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oo5 I Dr. Roy Ciampa on Paul’s Household Instructions in Ephesians 5

My guest this week is my former Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary professor, Dr. Roy Ciampa, whose transformative class, Ephesians in Depth, has stayed with me over the years as my faith has grown and changed. In this conversation, we discuss the theological implications of Paul’s writings, the cultural context of the Greco-Roman world, and the significance of mutual submission in relationships. Dr. Ciampa shares insights from his academic background and teaching experiences, emphasizing the importance of understanding scripture in its historical context. The dialogue highlights the beauty of God’s love and grace, encouraging listeners to reflect on their own faith journeys and the role of women in ministry.

I think my favorite thing Dr. Ciampa said to me, was that Ephesians was “written in the key of worship.”

Dr. Ciampa mentions a document he compiled to help students understand first century Greco-Roman views of women and marriage, beginning with Old Testament and Classical Greek texts up through the time of the New Testament, so that NT texts might be better understood in light of the developing contexts. You can read that insightful document here. And find more of Dr. Ciampa’s scholarly writings on his website, viceregency.com.

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Transcript:

Ruth Perry (00:16)
This is a new thing for me and I appreciate you being one of my very first guests, Dr. Ciampa.

Roy Ciampa (00:22)
Well, I’m honored to be invited and hope this will be helpful to people.

Ruth Perry (00:26)
What I’m hoping to share on my podcast for my first season is I’m going to go back and have conversations with people who helped me as my faith has shifted and changed over the last 20 years. Because my background is very conservative, complementarian, traditional, But it’s changed a lot over the years through crises of faith and through cognitive dissonance that’s happened and different things that have gone on. And I’m just really grateful that my faith has remained strong because I’ve encountered people like you who’ve helped me to reimagine my faith and think about things differently.

Roy Ciampa (01:04)
That’s nice to hear.

Ruth Perry (01:04)
And so at the time that I had you as a professor, I was a complementarian student, pretty committed to that perspective. And I was an educational ministries student at Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary. And I think that I took Ephesians as one of my core theology classes. And it’s the only class that I encountered you as a professor. But looking back on my seminary experience, I really loved that class so much and the book of Ephesians has just remained my favorite book of the Bible.

And I’m really grateful that I had that experience because I didn’t have to learn Greek or Hebrew in seminary as an education student. And this was the only class where we really went through word by word and you taught how to parse Paul’s Greek into English and how to make sense of his run on sentences and you taught the importance of understanding the context of the passage. And I just learned so much from you. And so I’m really excited to talk about that with you today. But I thought before we get into that, I would like to know more about you. I don’t really know what your faith formation was like, your background, where you’re coming from. If you’d like to just go back and tell us a little bit about your own spiritual journey.

Roy Ciampa (02:15)
Sure, I’d be happy to. I grew up in an nominal Christian family. We went to church about once a year because my grandmother wanted us to. I was confirmed in a Congregational church when I was, I suppose, a young teenager. But it didn’t really mean much. I never really understood anything about the Bible.

I came to faith when I was in my first year of college, I owe it, a large part of it, I owe, I think, to next door neighbors who moved in when I was in middle school. Wonderful, dedicated Christians, the Monk family, and they had two sons, one a year older than me and one a year younger, Robert and Stuart. And the whole family just modeled for me, a wonderful Christian faith and love. And so they took me to evangelistic events.

But I didn’t think that I thought I was a Christian. I remember sitting during one, in a roller skating rink while somebody was speaking and we had our heads down and I’m saying that this isn’t for me. I’m already Christian. They’re not talking about me. I’m a Christian. Anyway, it was my first year of college. Some guys shared the gospel with me and I realized that this was the message that had transformed their lives and their family and I realized it was true and I was in need of it and so I trusted in the Lord and I was baptized, came to faith, I was discipled.

But I was in a very conservative context. I was listening to the guys that discipled me had me listening to some fundamentalist preachers. John R. Rice wrote a book I Am a Fundamentalist and after a year I felt like God was calling me into ministry and I went to Jerry Falwell’s school at the time was called Liberty Baptist College for a year. And then after a year there I transferred to Gordon College where I did my undergraduate degree.

By the time I graduated from Gordon College, well certainly I was no longer a fundamentalist, was I would say mainstream evangelical and probably still conservative on women’s issues but very open to other ways of understanding that issue.

I don’t really remember at what point, if it was near the end of my college experience or beginning of my seminary experience, I went to Denver Seminary, had some great mentors there. And I know while I was at Denver Seminary, I became a convinced egalitarian.

And that came out of various kinds of experiences. Part of it was coming to have a much better understanding of the world in which the New Testament was written, and especially Paul, in the context of his letters and the things that he says about women, among other things. And part of it was just understanding more broadly what theology would say about how I should relate to my own wife and other women as well.

But maybe we’ll get around to that later. After seminary, my wife and I were appointed to go overseas and we had two kids by then and we took our kids and we went to Portugal where I trained pastors. And overall, our time in Portugal span about 12 years, and in the middle of that, I spent a couple of years in Scotland doing my PhD.

I had wonderful time training pastors and Christian leaders in Portugal, worked with the Bible Society there to help with their contemporary Portuguese translation of the Bible. And then I was invited to go teach at Gordon-Conwell in 2001. So I taught the New Testament studies at Gordon-Conwell from 2001 to 2014. At a certain point became the Chair of the Division of Biblical Studies there.

