spiritual songs to each other, making music in your heart to the Lord and always giving thanks to God the Father for everything in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ and submitting to each other out of reverence for Christ. That all of those things were under that same heading of be filled with the Holy Spirit.

Roy Ciampa (18:42)
Yes, it is. And being filled with the Holy Spirit is under the heading of walking in wisdom. So, because it’s one of the things is if you look for the term walking, which is often translated as live, like live in love or live according to light. The metaphor is walking in the light and walking in love and walking in children of light or walk wisely. And then the wisdom part underneath that is all the stuff about being filled with the spirit and submitting to one another.

And then so all that stuff about husbands and wives and parents and children and masters and slaves comes under the submitting to one another part, which comes under the being filled with the Holy Spirit part, which comes under the walking in wisdom part.

And it’s Paul providing his readers with wisdom about how to live in family in the first century Ephesian or, you know, Greco-Roman context. And of course, it’s important that context is radically different from ours.

Ruth Perry (19:44)
Can you describe that context for us.

Roy Ciampa (19:47)
Sure. Well, in a few different ways. Maybe one way to start is by, just as we were already kind of hinting at…

that when we talk about a household code, we do talk about husbands and wives and parents and children and masters and slaves because the household was very differently structured than we think of it today. That many households, they had slaves within the household and they’d have also freed men and free women in some cases in the household as well. And so we think of a household typically as, you know, parents and their children and nuclear family.

And sometimes we think of the extended family as well. Maybe there are grandparents around or something. But we don’t think of parents and children and slaves and freed men and women as part of a household. But that is a part of what a fairly well-to-do or a somewhat well-to-do household would have all those components. And then, you know, we realize

When people preach through Ephesians, when they get to the stuff about slaves and masters, they realize what we don’t approve of masters and slaves today. And so if they’re to preach on that, they kind of adapt it and say, well, this might apply to like employees and employers and that sort of thing. And so here we can get some wisdom for how we can relate to each other as employees and employers. And maybe there’s it’s OK. But it’s really important to point out that employees are not slaves and employers are not masters. And so you have to make adaptations.

You can’t just say all the employers shouldn’t treat the employees the way Paul thought, you know, masters should treat slaves. And we have to be reminded that Paul’s not endorsing slavery, but early Christians were living in a world where this is just part of the social fabric. They weren’t put in charge. They weren’t asked to take over the social fabric and restructure it. They had to learn how can they live as Christians within that social fabric and within these institutions. And so Paul provides wisdom for those who are in these situations.

But as I was saying, when we get to that stuff about masters and slaves, people say, we have to make adjustments. We can’t just apply that to employees and employers because that’s not the same thing. But when we preach about husbands and wives, people look around and say, I know husbands and wives, and many of us will say, well, I’m a husband or I’m a wife and I have a wife or a husband. And so they’re all around us. So when he starts talking about husbands and wives, we’re like, okay, we know what he’s talking about.

This is something very familiar to all of us, except that it isn’t because marriage has evolved in many ways. And so to go back and realize that in the Greco-Roman world, Men didn’t typically marry until they were 28 to 30 years old. And partly because there was no expectation with the double standard that’s typical in all of history, the double standard with regard to sex is that men weren’t expected to remain pure or virgins until marriage. They had access to prostitutes and household slaves and other sexual outlets and that wasn’t considered a problem by most people in the Greco-Roman world. Whereas women were expected to be married shortly after going through puberty.

When I was in class, I have like a 40 page document, you may or may not recall of this kind of material from the Old Testament and quotes from the Greco-Roman world and different sources where people are talking about husbands and wives and it talks about age at marriage and it talks about, you know, the understanding that it’s good if a woman or girl can know how to carry on a conversation and maybe do a little bit of sewing, a little bit of cooking, but that’s about it because she’s supposed to learn everything she learns from her husband that she’s supposed to be like a tabla rasa, she’s supposed to be like a blank slate on whom the husband can leave his impressions.

I was just reading, reviewing again because something came up on social media. I don’t remember what it was anymore, but it was about, that’s what it was, this woman’s book recently. A woman wrote a book on misogyny in America and the publisher accidentally put out an ad or an email inviting people to submit for exam copies. whoever prepared the text for that forgot to replace the name of the author from a previous book they must have worked on. And so they had the title of the book in the book cover, but the author’s name was a man who hadn’t written anything like this, who writes in very different subjects.

So here’s a book on misogyny in the church, and the publisher puts out something that attributes it to a man instead of the woman who wrote it, and reminded me of this ancient… thing about somebody who’s talking about some man’s wife who’s a man who’s great at poetry and he’s presented some poetry from his wife and he claims that his wife wrote this wonderful poetry and this person’s saying it’s great poetry but you know I’m not sure if his wife really wrote it but either way the husband deserves the credit because either he’s the one who really wrote it or He’s the one that taught her.

So whatever the woman produces, it’s always back to the man. Because again, she’s expected to have learned whatever she knows through her husband, a woman getting married right after puberty and a man not marrying until he’s 28 or 30 years old. There’s a huge difference, not only in age, but maturity, knowledge of the world and in the Greco-Roman world, the extent to which women were expected to be more or less confined to the home, whereas men could go anywhere and could have a greater education so their knowledge of the world is different. Their human development at marriage and then throughout marriage. You might say, 10 years later it’ll be different. Well, 10 years later they still, they would have already formed a kind of relationship where he’s practically like a parent.

The husband’s practically a parent or Ben Witherington describes it as almost an uncle-niece relationship between a husband and wife at that time. And that changes a lot. I mean, that helps you understand all kinds of things in the New Testament when people are talking about how husbands and wives should relate to each other. It’s a significant thing in terms of submission if the wife has always only been kind of tutored by her husband and taught by him and mentored by him.

You know, three stages of human development behind him, then it’s natural that the man’s going to be treated as though he’s more knowledgeable, wiser, more experienced, better able to provide any kind of leadership needed, and that that’s the role that he should have. Which brings us back to that whole thing about love and mercy.

One of things that I realized when I started looking through these texts and thinking about it more was if one of the main themes of the letter is that we should treat each other as Christ and God has treated us, if my wife is my peer, which is something that just was not normally ever the case in the Greco-Roman world, right? We were just talking about that. But my wife is more or less my age. She has the same experience of the world. She hasn’t been cooped up at home. She’s got college education. She has, a master’s degree. She’s wiser than I am on many things and just as intelligent as I am. If she’s my peer in every way, does Jesus, does God really want us to pretend as though I’m much wiser and more knowledgeable than she is and better able to lead in every situation than she is?

Because that was the traditional slot of a wife in first century Ephesus and the slot of a husband in first century Ephesus or should I actually treat her for who she really is? And to recognize her strengths and her knowledge and her wisdom and her abilities. And this relates to something I’ve sometimes referred to as the mapping of identities. That is, we look at women today and we map onto them the identity we find of a wife in the first century Ephesus. We look at a husband today and we map onto them the identity of a husband in first century Ephesus. And we do that in other ways as well. I have an whole article about ways in which this mapping of identities can create real problems.

But I don’t think I should ask my wife to try and fill a slot from a different culture and time, asks her to treat me and asks me to treat her as though we are so different, as though we are as different as the first century Greco-Roman husband and wife, when in fact we’re actually peers. And then I’d go back and realize that if this whole second part is about learning how to treat other people…as God has treated us, and I realize, well, even if you look at the household code, the instructions to husbands and wives aren’t exactly the same as the husbands to parents and children, and neither of those are the same as the instructions to slaves and masters. So Paul recognized that although we’re all supposed to be Christ-like and treat others in Christ-like ways, the nature of the relationship is going to impact what that looks like.