And then after or 13 years there, I went and worked for four years for American Bible Society, training Bible translators and Bible translation consultants around the world. I still taught for Gordon Conwell on weekends while I was doing that, but my main gig was training Bible translators and Bible translation consultants. So that was a great experience, but I missed the full-time academic community.

So in 2018 I accepted the invitation to take on the role of Chair of the Religion Department which soon became the Department of Biblical and Religious Studies at Samford University in Birmingham, Alabama. But.

In 2024, I retired and moved back to New Hampshire, which is where my wife and I had had a place for a while, and it’s our happy place. And so I’m now a professor emeritus at Stanford University, and I teach a course a semester for Gordon Conwell. I’m teaching Interpreting the New Testament for Gordon Conwell on Thursdays right now. So I mean, that’s that’s more than you wanted, probably, but that’s kind of the overview.

Ruth Perry (06:38)
No, that’s great. Congratulations on retiring and then continuing your work.

Roy Ciampa (06:44)
Thank you. Well, there’s lots of what I’ve done that I love. I’m still writing books and articles and teaching one day a week scratches that itch. so it’s fun.

Ruth Perry (06:53)
I’m a Gordon College graduate myself. I was a music major there and the reason why I decided to study music was because I loved the church and I wanted to be in ministry and that’s where I saw women serving in the church. So I studied music and then I decided to go to Gordon Conwell in 2003 when I graduated from Gordon College because I still loved learning so much and I wanted to continue learning and in my conception of my ministry life, I always conceived myself as just being in volunteer ministry in the church. And that I would be a pastor’s wife, likely, or a missionary’s wife. I really wanted to live overseas. I went backpacking through Europe while I was in college, and Portugal was my favorite. I loved Portugal.

Roy Ciampa (07:41)
It’s a great country.

Ruth Perry (07:41)
And so I would have liked to have been a missionary or a musician, but those were really the only two ideas that I had in my brain that a woman could do in the church. I knew that I loved the church more than anything and I really wanted to serve the church. So that’s what brought me to Gordon-Conwell and brought me to your classroom. And it sounds like it was early on in your teaching there.

Roy Ciampa (08:00)
Yeah, it was early on at Gordon-Conwell. I taught for a number of years in Portugal, but that was in my early years at Gordon-Conwell, yes. And I remember that course called Ephesians in Depth, as I recall.

Ruth Perry (08:09)
It was in depth for sure. Yes. I remember we went word by word and we would, I can’t even remember how to explain what you did with us in the class. I was trying to find my class notes because I know that they’re in my basement somewhere. But I remember we parsed every sentence and figured out what the structure was. And you really brought it.

Roy Ciampa (08:29)
Ha

Ruth Perry (08:37)
It was hard work and it brought the book to life for me.

Roy Ciampa (08:41)
That’s so kind of you to say. I’m grateful to hear that.

Ruth Perry (08:43)
And it’s such a beautiful book. Ephesians, it just, the words that come to mind when I think about Ephesians is, Paul keeps talking about peace and love and unity and the power of the Holy Spirit and all the blessings that we’ve received from God. And it’s just such a beautiful theological grounding of then why we should follow Christ and live in a way worthy of the calling we’ve received.

And so I don’t know how much you want to talk about Ephesians itself before we get to the household codes in Ephesians 5. But what I really want to talk with you too for my Beautiful Kingdom Builders audience is the context of the book of Ephesians and what was going on in the cultural world at that time that would have helped the people who are hearing Paul’s message in that day understand it maybe differently than we understand it today.

Roy Ciampa (09:35)
Well, yeah, there’s a lot to talk about. So many different aspects of it. And I think one of the things, actually in our church, we’re in a small group right now that’s going through Ephesians. And so it’s been kind of fun to do that in a church Bible study again. But one of the things I think that’s key to Ephesians, you just have this joyful, kind of, I would say worshipful kind of tone to the whole thing.

Many people have pointed out that the letter has a different style than most of Paul’s letters. It has these kind of run-on sentences and these kind of complicated sentences. There’s lots of what we call pleonasms where you could say something simply, but in a pleonasm you could put up two or three different ways of saying it within the same sentence. So over and over again Paul will say we have kind of this blessing of redemption, the forgiveness of our sins. And it’s like, well, those are two different ways of talking about the same thing, or he’ll talk about within one line, he does this a couple of times in the opening part of Ephesians, that everything’s happened according to God’s purpose and his will and his choice. It’s like, well, those are just three different ways of saying God did what he wanted to do.

And I’m reminded that, We find examples of this in various contexts. We find it in poetry and we find it in worship music. An example I typically use is the song Majesty, Worship His Majesty. And if you go through that song over and over again, it finds different ways to say the same thing in new words. Kingdom authority, majesty, kingdom authority, so exalt, lift up on high. Those are two different things, they’re not. Exalt, lift up on high, the name of Jesus. Magnify, come glorify. What’s the difference between magnifying, it’s all the same thing.

Singing this is just a worshipful, excited, rich, different way of expressing yourself. And Paul begins the letter with what’s called a Jewish Baruchah, which in Hebrew would be blessed, be like Baruch HaTah, Adonai Eloheinu, blessed as the Lord our God. he starts out, blessed is the…

God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every blessing in Christ. And so I think the style is different and I think it’s different for a purpose because Paul’s wanting to express his theology in a very worshipful almost liturgical kind of way.

And it’s remarkable that he’s doing that while he’s under arrest. He says he’s in chains, which reminds us of Acts of course, when they’re imprisoned in Philippi and they end up singing songs and praising God in prison. And here Paul is, he’s in prison and he writes a letter and he writes it in the key of worship. And partly that’s because just who Paul is and partly because he’s writing to readers who are Gentiles, who are so far away from where Christianity began in Jerusalem and Judea. And they’ve got to be thinking as Gentiles, like their spiritual leader is now in prison and could lose his life.

What does this mean? Have they gotten themselves messed up with something they shouldn’t have? Has a train gone off the rails and they’ve got to be concerned about Paul. They’ve got to be concerned about what all this means. And here’s Paul, he writes from prison, he’s like, God’s plan is working itself out in this wonderful way and it’s such a blessing to me to be a part of this. let’s praise God for all the blessings that we have. And let me just list off some of these blessings for you.

And it really is, I think, meant to reassure the readers that… the train hasn’t gone off the rails, that God is in charge, that everything that they’ve experienced is part of God’s plan of redemption and of reconciling Jews and Gentiles together and to God, and that Paul is not at all, know, fretting or depressed or himself concerned that something’s gone wrong because he’s in prison, but he sees God’s hand in all of this. So I think that’s a, for me, that’s a very important part of the background.

And then you have to be careful because I’m tempted to try and lecture my way through a whole semester’s worth of stuff on Ephesians in one little conversation. But I do think, you know, that most people recognize that two halves of the letter have different tones and sometimes they describe the first half as doctrine and the second as practical teaching.

But an important key is that it’s not just that Paul decided to talk and discuss theology for a while and then look at his watch and said, well, that’s maybe enough theology for them. Maybe I should give them some practical stuff. And so let me talk practical stuff for a while. But the theology underwrites the practical part. That is, the theology, the first part is there to support everything he’s going to tell the church that they ought to be doing.

And the second part, they are organized organically related to each other. And the whole first part is about God’s grace, his mercy, his love, how he hasn’t treated us the way we deserve when we were, you know, children of wrath by nature. He hasn’t treated us that way, but he’s shown us love and mercy and grace and blessing upon blessing upon blessing. And then we get in the second half of the letter. And in my understanding, the second half of letter is primarily all about imitating God.

And so we get that theme early on how we should be imitators of God. We shouldn’t live like the Gentiles live. That’s one of the themes. But we should be imitators of God. And then he talks about how God has shown his love to us in Jesus Christ who gave himself for us and his love for us. And so we have sections that talk about how we should be one, united together as one body.

And then we have material talking about how we should and love and we should walk in the light and then later how we should walk in wisdom and then finally the last part is where we should put on the full armor of God and we look at those things they come what do these things have in common being one walking in love and light and wisdom well love and light are two main attributes of God God is love God is light

And then wisdom is another very well-known attribute of God, the all-wise one. And there’s large sections of scripture dedicated to wisdom and Proverbs 8 and elsewhere. And that’s understood to be an attribute of God. And then you think,

When we walk in love, we’re imitating God. When we walk in light, we’re imitating God. When we walk in wisdom, we’re imitating God and His wisdom. And then you realize that the full armor of God we’re supposed to put on is not just armor that God gives us, but the Old Testament background tells us this is the armor that God puts on. He puts on a helmet of salvation. He puts on a breastplate of righteousness. When he goes and he fights spiritual battles for his people. So even when we put on our spiritual armor, we’re still imitating God.

That earlier part about being one, it’s like, that’s right, God is one. So when we’re one, you there’s one God, one Lord, one baptism, and when we act as one, we’re also imitating God. So one of the greatest ways we imitate God then, when you understand the relationship between the first half of the letter and the second half, is by treating other people the way he’s treated us.

He hasn’t treated us as he could have, but he treated us with love, with mercy, with grace, over and over again. And this ends up becoming very important for, as you referred to, the household codes, because they’re a main theme is about how people in charge with authority treat people that in that culture were under them, wives were under their husbands and children under the parents and slaves under their masters. And so one of the main themes that comes out there is, again, the emphasis tends to be on the person with power, treating the one with less power with grace and mercy and not being harsh with them. But I mean, that raises all kinds of other questions about why do we have household codes and what’s this about?

We’re talking about household codes, we’re talking about slaves and masters. And we don’t have slaves and masters in our household. We think of those as something outside the family. You get your family, and then you get your employees or other people. But of course, that was part of the family. But hey, I’ve been going on for a while now, Ruth, so maybe feel free.

Ruth Perry (18:02)
No, you’re cooking. I’m enjoying it immensely. I was thinking about back to your class, I remember that before we got into the household codes, you started that passage in Ephesians 5.18, be filled with the Holy Spirit, singing songs and hymns and spiritual songs to each other, making music in your heart to the Lord and always giving thanks to God the Father for everything in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ and submitting to each other out of reverence for Christ. That all of those things were under that same heading of be filled with the Holy Spirit.