And so the first century Greco-Roman husband-wife relationship is different from the parent-child relationship is different from the slave-master relationship. So Paul provides different instructions. So then I begin to think and realize, well, then we can treat this as a case study.

We have at least three case studies and what it means to apply Christ-like, God-like love and mercy and grace to other people. And it’s one thing in the marriage, one thing with the children, another thing with masters and slaves. Maybe it would be something else if it was with a spouse who is my peer and who is as intelligent and wise and able to lead and do other things as I am, as my same age, same experience of the world, what would it then mean for me to treat her in a Christ-like way and for her to treat me in a Christ-like way and not try to fit them into some…

You know, I’m reminded we have a two and a half year old granddaughter, you know, those cubes you get that have the different shapes, there’s the triangle and there’s the square and the rectangle and the star and you have the blocks, you’re trying to fit them through the right shapes, you know, and I feel like lots of times they’re taking, you know, modern men and women who are very different shapes and we’re trying to fit them into the shapes of the first century husband and wife, male and female.

And those pieces just don’t fit. And the key question still comes back to, if I’m looking at the second half of Ephesians, I’m learning how to walk wisely in acting in Christ-like ways towards people around me.

And so there lots of different relationships. There’s the student athlete relationship. There’s the police officer citizen relationship. There’s the teacher student relationship. There’s the husband wife relationship. There’s the employee employee employee relationship. And all of these we learn how to treat each other in loving ways. But we don’t have to find some first century Greco-Roman slot to fit people into to make that relationship match the one we have.

Ruth Perry (31:02)
I feel like the way my brain works is that I have a sieve inside my brain and when I go to class I learn the information and it all goes away. But for some reason I really latched on to all of that that you taught 20 years ago and then I went off and I got married the next year and it just fell completely into traditional rules because that’s what I grown up with and that’s what had been modeled to me and same for my husband. And so it was just natural to not even think about how we’re going to relate to each other. We just fell into the traditional rules that we had been taught through example and direct teaching. And almost immediately for me as the woman, I could recognize that my voice was diminished, my importance was diminished, and it created some cognitive dissonance for me. But I didn’t, I just tolerated it. I didn’t really rock the boat any.

And then we had another experience early on in our marriage. I’m thinking maybe three or four years after we got married, our church had a really terrible conflict and split. My dad was a pastor and so it was deeply personal. And you’re teaching again on the book of Ephesians. I looked at that experience and it was a traditional church structure with men in leadership. And it was clear as day to me that if the women had a voice and a place at the table in that conflict, things wouldn’t have been as ugly as they were and as destructive and terrible. And so those two things, like my early marriage years and walking through that church conflict,

The importance of your teaching on the book of Ephesians really snapped into place for me crystal clear that if we are walking in a manner worthy of the calling we’ve received, we’re going to submit to one another, male, female, slave, free, Gentile. Like there’s no distinctions that if we’re truly living in the way that God has called us to live, that we’re going to love each other. And that means we’re going to listen to each other’s voices, that every voice has a place and has value.

And we’re going to submit the mutual submission piece that we often gloss straight over and go into, OK, but wives, you’re submitting, and then the husband is the head.

Roy Ciampa (33:12)
Mm-hmm. Right, yes. No, it really, it ends up being, and I hate to say it, but in many cases, not a loving sort of thing, but a very obedience, command-centered sort of thing, which kind of is pushing them back against the grain of the letter as a whole, and the way I understand the theology of the letter as a whole.

By the way, one of the key texts that I think is helpful for thinking about this is in 1 Corinthians chapter 14, where Paul has that part that says, and some people think that this doesn’t belong in the Bible, and I don’t know what you think, but I think verses 34 and 35 are supposed to be there. But it’s the part that says women should remain silent in the churches, they’re not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the law says.

They want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home, for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in the church. Now Paul had already taught that both men and women could pray and prophesy, right, back in chapter 11. And that’s remarkable in itself because a lot of people look at 1 Corinthians 11, they think, because it starts off about who’s the head of who, who’s the head you know, God is the head of Christ, who’s the head of the man, who’s head of the woman. it sounds like, okay, yeah, very much what sort of subordination here and all this sort of thing.

But when he actually gets into it, he talks about ministry in just two terms, prayer and prophecy. Gordon Fee has suggested, and I think he’s probably right, that those are like big terms for discourse directed to God. That’s prayer and discourse directed at the congregation, which is prophecy. But in any case, those are the only two things he talks about. And he says both men and women can do it. They just have to dress appropriately when they’re doing it. So there’s nothing in there about any kinds of ministries that men can do that women can’t.

But anyway, so he’s already said that they can pray and prophesy. So what’s this all about? They should remain silent. And so obviously he’s not speaking about speaking in general. He has certain kinds of speaking. And in that very passage, he says, if they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home. Well, that may be the hint that what he’s talking about is women who don’t understand something that’s going on.

Again, remember the women would have less education, less experience of the world, less knowledge of what’s going on around them. And if they don’t know what’s going on and they’re asking questions that are interrupting them in the church, and in that culture, for a woman to ask another man, somebody else’s husband their question, would be really offensive and would raise all kinds of concerns. Anyway, so.

If that’s what’s going on, Paul says if they have things they should inquire of their own husbands at home. Now, you know, I may have said this when I taught you in class, but I mean, I’ve been teaching since, you know, a full-time teacher since I suppose I started in 1991. And I don’t know how many times I could have said, having both a husband and a wife in my class, I could have said to the husband, if you’re not getting all this, you might ask your wife to explain it to you when you get home.

I’ve very often had husbands and wives in the class and it’s not unusual for the wife to understand things better than to be more academically strong than the husband is. I could never say, you know, if any of the women here don’t understand what I’m talking about, why don’t you ask your own husband at home? not that I couldn’t just say it because it wouldn’t be politically correct, but it would just be stupid.

And I’m not saying Paul’s stupid, The expression assumes a culture and a context where the husband can be virtually guaranteed to know more and understand things better than their wife, which is perfectly reasonable for the Greco-Roman context of Corinth that Paul’s speaking to, not Corinth and Ephesus and the whole world in which Paul’s speaking because of this age and education and experience gap that we talked about at the beginning of our conversation. So a verse like that makes perfectly good sense in that context, but would make absolutely no sense in a world where men and women can both be educated and experienced And so again, I think it really is a problem of, I think, very harmful biblical interpretation when

We end up trying to act as though we are living in roles that were filled by first century people. And we’re gonna figure out how to treat each other in those roles as opposed to treating people for who they actually are. And that’s at the core of love, isn’t it? To know someone, to respect them for who they are, for what they bring to the table, and to learn from each other and to submit to each other.

And that’s really a large part of what effusions is about.

Ruth Perry (38:10)
I think from my background being very conservative, there was a lot of warning against listening to people who didn’t share traditional values because they were being influenced by the culture around them or they were playing fast and loose with scripture and they weren’t taking the word of God seriously or this or that. Like there were so many warnings against listening to someone who might suggest mutual submission or sharing authority between men and women in ministry and in the home.

And in my experience, just with my encounter of you, Dr. Ciampa and since you, many other egalitarian scholars and pastors, they’ve all taken the word of God seriously, and their life has shown the fruit of the Spirit in ways that isn’t always readily witnessed in other people’s lives who are really clinging to the authority structures and having power over others. And so I’m really grateful that I took this Ephesians class with you 20 something years ago and that I remembered all the information even though I compartmentalized it at the time and filed it away and went on with my traditional ways. I’m grateful that it was accessible when I needed it and when things started falling apart. And so then I didn’t just say Well, if this is what Christianity is, I don’t want it. But I could imagine a more beautiful Christianity because of what you had taught me.