Roy Ciampa (18:42)
Yes, it is. And being filled with the Holy Spirit is under the heading of walking in wisdom. So, because it’s one of the things is if you look for the term walking, which is often translated as live, like live in love or live according to light. The metaphor is walking in the light and walking in love and walking in children of light or walk wisely. And then the wisdom part underneath that is all the stuff about being filled with the spirit and submitting to one another.

And then so all that stuff about husbands and wives and parents and children and masters and slaves comes under the submitting to one another part, which comes under the being filled with the Holy Spirit part, which comes under the walking in wisdom part.

And it’s Paul providing his readers with wisdom about how to live in family in the first century Ephesian or, you know, Greco-Roman context. And of course, it’s important that context is radically different from ours.

Ruth Perry (19:44)
Can you describe that context for us.

Roy Ciampa (19:47)
Sure. Well, in a few different ways. Maybe one way to start is by, just as we were already kind of hinting at…

that when we talk about a household code, we do talk about husbands and wives and parents and children and masters and slaves because the household was very differently structured than we think of it today. That many households, they had slaves within the household and they’d have also freed men and free women in some cases in the household as well. And so we think of a household typically as, you know, parents and their children and nuclear family.

And sometimes we think of the extended family as well. Maybe there are grandparents around or something. But we don’t think of parents and children and slaves and freed men and women as part of a household. But that is a part of what a fairly well-to-do or a somewhat well-to-do household would have all those components. And then, you know, we realize

When people preach through Ephesians, when they get to the stuff about slaves and masters, they realize what we don’t approve of masters and slaves today. And so if they’re to preach on that, they kind of adapt it and say, well, this might apply to like employees and employers and that sort of thing. And so here we can get some wisdom for how we can relate to each other as employees and employers. And maybe there’s it’s OK. But it’s really important to point out that employees are not slaves and employers are not masters. And so you have to make adaptations.

You can’t just say all the employers shouldn’t treat the employees the way Paul thought, you know, masters should treat slaves. And we have to be reminded that Paul’s not endorsing slavery, but early Christians were living in a world where this is just part of the social fabric. They weren’t put in charge. They weren’t asked to take over the social fabric and restructure it. They had to learn how can they live as Christians within that social fabric and within these institutions. And so Paul provides wisdom for those who are in these situations.

But as I was saying, when we get to that stuff about masters and slaves, people say, we have to make adjustments. We can’t just apply that to employees and employers because that’s not the same thing. But when we preach about husbands and wives, people look around and say, I know husbands and wives, and many of us will say, well, I’m a husband or I’m a wife and I have a wife or a husband. And so they’re all around us. So when he starts talking about husbands and wives, we’re like, okay, we know what he’s talking about.

This is something very familiar to all of us, except that it isn’t because marriage has evolved in many ways. And so to go back and realize that in the Greco-Roman world, Men didn’t typically marry until they were 28 to 30 years old. And partly because there was no expectation with the double standard that’s typical in all of history, the double standard with regard to sex is that men weren’t expected to remain pure or virgins until marriage. They had access to prostitutes and household slaves and other sexual outlets and that wasn’t considered a problem by most people in the Greco-Roman world. Whereas women were expected to be married shortly after going through puberty.

When I was in class, I have like a 40 page document, you may or may not recall of this kind of material from the Old Testament and quotes from the Greco-Roman world and different sources where people are talking about husbands and wives and it talks about age at marriage and it talks about, you know, the understanding that it’s good if a woman or girl can know how to carry on a conversation and maybe do a little bit of sewing, a little bit of cooking, but that’s about it because she’s supposed to learn everything she learns from her husband that she’s supposed to be like a tabla rasa, she’s supposed to be like a blank slate on whom the husband can leave his impressions.

I was just reading, reviewing again because something came up on social media. I don’t remember what it was anymore, but it was about, that’s what it was, this woman’s book recently. A woman wrote a book on misogyny in America and the publisher accidentally put out an ad or an email inviting people to submit for exam copies. whoever prepared the text for that forgot to replace the name of the author from a previous book they must have worked on. And so they had the title of the book in the book cover, but the author’s name was a man who hadn’t written anything like this, who writes in very different subjects.

So here’s a book on misogyny in the church, and the publisher puts out something that attributes it to a man instead of the woman who wrote it, and reminded me of this ancient… thing about somebody who’s talking about some man’s wife who’s a man who’s great at poetry and he’s presented some poetry from his wife and he claims that his wife wrote this wonderful poetry and this person’s saying it’s great poetry but you know I’m not sure if his wife really wrote it but either way the husband deserves the credit because either he’s the one who really wrote it or He’s the one that taught her.

So whatever the woman produces, it’s always back to the man. Because again, she’s expected to have learned whatever she knows through her husband, a woman getting married right after puberty and a man not marrying until he’s 28 or 30 years old. There’s a huge difference, not only in age, but maturity, knowledge of the world and in the Greco-Roman world, the extent to which women were expected to be more or less confined to the home, whereas men could go anywhere and could have a greater education so their knowledge of the world is different. Their human development at marriage and then throughout marriage. You might say, 10 years later it’ll be different. Well, 10 years later they still, they would have already formed a kind of relationship where he’s practically like a parent.

The husband’s practically a parent or Ben Witherington describes it as almost an uncle-niece relationship between a husband and wife at that time. And that changes a lot. I mean, that helps you understand all kinds of things in the New Testament when people are talking about how husbands and wives should relate to each other. It’s a significant thing in terms of submission if the wife has always only been kind of tutored by her husband and taught by him and mentored by him.

You know, three stages of human development behind him, then it’s natural that the man’s going to be treated as though he’s more knowledgeable, wiser, more experienced, better able to provide any kind of leadership needed, and that that’s the role that he should have. Which brings us back to that whole thing about love and mercy.

One of things that I realized when I started looking through these texts and thinking about it more was if one of the main themes of the letter is that we should treat each other as Christ and God has treated us, if my wife is my peer, which is something that just was not normally ever the case in the Greco-Roman world, right? We were just talking about that. But my wife is more or less my age. She has the same experience of the world. She hasn’t been cooped up at home. She’s got college education. She has, a master’s degree. She’s wiser than I am on many things and just as intelligent as I am. If she’s my peer in every way, does Jesus, does God really want us to pretend as though I’m much wiser and more knowledgeable than she is and better able to lead in every situation than she is?

Because that was the traditional slot of a wife in first century Ephesus and the slot of a husband in first century Ephesus or should I actually treat her for who she really is? And to recognize her strengths and her knowledge and her wisdom and her abilities. And this relates to something I’ve sometimes referred to as the mapping of identities. That is, we look at women today and we map onto them the identity we find of a wife in the first century Ephesus. We look at a husband today and we map onto them the identity of a husband in first century Ephesus. And we do that in other ways as well. I have an whole article about ways in which this mapping of identities can create real problems.

But I don’t think I should ask my wife to try and fill a slot from a different culture and time, asks her to treat me and asks me to treat her as though we are so different, as though we are as different as the first century Greco-Roman husband and wife, when in fact we’re actually peers. And then I’d go back and realize that if this whole second part is about learning how to treat other people…as God has treated us, and I realize, well, even if you look at the household code, the instructions to husbands and wives aren’t exactly the same as the husbands to parents and children, and neither of those are the same as the instructions to slaves and masters. So Paul recognized that although we’re all supposed to be Christ-like and treat others in Christ-like ways, the nature of the relationship is going to impact what that looks like.

And so the first century Greco-Roman husband-wife relationship is different from the parent-child relationship is different from the slave-master relationship. So Paul provides different instructions. So then I begin to think and realize, well, then we can treat this as a case study.

We have at least three case studies and what it means to apply Christ-like, God-like love and mercy and grace to other people. And it’s one thing in the marriage, one thing with the children, another thing with masters and slaves. Maybe it would be something else if it was with a spouse who is my peer and who is as intelligent and wise and able to lead and do other things as I am, as my same age, same experience of the world, what would it then mean for me to treat her in a Christ-like way and for her to treat me in a Christ-like way and not try to fit them into some…

You know, I’m reminded we have a two and a half year old granddaughter, you know, those cubes you get that have the different shapes, there’s the triangle and there’s the square and the rectangle and the star and you have the blocks, you’re trying to fit them through the right shapes, you know, and I feel like lots of times they’re taking, you know, modern men and women who are very different shapes and we’re trying to fit them into the shapes of the first century husband and wife, male and female.

And those pieces just don’t fit. And the key question still comes back to, if I’m looking at the second half of Ephesians, I’m learning how to walk wisely in acting in Christ-like ways towards people around me.

And so there lots of different relationships. There’s the student athlete relationship. There’s the police officer citizen relationship. There’s the teacher student relationship. There’s the husband wife relationship. There’s the employee employee employee relationship. And all of these we learn how to treat each other in loving ways. But we don’t have to find some first century Greco-Roman slot to fit people into to make that relationship match the one we have.

Ruth Perry (31:02)
I feel like the way my brain works is that I have a sieve inside my brain and when I go to class I learn the information and it all goes away. But for some reason I really latched on to all of that that you taught 20 years ago and then I went off and I got married the next year and it just fell completely into traditional rules because that’s what I grown up with and that’s what had been modeled to me and same for my husband. And so it was just natural to not even think about how we’re going to relate to each other. We just fell into the traditional rules that we had been taught through example and direct teaching. And almost immediately for me as the woman, I could recognize that my voice was diminished, my importance was diminished, and it created some cognitive dissonance for me. But I didn’t, I just tolerated it. I didn’t really rock the boat any.

And then we had another experience early on in our marriage. I’m thinking maybe three or four years after we got married, our church had a really terrible conflict and split. My dad was a pastor and so it was deeply personal. And you’re teaching again on the book of Ephesians. I looked at that experience and it was a traditional church structure with men in leadership. And it was clear as day to me that if the women had a voice and a place at the table in that conflict, things wouldn’t have been as ugly as they were and as destructive and terrible. And so those two things, like my early marriage years and walking through that church conflict,

The importance of your teaching on the book of Ephesians really snapped into place for me crystal clear that if we are walking in a manner worthy of the calling we’ve received, we’re going to submit to one another, male, female, slave, free, Gentile. Like there’s no distinctions that if we’re truly living in the way that God has called us to live, that we’re going to love each other. And that means we’re going to listen to each other’s voices, that every voice has a place and has value.

And we’re going to submit the mutual submission piece that we often gloss straight over and go into, OK, but wives, you’re submitting, and then the husband is the head.