Roy Ciampa (39:42)
That’s very kind, but I think that it is very sad to see people turning away from Christianity because the presentation they’ve received is not wholesome, it’s not healthy, it’s not edifying. And too often it is, as you said, very much about power and who can have power. And so it’s very sad to see large parts of a whole generation are more that are turning away from the church because of the way the church in Christianity has been presented, which is sad. And we do think it’s such a beautiful thing. The truth of God’s grace and the grace that he teaches us to live by ought to be something that ought to attract people from all over the globe to this great God of love and grace and mercy who’s worthy of all our praise.

Ruth Perry (40:30)
the message of Ephesians is speaking to us today. And I pray we all have ears to hear.

Where can we find your papers and your writing? Dr. Ciampa, do you have a website or do you have the online presence?

Roy Ciampa (40:43)
I have a website. Yeah, actually, but it’s not it’s just a purely pedagogical sort of thing. And I, and I’ve spent hundreds of hours, if not thousands, thousands in the heyday of my career. So I have a I have a website called viceregency.com And the.com is a joke, because I’ve never done any commercial stuff with it. should be a.org. But I have vice regency.com. And then it’s it’s all links to different things you can learn from and

Maybe I’ll go there and add a link to this paper. I’ll tell you what, I’ll send it to you in case there’s some place you want to post it on, on anything you’re doing.

Ruth Perry (41:20)
I have a Facebook page called the Beautiful Kingdom Builders. I will put it there and I want to give you the last word before we sign off.

Roy Ciampa (41:31)
Well, thank you for having me. It’s been a blessing to be with you and it is anything I can do to help people see how great and marvelous, as Paul was trying to say in Ephesians, how beyond anything we can imagine is the love of God, how deep and high and wide, and in every dimension you can imagine this love of God that we find in Jesus Christ and the mercy and love that it teaches us to express towards others.

May God advance that through the knowledge of Jesus Christ. So thanks for having me.

Ruth Perry (42:02)
Thank you so much. Amen. Have a great time in your retirement and as you continue to teach. Thank you so much. Bye.

Roy Ciampa (42:08)
Thank you very much. Bye bye.


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001 I Becky Buck & The Origins of TBKB

Please enjoy the first episode of The Beautiful Kingdom Builders Podcast, in which I interview co-founder Becky Buck and we reminisce about the origins of this blog and our Facebook community. We explore our personal journeys of faith, the challenges of deconstructing traditional beliefs, and the importance of love and community in spiritual growth. We discuss the impact of religious trauma, the complexities of gender roles within faith, and the need for critical thinking in understanding one’s beliefs. Our conversation emphasizes the significance of reclaiming identity and voice, particularly for women in high-control religious environments, and the transformative power of love in fostering a deeper connection with God. I hope you enjoy it! Please subscribe on your favorite podcast platform and follow me on Instagram, Threads, Bluesky, Facebook and TikTok for reels and more!

In this conversation, we mention North Harbor Community Baptist Church, our pastors Dan and Lisa Wells, Brennan Manning, and Carolyn Custis James — all great resources and hopefully future podcast guests!

TRANSCRIPT:

Ruth Perry (00:15)
I just want to welcome my very beautiful friend, Becky Buck! We go way back to our time when I lived in Maine. And we are the dynamic duo that started The Beautiful Kingdom Warriors page. I had to look it up. When did we start? It was January, 2014. And so I’m very grateful to have you here, Becky, because I was in a real spiritual wilderness period of my life at the time and it was so lonely. And you filled a huge gap for me being a kindred spirit. And I’m just so grateful for our friendship and our work together on The Beautiful Kingdom Warriors. And I’m excited to like reminisce together and talk about our spiritual journeys together.

Becky Buck (01:04)
Yeah, definitely. I can’t believe it’s been 10 years. That is, that’s wild. I mean, we’ve seen so much since then, you know, moves, transitions, losses.

Ruth Perry (01:07)
Yeah. You’ve had two babies, I think, since we started. You already had two.

Becky Buck (01:21)
Yes, I’ve had two babies. A pandemic. mean, coming back after that, career changes, it’s been a decade. It really has been. Yeah, I was looking back when we were working on the blog and getting main ownership transferred back to you. I was like, wow, this is a trip down memory lane. I tried to go back as far as our first blog and blog entries would go. And it was like, wowzer, we’ve done a lot of growth since even then.

Ruth Perry (01:50)
Yeah, yeah.

So I thought, I want to go back before the Beautiful Kingdom Warriors. And both of us share where we were when we met each other. And so I’ll give you a couple of minutes to like just stew on that question. And I’ll say where I was at the time. We had, my husband and I moved back to Maine.

Becky Buck (01:59)
Yeah.

Ruth Perry (02:13)
after we finished seminary in Massachusetts and after we had had our first son and he was an infant and my dad’s church in my hometown is where we were going and my dad was the senior pastor and my brother was the associate pastor and we went there for a couple of years and then there was a huge church split and it was really ugly and there was a lot of trauma and spiritual abuse that we experienced through that. And so I think that was when Benjamin was a baby.

And he was born in, oh my gosh, 2007. And then between the time that we came to North Harbor Community Church where I met you, so there was like five years where we were basically starting in our hometown of Boothbay, Maine, going to like all the evangelical churches and visiting them. And then we would get involved in them. And there were several churches that we ended up having, like either being asked to leave or being like gently prodded to leave. And so we had additional traumatic experiences with church. And so when we came to North Harbor, spiritually I was very ragged and I was like an open wound. And then I was also deconstructing because in 2010, when I was pregnant with Abbey I had my call to ministry from God and I was a complementarian at the time. The belief that spiritual authority belongs to men in the church and in the home. And so that was causing some painful cognitive dissonance for me. And I started reading books and blogs but in my personal relationships, if I brought anything up like that, it was like I’d get slapped on the wrist by people. Like you’re going out of bounds, you’re headed down a slippery slope. And so a lot of personal
kind of trying to keep me in my place and in my lane. So a lot of those readings and things were just happening privately for myself and kind of lonely. So that’s where I was when we came to North Harbor. I think we got there in 2012. And where was your journey to North Harbor, Becky?

Becky Buck (04:05)
Yeah, I mean, I think a big piece of we were we hit it off immediately because I feel like you and I were both really battered and bruised at that point in our like season of ministry. I think when we both first came to North Harbor, I don’t know if we I guess maybe we were still volunteering on the Kids Cove team. I don’t know if Graham had joined the preaching team yet or if even we had started with worship. But I feel like

We were easing our way back in to serving after also coming out of kind of a toxic ministry situation. So the short answer for how we ended up at North Harbor is community. think when Graham and I moved from Florida back home here to Maine, it was because my two best friends were part of the launch team for North Harbor.

And so Graham served for about two years on staff at a church in New Hampshire as a youth pastor. And I think what was hard about that is we thought even just moving to New Hampshire, somehow we would have community and friends and family, but we very quickly discovered that because we believed in things like egalitarian ways of moving through ministry in the world, because we didn’t really hold to normal upper middle class, I would even say elitist views of students needing to participate in sports and get amazing grades and then go on to Ivy League institutions. We didn’t really push that and you know we were basically pushed out of that first official full-time ministerial position.