Roy Ciampa (33:12)
Mm-hmm. Right, yes. No, it really, it ends up being, and I hate to say it, but in many cases, not a loving sort of thing, but a very obedience, command-centered sort of thing, which kind of is pushing them back against the grain of the letter as a whole, and the way I understand the theology of the letter as a whole.

By the way, one of the key texts that I think is helpful for thinking about this is in 1 Corinthians chapter 14, where Paul has that part that says, and some people think that this doesn’t belong in the Bible, and I don’t know what you think, but I think verses 34 and 35 are supposed to be there. But it’s the part that says women should remain silent in the churches, they’re not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the law says.

They want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home, for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in the church. Now Paul had already taught that both men and women could pray and prophesy, right, back in chapter 11. And that’s remarkable in itself because a lot of people look at 1 Corinthians 11, they think, because it starts off about who’s the head of who, who’s the head you know, God is the head of Christ, who’s the head of the man, who’s head of the woman. it sounds like, okay, yeah, very much what sort of subordination here and all this sort of thing.

But when he actually gets into it, he talks about ministry in just two terms, prayer and prophecy. Gordon Fee has suggested, and I think he’s probably right, that those are like big terms for discourse directed to God. That’s prayer and discourse directed at the congregation, which is prophecy. But in any case, those are the only two things he talks about. And he says both men and women can do it. They just have to dress appropriately when they’re doing it. So there’s nothing in there about any kinds of ministries that men can do that women can’t.

But anyway, so he’s already said that they can pray and prophesy. So what’s this all about? They should remain silent. And so obviously he’s not speaking about speaking in general. He has certain kinds of speaking. And in that very passage, he says, if they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home. Well, that may be the hint that what he’s talking about is women who don’t understand something that’s going on.

Again, remember the women would have less education, less experience of the world, less knowledge of what’s going on around them. And if they don’t know what’s going on and they’re asking questions that are interrupting them in the church, and in that culture, for a woman to ask another man, somebody else’s husband their question, would be really offensive and would raise all kinds of concerns. Anyway, so.

If that’s what’s going on, Paul says if they have things they should inquire of their own husbands at home. Now, you know, I may have said this when I taught you in class, but I mean, I’ve been teaching since, you know, a full-time teacher since I suppose I started in 1991. And I don’t know how many times I could have said, having both a husband and a wife in my class, I could have said to the husband, if you’re not getting all this, you might ask your wife to explain it to you when you get home.

I’ve very often had husbands and wives in the class and it’s not unusual for the wife to understand things better than to be more academically strong than the husband is. I could never say, you know, if any of the women here don’t understand what I’m talking about, why don’t you ask your own husband at home? not that I couldn’t just say it because it wouldn’t be politically correct, but it would just be stupid.

And I’m not saying Paul’s stupid, The expression assumes a culture and a context where the husband can be virtually guaranteed to know more and understand things better than their wife, which is perfectly reasonable for the Greco-Roman context of Corinth that Paul’s speaking to, not Corinth and Ephesus and the whole world in which Paul’s speaking because of this age and education and experience gap that we talked about at the beginning of our conversation. So a verse like that makes perfectly good sense in that context, but would make absolutely no sense in a world where men and women can both be educated and experienced And so again, I think it really is a problem of, I think, very harmful biblical interpretation when

We end up trying to act as though we are living in roles that were filled by first century people. And we’re gonna figure out how to treat each other in those roles as opposed to treating people for who they actually are. And that’s at the core of love, isn’t it? To know someone, to respect them for who they are, for what they bring to the table, and to learn from each other and to submit to each other.

And that’s really a large part of what effusions is about.

Ruth Perry (38:10)
I think from my background being very conservative, there was a lot of warning against listening to people who didn’t share traditional values because they were being influenced by the culture around them or they were playing fast and loose with scripture and they weren’t taking the word of God seriously or this or that. Like there were so many warnings against listening to someone who might suggest mutual submission or sharing authority between men and women in ministry and in the home.

And in my experience, just with my encounter of you, Dr. Ciampa and since you, many other egalitarian scholars and pastors, they’ve all taken the word of God seriously, and their life has shown the fruit of the Spirit in ways that isn’t always readily witnessed in other people’s lives who are really clinging to the authority structures and having power over others. And so I’m really grateful that I took this Ephesians class with you 20 something years ago and that I remembered all the information even though I compartmentalized it at the time and filed it away and went on with my traditional ways. I’m grateful that it was accessible when I needed it and when things started falling apart. And so then I didn’t just say Well, if this is what Christianity is, I don’t want it. But I could imagine a more beautiful Christianity because of what you had taught me.

Roy Ciampa (39:42)
That’s very kind, but I think that it is very sad to see people turning away from Christianity because the presentation they’ve received is not wholesome, it’s not healthy, it’s not edifying. And too often it is, as you said, very much about power and who can have power. And so it’s very sad to see large parts of a whole generation are more that are turning away from the church because of the way the church in Christianity has been presented, which is sad. And we do think it’s such a beautiful thing. The truth of God’s grace and the grace that he teaches us to live by ought to be something that ought to attract people from all over the globe to this great God of love and grace and mercy who’s worthy of all our praise.

Ruth Perry (40:30)
the message of Ephesians is speaking to us today. And I pray we all have ears to hear.

Where can we find your papers and your writing? Dr. Ciampa, do you have a website or do you have the online presence?