When that happened, I was like done with the church because lots of pieces of my story involve, we’ve talked about this before, spiritual and religious trauma through high control, fundamentalist Christianity. And my journey with my faith, I think it’s really hard when you’re hoping for the best because you’re answering the call of ministry and you encounter just pain and disappointment and shame. And I think those were themes that I had struggled with personally, but then to watch Graham go through that for the first time really was like, I was so heartbroken and yeah, so when we made the choice to move back, was to be near my family. We found out my dad was really sick and we wanted to kind of move home to help care for him.

And again, we had community, like we would come visit North Harbor and it was like, that was our people. And I think what made that place so special for us was there wasn’t an expectation for us to get involved. We were just like loved. But that made us then want to be involved, probably a little faster than we should have been. But I think what’s really hard as you grow in your journey of life, deconstruction is a natural part of that. And I think people are very afraid of that and it’s a very hot button topic word that’s being thrown around in these volatile times of just worldwide unrest. And I think it’s not something to be afraid of because a richer understanding of the human experience is what can await you in that because we would not have found each other if we hadn’t been open to the process of growing and questioning and critically thinking together, you know?

Ruth Perry (07:26)
So was it church hurt that started for you, the onion, peeling away the layers of the things that you had been raised with in high control religion? Or was it something else like what radicalized you, Becky?

Becky Buck (07:38)
What radicalized me? I don’t know the Sermon on the Mount. Imagine that. It’s so funny because I was like practicing last week or two weeks ago before, you know, the unfortunate Black Widow incident. So glad that you’re on the mend. That was scary. Yeah, I was in the car and I’m like, she’s going to ask me about my deconstruction journey. She’s going to ask like, what are you going to say? Like, and

Ruth Perry (07:42)
Yeah!

Thank you. Thank you.

This is what I love to talk about. I love to hear people’s story.

Becky Buck (08:05)
Yeah, yeah, same. I mean, that’s why we started this, right? was like a redemptive base for people to have redemptive dialogue about, you know, areas of theology and life that were colliding. Yeah, so I think, well, first of all, I think being born a woman, radicalizes you quickly. Because we don’t know necessarily what is being done to us when that is the norm, right? And I think, I always felt in my spirit that I was a lot. I always related more to my brothers and the men. I was very nurturing, but, and I love hair and makeup, obviously, and fashion and creativity and expression and all of that. And I always had loved that.

what I always joke about like being so young and having like, you know, the tutu with the bow and arrow and a Barbie and a GI Joe. Like that was kind of my childhood. And I think that was humored until I hit puberty. Right. Like the aspects of myself, I was still very praised for my beauty and I was praised for my like performing abilities with like singing and music. Right.

Ruth Perry (08:58)
Yeah!

Becky Buck (09:16)
And so you learn quickly that if you want to belong or if you want to feel good, those are the things that you have to do. And I think when I hit my teen years, that’s when my deconstruction journey began. Because I quickly realized that in high control fundamentalist Christianity, not all voices are welcome at the table. And that was through local church.

That was through youth groups. went to a church school. It was through that. And I don’t want to completely destroy how beautiful my growing up experience was in that in many ways. I had great friends in my very, very small Christian school. We made a lot of great memories together. I met Graham at a Christian camp that I would say was much more liberal, but still women were only allowed to work in the kitchen, the nurse’s office, or admin. They could have admin roles at the Christian boys camp. We were told that we were supposed to be wallflowers, which if you’ve spent five seconds with me you know like that’s it’s not gonna happen.

And I think I never understood, I guess in so many ways I’ve always been moving like the line towards like liberal progressive Christianity because I always felt like I was pushing the boundary of always asking, but why do we do it this way? So like we have dress code, but why? women’s bodies are dangerous, but like what about men though?

Like, so we have to have modesty, but like what are men doing? Like there was just these pieces to my deconstruction journey and the way that my brain works. Like it didn’t add up. It didn’t make sense. Like if God loves everyone, why are we saying like in order to be loved by God, you have to look like this, be like this, perform like this, do like this. So I think my entire deconstruction journey was truthfully just like studying the Bible through a critical lens and being open to hearing from people who didn’t believe the same things as I did. And that was really frowned upon, right?

I mean, I lost friends for reading Carolyn Custis James. Like, I mean, I lost friends because of that, because I was no longer a complementarian. Yeah, so I think the beginning was being born a woman in a high control patriarchal society where it just didn’t add up. It didn’t add up for me like who I was as a person and what I read in the Bible even without knowing Hebrew or Greek like it just it didn’t make sense to what I was being told I had to do and be to what I was like reading. So yeah I don’t know.

Ruth Perry (11:41)
Yeah. You were young because for me, I never questioned complementarianism and I got a lot of positive feedback for myself and like puberty and beyond as being a good Christian girl. And so I never really questioned it until I was, um, after I’d had children basically, or maybe it was actually the day that we got home from our honeymoon. My husband came home for dinner and I was like sobbing and I said, I don’t want to be a housewife. Like finally occurred to me. Wait a second. This isn’t for me. Um, yeah. So I would commend you for being a young person and realizing and asking why.

Like that’s a skill that I just, I didn’t have. And I really admire it in people, the people who are like, what, why? And also, like, I agree with you. I have so much gratefulness that I came from a Christian background. Even if it wasn’t a perfect Christian background, I still don’t think I have a perfect Christianity. I don’t think anybody does. And so that heritage I’m grateful for, but I do feel like we need to have curiosity, and we need to work out our own salvation. And we need to like really test the things that we believe because we’re all wrong about stuff. And I think we were wrong about a lot of things. Yeah.

Becky Buck (13:02)
Right. And I think, for sure, for sure. I mean, I think, yeah, it’s tough. Like one of my words in the current season of life, studying to become a licensed clinical counselor is like duality or like if you’ve ever heard of like dialectical behavioral therapy, right? It’s this concept of radical acceptance that two seemingly opposing truths can be true at the same time. So I can hold gratitude for the friendships and the lessons that I learned through really beautifully loving and kind people who embodied the teachings of Christ, right? I can hold that. And then in this other hand, I can hold appropriate feminist rage for systems of harm that are anti-biblical, that push an agenda that was never the gospel because women are dangerous in many, views within the church.

And I think, yeah, I think that piece is unfortunately the piece that people see, especially in these turbulent times. Like that’s what they see, right? They see just this in your face, high control, Christian nationalist agenda. That’s what people think the church is. Like it’s it’s rough out there, it’s really rough out there if you are somebody who’s really trying to embody the teachings of Christ and kind of let everything else go because the second you put your foot into anything that goes against this ideology. You know, you’re blacklisted from so many things. It’s, it’s, it is a rough, rough world trying to hold that duality. So I don’t want you to hear me say that I’m like, okay with how I grew up and what I was exposed to and what I went through because I carry that spiritual and religious trauma of not being able to trust myself.

In full disclosure, right, one of my first moments in therapy in Graham’s first year of seminary, when I had a really intense emotional breakdown, my work was to order for myself at a restaurant. Like I had such fear and like I couldn’t order from a menu. I would get anxiety about like ordering my own food. I had to like defer to what everybody else was having, why they were having it. I could not make choices for myself. And I think in high control religion as a woman, you’re taught that you can’t trust yourself. If you are born female in high control Christianity, you are immediately marked as less than. You carry evil within you, you carry temptation within you, right? And I think we internalize that.

We are internalizing a message in critical periods of human development that I’m not safe. My emotions, my feelings are not safe. I can’t trust those things. The only thing I can trust is what my dad says and what my pastor says. Those are the only things that I can trust. So I’m being taught that message, right? But still experiencing such rich celebration of who I am between my relationship with Christ growing up, right? So like, I don’t know, like I just, I don’t want to gloss over the duality, you know?