Roy Ciampa (40:43)
I have a website. Yeah, actually, but it’s not it’s just a purely pedagogical sort of thing. And I, and I’ve spent hundreds of hours, if not thousands, thousands in the heyday of my career. So I have a I have a website called viceregency.com And the.com is a joke, because I’ve never done any commercial stuff with it. should be a.org. But I have vice regency.com. And then it’s it’s all links to different things you can learn from and

Maybe I’ll go there and add a link to this paper. I’ll tell you what, I’ll send it to you in case there’s some place you want to post it on, on anything you’re doing.

Ruth Perry (41:20)
I have a Facebook page called the Beautiful Kingdom Builders. I will put it there and I want to give you the last word before we sign off.

Roy Ciampa (41:31)
Well, thank you for having me. It’s been a blessing to be with you and it is anything I can do to help people see how great and marvelous, as Paul was trying to say in Ephesians, how beyond anything we can imagine is the love of God, how deep and high and wide, and in every dimension you can imagine this love of God that we find in Jesus Christ and the mercy and love that it teaches us to express towards others.

May God advance that through the knowledge of Jesus Christ. So thanks for having me.

Ruth Perry (42:02)
Thank you so much. Amen. Have a great time in your retirement and as you continue to teach. Thank you so much. Bye.

Roy Ciampa (42:08)
Thank you very much. Bye bye.


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004 I Scott Harris on the Good News and Reflections on the Church

In this conversation, my friend Scott Harris shares his journey of faith, discussing his upbringing in a mainline Protestant church, his college experiences, and his perspective on the challenges faced by the church today after 42 years in parachurch ministry. He emphasizes the importance of following Jesus and articulating the gospel in a way that resonates with contemporary issues. The discussion also touches on the need for the church to adapt and address the concerns of those leaving it, while promoting a message of love for God and neighbor.

Scott mentions reading C.S. Lewis’ Mere Christianity as he was making his faith his own as a young man, we talk about our Clifton StrengthsFinder results and Enneagram numbers. and Scott recommends the book Kingdom Come: How Jesus Wants to Change the World by Allen M. Wakabayashi (available here). I’ve purchased a copy and look forward to reading it in the new year!

You can watch this episode on YouTube or listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube Music, and more!

Transcript:

Ruth Perry (00:15)
I would love to just know more about my friend Scott that I’ve been in Bible studies with online and I’ve met online, but we’ve never met in person. And I know little things about your life, but I don’t know the Scott Harris story and what your testimony is.

Scott Harris (00:23)
I’ve been around a long time. I guess you had mentioned, knowing a little bit about my background, I think I’ll summarize and say that I grew up in Northern Illinois in a family attending a mainline Protestant church, a believing mother, a non-believing father, both of whom were from Texas. So I have heritage in more than one part of the country.

To go further ahead, when I was in high school, my family moved to Indiana where the state that I currently live in, and we began attending a mainline Presbyterian church, but not just any mainline Presbyterian church, a church where there was a desire to help people, younger and older to make personal decisions to belong to Jesus. That wasn’t the terminology they used, but it was a call for me and all kinds of others. So high school age, it was a call for me and lots of others to make specific decisions. I found that very difficult. of the difficulties I had was understanding evangelical jargon because I was told, all you have to, in fact I think I’m quoting my brother, all you have to do is accept Jesus into your heart. For people with some kinds of church backgrounds that make sense, for others it doesn’t mean very much, it’s just an odd collection of words together. I struggled for some time to figure out what that meant.

A pastor recommended, since I was asking questions, to read C.S. Lewis’s Mere Christianity. I kind of read through that during my senior year in high school. That wasn’t the only factor, but a number of factors came together that I found myself coming to some kind of faith about the time I entered high school. I entered college as a heartfelt Christian and sought to grow as a Christian from there. Am I telling you information you want to know, Ruth?

Ruth Perry (02:38)
Yes, this is, I personally want to know. Now I’m thinking, I grew up more conservative and I’m kind of curious to know the way that mainline Protestants were spoken of or thought of in my experience is that you don’t even believe in Jesus Christ as a supernatural God being. And so in your experience, was your mainline faith orthodox? I think there’s so many biases among the more conservative minded that I’ve had to undo myself, but that’s like an initial question that I have.

Scott Harris (03:14)
First of all, to be fair, I’m not a master of mainline Protestantism, but of course we need to recognize that it is very diverse. in any individual mainline Protestant church of any size, you have a diverse congregation of people with differing levels, maybe of orthodoxy, if we want to use that word. It’s nonetheless unfair to just…

gather a little bit of data together to judge people’s orthodoxy. You can’t judge orthodoxy by litmus tests. I think also leadership of mainline Protestant churches come from variety of backgrounds and they study at a variety of seminaries and so you can’t put all of them in one category. And then there are the different denominations.

Okay, the church I grew up in childhood, which I’m calling a mainline Protestant church in northern Illinois, I was of an age that I don’t remember many things by which I can determine just how orthodox they were or not. I’m sure it was a variety of people from a variety of backgrounds. It was when my family moved to Indiana that I would say the mainline Presbyterian Church staff was quite orthodox. They believed in God. They believed in Jesus. If you wanted to use the jargon as Lord and Savior. And it was clear over and over again and it was a priority of their youth program not to give altar calls, not to put pressure on, but to make it clear again and again that it was a personal decision that we needed to make. So it was evangelistic in that sense. So I can neither confirm nor deny conservative churches’ of mainline Protestantism. There is a diversity in it.