I think it’s really important that we call out systems of oppression for what they are. Even though high control fundamentalist Christianity taught me about community, it also taught me about hate and it taught me about fear and it taught me about separation. And I think that’s something that unfortunately we still see in this giant movement back to what so many of us were fighting against for so long. So, yeah.

Ruth Perry (16:46)
I had a epiphany, maybe there’s two different times when I feel like I had big spiritual awakenings. And one time was after one of my very best friends died at 21 years old. And she had become a Christian when we were in high school. And I had done this discipleship book with her and she was my Christian friend. But then when we went off to college, she IM’d me one day back when we were IM-ing people and said that she was doubting her faith. And I remember like throwing myself on my bed sobbing. I couldn’t comprehend doubting faith. And to me, she was a lost person now. And for a few years, when I went home and we would hang out, I never talked to her about her faith. Cause I was like, so the weight of her salvation was on my shoulders.

Becky Buck (17:11)
Yeah, we were.

Ruth Perry (17:31)
And I was so intimidated and fearful of what a conversation about her faith would be like, that I just never said anything. And then she died of a pulmonary embolism at 21 years old. And I was certain, like I had this like crushing guilt that I failed her and that I did not save her in time. And so that spiritual awakening, came to the realization, I don’t really, I don’t know how I think, I mean, God just revealed this to me, I think that God loved my friend more than I loved my friend. And that God cared for my friend more than I cared for my friend. And that God could have reached her without me, which was like a huge light bulb realization that her salvation wasn’t on me, that it was on Jesus. And so I had this like, new realization that the weight of the world wasn’t on me. God is the one doing the work.

And then around the same time, after God called me to be in ministry and I started reading about women in ministry and rethinking that. And this was right after our home church had split with all my family involved and just a lot of emotional, like it was a really raw time. I came across Brennan Manning on YouTube. He’s the guy who wrote Ragamuffin Gospel. And there’s like old gravelly videos of him preaching with his old like deep voice. And there’s something about listening to his sermons that just broke me wide open. And I was weeping and realizing for the first time that God loved me unconditionally and that I didn’t have to earn anything, that I didn’t have to be a good Christian girl.

Becky Buck (18:48)
yes.

Ruth Perry (19:08)
I could be just a very flawed human being and God would love me. God loves me unconditionally. That realization gave me the freedom to really start deconstructing and having the liberty to question things. Cause feeling like you have to earn your salvation or that like you could go to hell at the like, there’s so much fear in that. And I, the realization that you know what?

I think God is powerful to save. I think that we’ve underestimated what God can do for us and that God is more loving and beautiful than we’ve ever imagined. And it was in that, that knowledge that gave me the freedom to deconstruct. So tell me, Becky, with all of your psychology studies, what is it about love, like feeling loved, that gives you the freedom to be curious about other things?

Becky Buck (19:52)
Yeah, that’s a great question. So I think love equates to safety. And when we feel truly safe, we can experience love, right? It’s very difficult to feel love when you’re not feeling safe. Not that you can’t, but I do think for me specifically, my own journey, like safety has been like a priority for the 15 years I have personally been in therapy. So it is a journey when we look at why love though, right? Like why biologically do we need love?

Well, love is belonging. Love is identity, love is bonding, So that moment that the baby is born, that rush of those bonding hormones and oxytocin, right? That is present in birth and all mammals that give birth. So I think we have to think about that without that bonding, we would die. Just on a purely biological level, like it keeps us alive, right, to desire to be bonded and cared for.

I think in relation really into attachment theory, where that explores how our primary caregivers shape our ability to be secure in relationships, most often in romantic relationships, but not exclusively to that. And so, you know, that love really has to be present and specifically meaning love looks like meeting basic needs, yes, but it also looks like somebody having joy over who you are. Physically touching you. There’s so many pieces to secure attachment. You know, that when I push back or when I go away, you’re still gonna be there and you’re still gonna love me. You know, that’s stuff that we learn.

And I think in faith, I think what’s really difficult in high control religion, is we equate love with transaction and possession, which is not love. And we reward that system with praise. So again, was like the whole looking back at my childhood, there were just things that did not make sense to me. It didn’t make sense to me how I could feel love from the same people that caused me harm. That created in myself a type of attachment called disorganized attachment. And it’s really complicated because people who are your primary caregivers show up for you a lot, but then are also unsafe sometimes in really big ways.

And so for myself, I think it was hard for me to process love because I equated love with chaos and the love of Christ brings peace, right? I think of like perfect love casts out fear. That’s one of my favorite verses. I had a friend once we were having a conversation about what we believed about faith and spirituality and he talked about how his experience of God is that God is love and love is God. So any place that you find love, that’s God. And that just blew me away. That was like four or five years ago. And I was in the thick of some really, really difficult deconstructing life stuff. So I tattooed love wins on my knuckles. ⁓ And that spoke to me in so many ways because that is love, right? Love is showing up. Love is safe spaces and safe places. Love is having hard conversations with people who don’t agree with you, which is why we started this, right?

Ruth Perry (23:08)
Aww. Yeah. Yeah.

Becky Buck (23:30)
and trying to find a way to offer compassion to each other. yeah, psychologically speaking, we have to have love to thrive in healthy mental and socio-cultural ways. Yeah, it has to be there.

Ruth Perry (23:48)
I’m thinking of 1 John 4:7-8 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. And they that love not know not God, for God is love. Beloved, let us love one another.

Becky Buck (24:03)
Yeah, we have chills. Mm-hmm, mm-hmm, mm-hmm. Yeah.

Ruth Perry (24:06)
Fortunately, that was a song that I sang growing up, so I remember it, because I have the worst memory in the world. But I mean, I’m so grateful for it. Like, that’s a verse that I remember, because I do feel like until you understand love, you don’t really understand God.

Becky Buck (24:14)
Woo! Right, right, because we often associate

Ruth Perry (24:23)
Not that anybody can understand God, but you start to.

Becky Buck (24:27)
Right. Yeah. Well, because God is something when you’re in really high control, fundamentalist Christianity with a headship model and a complementarian model. And I think probably a lot of people who watch this will know what that is. But, you know, headship is in the home where the father figure, the male father figure, that’s the child’s first go-to and the father is accountable to the pastor and the pastor is accountable to God. And so everything is run through the father and I think unfortunately I talk a lot about I lost my dad in 2022 and so the last several years have been a lot of joy and pain as I listen to people’s memories of him.

I am constantly reminded of villains and heroes and how we often, in other people’s accounts and experiences of us, sometimes we’re going to be villains and sometimes we’re going to be heroes. But all of us embody that at one point or another in our lives. And I think in my growing up fear, was a motivator for good behavior. Love as a child felt very far away. I didn’t really see but I think I was also like obsessed with Disney romantic love too. Like there’s a whole piece of that in there that I was like wanting that and very swayed by those persuasions and feelings but yeah I agree. I think God isn’t fear. And I think we were taught that we have to be afraid of God to keep us in line and to keep us compliant, especially as women.

Yeah, that’s an interesting thought, because like, mulling it over We can’t know who God is, if you don’t really experience love or understand love. You’re gonna miss it. Or value it, or value love, you know? You’re gonna miss God.

Ruth Perry (26:16)
Yeah. Yeah.

I mean, I was taught, I think I was 30 something when I had that epiphany. So for 30 years, I had been a Christian and been taught that God is love and God loves you and we’re saved by grace, not by works. I knew all that, but there’s a difference between the words that you’re taught and then the behaviors that you’re conditioned in everybody was rewarded for conforming I don’t think my home churches ever felt like they were high control. But as a child growing up in them, I definitely absorbed.

how to conform and be praised and what was expected and what was valued in that community. And it’s taken a lot of years now to just find my voice like you. I didn’t have a voice. I had a script that I had inherited and I knew by heart and I used my script, but I did not know my own personality or… desires or needs. I was really good at just compartmentalizing that all the way in some hidden recess that I couldn’t reach. And so I was a very golden Christian girl, but that’s a painful thing to undo. It’s really hard to undo.

Becky Buck (27:36)
Yeah, yeah. Well again, because you’re rewarded for being a martyr as a woman, you know, we have the internalized misogyny of, in order to be loved by God, in order to be worthy of love and belonging, you have to die to yourself, right? And that’s praised. So the woman doing all the things in the home, in the church for kids, right? That is praised as pastors wives. That’s what people are like, great job. Like we really want to keep you around because you’re such a utility that we can just work with, you know? So I think for me that was really hard.

I didn’t say this, but when Graham went to seminary, they had a, what do they call it? Wives in ministry? It was wives. They prized the word wives. It wasn’t women, it was wives in ministry and it was like a support group and I kid you not the first one I went to there was a lesson about how to properly set a table for when you’re hosting like different families and things like that. Like literally it was like Miss Manners Club and I turned around and I walked out. I’m like no this is not it. This is not it for me. And I think that also fueled my deconstruction journey was seeing at a seminary, you know, 50 women being put in their place and willingly doing it and not questioning it.

I found that really upsetting because in my experience growing up, like, because obviously I had my mom, like there was tension. There was constant tension in my mom showing up for her family, but being true to herself. And I love my mom for that. she was not going to be controlled. She was not going to conform, but then she like kind of did, you know, but I think I also have to credit her and I have to credit the women in my life who were believers but still brought a voice to the table even when they weren’t supposed to. I think I learned that you have to know how to play the game, that you can have a voice at the table in certain situations and places. But yeah, the script is real. That is a real piece.

Ruth Perry (29:40)
Mm-hmm.

Becky Buck (29:59)
to… I know I feel like we always say it wasn’t that bad. It wasn’t that bad. And then you start to tell your story and you’re like, oh my, I was actually a part of a community that a pastor from a pulpit said that women who wear pants are whores. Children in the service saying that. mean, who, some of those kids didn’t even know what a whore was. Like, and yeah.

Ruth Perry (30:15)
Yeah. My gosh.

Becky Buck (30:23)
It’s crazy to look back and just think how Creator God aligns us to bring healing to the world. I think looking at you and I and our alignment, I think we were both rewriting the script.

Ruth Perry (30:40)
Yeah, and it was really powerful to find a fellow sojourner on the path out there in the wilderness. made it a lot less lonely. You actually like threw a lot of firewood on my fire. Like you got me so revved up and so passionate. And I was like, you know what? This has to change. We’re gonna change the world, Becky.

Becky Buck (31:01)
Yeah. We’re just, it’s what we do. Just one brave truth at a time. One brave truth at a time.

Ruth Perry (31:09)
We should have recurring conversations because you’re a wealth of knowledge and expertise on this and just such a beautiful soul and your heart is bigger than anybody else’s. You have so much love and passion and a heart for justice and making things right. Which I feel like that’s straight from God and that’s a mission and the Church is blessed to have you. And I hope more people tune in and join us in this I don’t know that I like the word deconstruction, but I don’t have another one. So just question the script that you’ve been given because… Yeah! Yeah. Yeah.

Becky Buck (31:54)
Just call it critical thinking, where we’re exploring critical thinking skills together, because that inevitably leads to deconstruction.

Ruth Perry (32:03)
Yeah, things aren’t as black and white as we were told. There’s room for questions. And wrestling with your faith is a biblical thing to do, so.

Becky Buck (32:11)
Mm-hmm. Yep.

Ruth Perry (32:12)
Before we say goodbye on this one, can you tell me about where the name The Beautiful Kingdom Warriors came from?

Becky Buck (32:19)
yes, can I tell you that? Well, I remember us wanting to start this blog. You talk about me lighting a fire under you, but your spirit spoke to me about just being willing to be wrong, being willing to shift and change gears and perspectives. And I think, you know, we both knew that when we met, we were supposed to do something with our experience and our stories.

I guess originally because we really geared this more towards like women in ministry and debunking, complimentarian faith, the word beautiful came to my mind, because like, that’s such a hot button word in the church as a woman, right? Like if you’re too pretty, you’re going to distract the men. But if you’re not pretty enough, you’re not trying hard enough to get a husband. So there’s this really distorted view.

Ruth Perry (33:08)
Or you’re not trying hard enough for your husband that you already have.

Becky Buck (33:11)
Also true. So I think reclaiming that word under the lens of an egalitarian worldview. And then warrior comes out of, a very misunderstood translation when in Genesis when, you know, it’s the account where like basically scriptures are written as like you know God made a helper for Adam and this is a weapon that complementarian people use and high control religion and fundamentalist Christianity and all of that use to say that that headship is biblical right like God created men men then is told that he will have a helper.

So like a woman has to come under. I always was described it as like God, men, women come under the mission of the men in their lives. So first their fathers and their pastors, and then when they get married, that then becomes the umbrella that they’re under to come under their husband’s for furthering the gospel. And so that also never sat well with me.

Right, remember Little Becky with the bow and arrow and G.I. Joe and Barbie, like I have a warrior spirit within my soul. And I think, a big piece of my deconstruction journey was reading the book Lost Women of the Bible by Carolyn Custis James. And at that time, her husband was the president of Reform Theological Seminary where Graham was at. And so she took a massive hit in writing this book, basically debunking headship and pushing forward God’s truth for women and celebrating and empowering women as equals in life and ministry.

And I think she basically opens the book and kind of talks about that word helper. And it’s translated as ezer and it means yes, helper, but in the Hebrew, it actually means more of like co-laborer or co-warrior. And I think it’s 16 other times that it’s used in the Old Testament in reference to God coming and helping in battle. So it’s this visual of a man and a woman being back to back in battle, keeping an eye out for one another to fight for safety for whatever they’re fighting for. And I actually have that tattooed too.

Somewhere, nope, not that arm. This arm, this arm, some arm, this arm. I don’t think you can see it, but it’s there somewhere. I don’t know. I don’t know how to move it. But I think that was reclaiming that word, right? Through that knowledge received from the Lost Women of the Bible book. And I think it’s such a powerful visual that’s inclusive of everybody in how.

Ruth Perry (35:32)
Yay! Yeah!

Becky Buck (35:53)
whether it’s a romantic relationship, friendship, whatever it is, men and women are meant to work together, back to back, to co-warrior in sharing light and love and truth.

Ruth Perry (36:08)
I think Carolyn Custis James uses the phrase Blessed Alliance to explain what the relationship between men and women ought to be in God’s kingdom. And it’s like such a misrepresentation of egalitarianism that women want to be above men. Like we want to be free to use our gifts and follow our callings and be a part of building God’s kingdom here on earth as in heaven. And it’s about an alliance. It’s not a competition. And really the curse is where the dominion of man came over the woman. So we don’t want to live out the curse. We’re supposed to like live in the resurrection, redemption, history of Jesus now. Like in the kingdom of God, we should not be living under the curse.

Becky Buck (36:38)
right. Yeah, yeah, think, yeah, I think when we chose the Beautiful Kingdom Warriors, that was kind of the thought behind that. And I love how you kind of shifted it to be builders, right? Because that has more of a peace lens, which we need in this world.

Ruth Perry (37:00)
Yeah. Yeah, I was getting a lot of comments from people, why are you using such violent language? like, well, I mean, it was more like drawing from the imagery of the Bible and the, but yeah, I think they both, I like both names.

Becky Buck (37:17)
Mm-hmm. Yeah, well I think you’re, you know, the, the, I don’t even know what we call it, the blog, the company, the, what is it? What is it even now?

Ruth Perry (37:29)
Yeah, I just always call that a blog. I don’t really know.

Becky Buck (37:32)
I feel like it did its job and now it’s being birthed into something new. And I think it feels like it’s moving towards a more inclusive space where it doesn’t have to be as feminine driven, like in terms of what it needed to be to start for both of us to find a place for our voice and to help other women struggling with feeling like they didn’t have a place and that they were too much and not enough.

Ruth Perry (38:02)
It’s like once your dominoes start falling, you realize, well, actually, you know, patriarchy is linked to white supremacy, is linked to colonizing, is linked to this, is linked to that. And you’re seeing like how everything is interconnected because anything that’s like about supremacy of one over another is anti-God’s kingdom, I think.

Becky Buck (38:13)
Mm-hmm. Agreed. Totally agree. Because people use religion as a weapon, right? In my anthropology class when I went back to school, which was also a huge piece of my deconstruction journey, was like going to a secular university for the first time in my entire life. But it has made me so full and like clear in my vision and purpose and who I am and who I want to become. Like I could not have done the work that I needed to do to get to this point in my journey. the professor, the first day of class, she started by saying, beware of ideology. I didn’t even know what ideology was. I think when we say it has to be this way and only this way or else.

The or else is a problem. And you’re absolutely right. Like we can’t look at egalitarian belief in ministry and then not talk about issues related to like systems of oppression 100%. Like, yeah, I’m in full support of that. you can cut this out if you want to but I even hesitate to call myself a Christian at all these days. and it’s not because I don’t believe in the love of God and the person of Christ like bringing that truth through his life and death and resurrection. But yeah, I think the Christian nationalist movement has defiled the name of Christianity and Christian. And there were atrocities and terrible things that the Protestant faith and the Catholic Church did, again, weaponizing ideology for power and control and colonialism.

Yeah, maybe I would just end that with beware of ideology because it’s serving someone. That ideology that you are screaming in the streets taking bullets for, that is serving someone else who is not in the street taking bullets, right? And I think that’s where the critical thinking lens is really, really important in offering compassion and understanding to one another, but also being willing to be wrong and to pull back and say, like that wasn’t okay that that happened in history or in my past or path. Yeah. Yeah.

Ruth Perry (40:45)
The truth will set us free. It doesn’t help to be defensive or defend like the indefensible. It’s better just to shine a light on it.

Becky Buck (40:57)
For sure, for sure. And we talk a lot about like moving the needle, right? So I think it was Lisa in one of her sermons that that always stuck with me. You’re either moving towards a growing relationship with Christ or like moving away from that.

Ruth Perry (41:15)
I remember her saying that the day that we went to the youth group and that you and I shared about ezer and Genesis and she had her lesson first and I remember her talking about that with the kids and then I remember us talking and then if I remember correctly maybe Kian or Marissa had like a gecko or some lizard that they named Ezer and I was like really honored.

Becky Buck (41:36)
I love that. I love that.

Ruth Perry (41:37)
And I also remember while we were at North Harbor, think between you and I causing such a stir over women’s equality that they changed Lisa’s title from director to pastor. And I felt like that was so exciting. And now North Harbor has a female lead pastor. It’s like just.

Becky Buck (41:51)
They did. They did. I have chills from that. Yes. Yes, yes, Patty is,

Ruth Perry (42:00)
You and I speaking up and this being the thing that we’re passionate about. I mean, you can like really change a culture. And so it’s really powerful when we talk, tell our stories, ask our questions out loud. It’s powerful.

Becky Buck (42:03)
That makes me cry.

Yeah, and to not be afraid to think about who’s missing at the table, right? If we’re going to say that love is God and God is love and God loves the world, then the world should be represented at our table equally across the board. So if there are people missing at the table, there’s a reason why they’re missing. And I think not being content and asking the hard questions paves safety to experience love and belonging.

because now you’re safe enough to critically think and explore and deconstruct and you’re in a safe place to do that. And then again, inevitably love wins. And so you come to a place where more people’s voices are at the table and more work can be done creating places where people can belong and they are no longer feeling oppressed. They’re no longer feeling less than. And yeah.

I agree. I think it’s so powerful how one voice can turn to two voices, can turn to hundreds and thousands of voices just by asking the questions and finding that truth and that light together.

Ruth Perry (43:17)
Man, this was a really beautiful episode and I’m just so grateful for you, Becky, and I love you so much.

Becky Buck (43:25)
I love you too. I’m so, so grateful that we have reconnected and got to kind of celebrate where we came from and where we’re at. And maybe we can kind of revisit where you want to take this next. I don’t know.

Ruth Perry (43:37)
Yeah, let’s do this again soon.

Becky Buck (43:40)
Definitely.

Ruth Perry (43:41)
Alright, thank you. Bye.

Becky Buck (43:43)
You’re welcome. We did it!


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Red Letter Christians Interview with Dr. Mimi Haddad

The following are excerpts from an interview that Shane Claiborne and Tony Campolo, of Red Letter Christians, did with Dr. Mimi Haddad, the president of Christians for Biblical Equality. It was so good, I had to transcribe* it for you. You can listen to the full interview here. Enjoy!

Shane: How does the work for equality of women intersect with other humanitarian and justice issues?

Mimi:  When you consider that the face of poverty, illiteracy, malnutrition is largely female, and abuse and the demand for sex slaves around the world is driven by the porn industry, this explains why 200 million females are missing from the planet, as Dr. Amartya Sen has shown from Harvard. It also explains why humanitarian organizations demonstrate that when you invest in the education, health and businesses of females, these are the communities that thrive economically. Research from Goldman Sachs shows that investing in females drives economic growth, and it lowers unethical practices. This is referred to as The Girl Effect or the Virtuous Cycle. And the World Bank says undermining patriarchy is smart economics, it’s good for families, communities, and whole countries. And that’s what CBE seeks to do, because it is almost impossible to leverage humanitarian objectives like gender equality without the support of communities and a correct reading of Scripture.

Tony:  Where has the Church hindered biblical equality for women, and where has the Church helped biblical equality for women?

Mimi:  They are intricately connected. When the Church has had a high view of the cross and has read Scripture through the atonement rather than through gender roles, you see social justice advanced across-the-board. Consider the world of early Evangelicals, of the 1800’s. This is when the word Evangelical had more noble connotations. They were advocates of racial and gender justice, because they were strong advocates of the cross. They truly believed that Calvary changed everything, and they preached on Galatians 2:28 more than any other group in history. For example, A. J. Gordon, after whom Gordon College and Gordon-Conwell Seminary are named, he was the strongest advocate of Women’s Emancipation and Abolition.

Tony: The feminist movement, which in many cases is seen as a secular movement, began with Evangelical roots. Charles Finney, who Billy Graham considered the father of modern Evangelical preaching, if you became a Christian, he wanted to know if you were committed to the Anti-Slave movement and the Feminist Movement. Feminists had their first meetings in Wesleyan churches up in north western New York state, called The Niagara Movement. Maybe you can comment more on the history of the movement.

Mimi:  The Wesleyans have been leaders in Abolition and Women’s Suffrage, and in fact, Methodist women like Catherine Booth, who was driven by Wesleyan thought, and Katharine Bushnell, who was really one of the most popular women of her day. She was an anti-trafficker, a silence-breaker of the highest order.  I published recently an article on her legacy.  She exposed prostituted girls and women chained to beds in the Wisconsin lumber mills and the iron lines of Michigan.  It is only as Evangelicals have backed away from the high view of the cross, the high view of atonement, the idea that Jesus changes everything, that we have Evangelicals like John Piper, one of the most popular Evangelicals today, arguing not that Christianity has a Jesus-feeling to it but a masculine feel. And this has really regressed our advocacy for social justice. It is viewed now as a feminist and secular agenda.

Shane: What is it that keeps this patriarchy entrenched? Are you hopeful?

Tony: And I would like you to comment more on John Piper, one of the gurus of our time. How do you think he’s effected your movement?

Mimi:  I am hopeful, because millennials have been very strong in their courage and in giving voice so we no longer normalize the silence of victims. We are seeing it as part of our moral duty to expose perpetrators, and to create systems and structures, licensing and practices that make predators less prominent in culture and in churches. Patriarchy is deeply rooted in human culture. You can misread all religious texts, as Jimmy Carter has said in his wonderful book, “A Call to Action.” We normalize patriarchy because the “he will rule over you” sin will remain present until Christ returns. But it’s Christians that have to shine through that, as these early Methodists did, and point to a higher path and point to the cross.

I think that the tragedy that because it’s so normal, people like John Eldridge in “Wild at Heart,” instead of going to a Genesis to Revelation reading of the Bible, goes to art museums and points to the glorification of the female body, which of course, humans are made in God’s image and are beautifully and wonderfully made. Instead, we tend to make masculine and gender roles more about biblical ideals than about newness of life in Christ and leaders living by the fruit of the Spirit.

Shane: I was just speaking at an event with Lauren Winner, who’s a wonderful writer, and she said even the images we have of God tend to be very masculine. For example, the metaphors in Scripture that have become prominent are like all the churches we have called “The Good Shepherd,” and she asked if we’d ever seen “The Church of the Mother Hen.” Pull some things out of Scripture for us, where you see these roots, so you can correct our patriarchal theology.

Mimi: We have masculinized our reading of the Bible. When Jesus prayed, “Our Father,” this language hardened into modern concepts of ‘father.’ When Jesus prayed to Father, it was fathers in the ancient world who gave their children identity and inheritance. So instead of walking into the gender, masculine/maleness of that, Jesus was pointing to the bequeathing of identity, gifts, inheritance, protection. We’re missing the point when we impose gender on that instead of, “What is the larger moral principle?” It’s not maleness, it’s God’s love, protection.

Similarly, when we translate the Bible, we haven’t always done a great job.  We mistranslated words. For example, in Genesis, when gender is elaborated extensively in the first three chapters.  The only bad thing about a perfect world is Adam’s aloneness, so God creates an ezer kenegdo, which should be translated “strong rescue,” as David Freedman has demonstrated. We translate it as “help,” which in English connotes a subordination or an inferior. So translation committees need to work a little harder. And as Lauren Winner has said, we need to pull out these metaphors of God as mother. Metaphors have points of contact and points of no contact. If you’re on the patriarchal spectrum of Bible translation, you harden the masculine aspect of that instead of the moral aspect.

Tony: Also recognize, when you go to the original Greek, and to the Holy Spirit, there is every indication that the word pneuma in the Scriptures, both in the Hebrew and the Greek, suggest a femininity, that the Holy Spirit is the feminine aspect of God, that God is both masculine and feminine.

Shane: Tell us what the average person can be doing to get on board with the movement for biblical equality.

Mimi: The first thing we need to do is to work at an educational level. We need to understand and be aware of the deepest, largest study of marriage in the world is “Prepare and Enrich.”  They consistently show that dominance in marriage is a key factor in predicting abuse.  We also need to address pornography.  Have you ever heard a sermon preached on pornography?

Tony: I preached a sermon on pornography. We look at it as “what it is doing to men?”, when in reality, we ought to be asking, “what is it doing to women?” How is it reducing the status of women and how is it making women into things to be used rather than partners to be appreciated and loved.

Mimi: Right. The use of porn between Christian and non-Christian men is exactly the same. Porn of course reinforces male-dominance, female submission, and the eroticism used to be pictures of women on magazines and has moved to men inflicting pain on women and silencing their abuse. So strict gender-roles need to be explored biblically and and socially. One of four primary characteristics of abusers is adherence to strict gender roles. We need to hear sermons on strict gender roles that are enforced by groups like Boko Haram, Isis and the Taliban that tyrannize girls and enslave thousands around the world.

Shane: Yeah, I’m noticing how deeply entrenched this gets.  I’m writing a book on guns and gun violence right now.  Overwhelmingly, the predictor of women getting killed starts with domestic abuse, and women are often killed by a person who holds a key to their house, usually an intimate partner.  Looking at studies around the environment, say that when we begin to desecrate the lives of women, it leads to all sorts of other things.  But this is often the beginning sign.

Mimi: Yeah, and when governments use power and abuse, in enforcing law and even the death sentence, we see the rates of homicide rises, as Jimmy Carter has shown. That’s an important critique. We need to preach about domestic violence and abuse from the pulpit. I asked my pastor to do that last year, and he had preached for 65 years and never preached on abuse.

Tony: The thing is, we need to go to the Bible. In Galatians, as you pointed out, “In Christ, there is no longer Jew nor Greek, bond nor free, Scythian or Barbarian, male or female, all are all one in Christ Jesus.” And when the Holy Spirit comes upon the Church in the second chapter of Acts, both the men and the women end up preaching, end up prophesying. So pushing women out of the role of the pulpit preacher is unbiblical, because when the Holy Spirit comes upon the Church, women are given the same rights as men to be proclaimers of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. I’m awed and upset that certain denominations, like the Southern Baptists, have said that women cannot be preachers in the Church when men are in the congregation

Shane: When some of the first evangelists were women! The actual paradox of all this, is that women can be Sunday School teachers and missionaries, but cannot be entrusted with the pulpit. We give them some of the most precious work in the Church while still saying they’re not equal.

Tony: Our Southern Baptist brothers and sisters say they’re against the ordination of women. And their greatest missionary ever produced was a woman! Lottie Moon! I think the word that I have is, I’m against the ordination of women, I’m against the ordination of men, because all Christians are ordained for ministry.

Shane: I was talking to some of my friends about some of the things I love about Catholicism, and one of them pushed back, saying, “What have Catholics ever done for women?” And on the one hand I said, many of the great women we love from history, Julian of Norwich, Catherine of Sienna, Mother Theresa, St. Clair of Assisi, have been iconized. What would you say to our Catholic brothers and sisters as we’re thinking about this? Will women priests ever happen?

Mimi: It looks like the Pope is taking seriously the role of women as deacons, which in many traditions is an ordained office, because certainly it is hard to disprove that Phoebe was a deacon, and she was  the only woman in the New Testament that held an official office in a church. And once you start these committees to do research, it’s very hard not to fall into the deep tradition of the priesthood of all believers. When very few women serve in top leadership, there’s a lot of abuse and unethical practice. Adding women, regardless of your denomination, will help with these ethical problems. The Catholic church like all churches, education is key.

Tony: In the 16th chapter of Romans, Junia is referred to by the Apostle Paul as a fellow apostle, the highest role of leadership in the church. What’s weird is that the first edition of the NIV, they changed the name to Junias to hide that a woman held the highest office in the church!  

*transcription errors and emphases are mine, all mine.  


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