Ruth Perry (04:59)
I think that’s very true because I’ve just been working in the United Methodist Church now for a couple years. And I think it’s been a little surprising for me just to see how conservative the people, like they’re so evangelical. And so that’s been surprising. It’s also been surprising to me how many people have moved to the United Methodist Church from other denominations that are serving in ministry, as you said. And so culturally it’s interesting to me how strong evangelicalism’s influence has been in the mainline church.

Scott Harris (05:23)
Yeah. Yeah, and for moving to Indiana and beginning to do full-time ministry in Indiana, it became very clear, at least in my part of the state, that the United Methodist Church was highly evangelical in its leadership and in its membership. I worked at a university that had a lot of people coming from rural areas, and those rural Methodist churches were rather conservative in a number of ways. Other places in the state it might be different and other parts of Methodism of course are different.

Ruth Perry (06:04)
That sounds really wonderful that you were encouraged to make your faith your own and that you went to college as a strong believer because I know in your work I’m sure you’ve seen a lot of students haven’t had that kind of formation. So that’s wonderful.

Scott Harris (06:19)
Yes. So I entered a small liberal arts college. lived in a fraternity only because it was an all-male college and listeners of this podcast will be able to figure out what college it was. I’m very glad to have attended it. I found myself really valuing what I would call Christian fellowship at the time. Interdenominational connections with people from a variety of church backgrounds that wanted to encourage each other in knowing God, knowing the Bible, and following the ways that God directs us through the Bible.

I don’t think I would have used those terms at the time, but that was a very rich experience for me, and because I desired it so much, I created a lot of it, or I catalyzed a lot of it. I was somebody who found Christians around campus in my fraternity and other fraternities that were interested in meeting together. And I was not the first person to do this, but under some of my leadership, we got an actual campus organization functioning that functioned as an ongoing organization my third and fourth years in college.

Ruth Perry (07:33)
Fantastic. What would you call that gift? I know you have it. I mean, is it hospitality?

Scott Harris (07:38)
I would not say I’m gifted in hospitality. I would call it networking. Some people who are like me who have done the Clifton Strengths Finder test rate high in Connectedness, if anybody is aware of that. So you and I are similar in that sense. That has driven me in a lot of ways before I had a label on it, but I’ve always called myself a networker.

Ruth Perry (07:52)
I rated high on Connectedness. What are your other Clifton strengths?

Scott Harris (08:05)
My goodness, what an excellent question. I don’t remember the specifics of the top five or whatever. I took the test twice and Connectedness rated first both times. That’s why I labeled as number one. Four out of the five were exactly the same in each one. And the other three of the top four, even though I don’t remember their names, if you put them all together, it means I have a very easy tendency to be a smart aleck. I have a very easy tendency to want to learn things and tell other people things that I learned. It’s, I guess Communication is one of them, which is basically oral communication in the StrengthsFinder. Another one has to do with Learning. So I like to learn and I like to communicate what I learn and I’m talkative and I’m long-winded and I’m an external processor. It all measures up in my top strengths of the StrengthsFinder.

Ruth Perry (09:04)
Did you ever look into the Enneagram and what your number is there?

Scott Harris (09:08)
Yes, my wife has been helped a lot by the Enneagram. Lots of colleagues of mine are. I don’t know many things about it, but I do recognize that I align as a nine. I don’t know whether I’m a eight wing or a one wing, but I recognize nine-ness.

Ruth Perry (09:28)
Cool. Well that’s beautiful. Now I’m thinking about what are the other things? There’s the DISC. Have you done that? What else?

Scott Harris (09:34)
I don’t remember DISC and Myers-Briggs, if you want to go back in time, my Myers-Briggs has changed over time. I think it’s changed in part because I’ve done the same kind of work for 42 years and my personality has adapted to it. I don’t think Myers-Briggs is supposed to be like that, but when I first took it, I was kind of close
to the border between introvert and extrovert, but now I’m a massive extrovert in various ways because it’s been, it’s useful for my work to function as an extrovert. Has that rewired my brain? I don’t know, but unfortunately for this conversation, I don’t remember where I rate them the three other categories.

Ruth Perry (10:19)
Does your social battery ever dry up?

Scott Harris (10:22)
I’m of a certain age and I admit that the older I get, less capacity my social battery has. And maybe that’s just physical fatigue. I get energized by people, but I also get tired out by people things and I do have a desire to retreat. Maybe that’s made me a more healthy, balanced person. I don’t know.

Ruth Perry (10:33)
Yeah. So as a college person, you had made your faith your own. You were already exercising your gifts and bringing others into a community with you to have fellowship and grow and learn together. That’s all very cool. How would you describe your faith at that time, like with theological terms, like were you Arminian or Calvinist or?

Scott Harris (11:05)
Okay, these are very good questions and I can kind of say none of the above to that kind of thing. Let me give a more satisfying answer by saying the non-denominationality or the inter-denominationality of the organization I was with and still am and the influences I came under and the reading, the little bit of reading I did did not focus me or cornering me into very many specific categories. So I was neither trained to be Calvinist nor Armenian. If you want to talk about categories, you know, decades into the work, you can throw the category of Anabaptism as something that kind of slowly has grown and it’s influence over me.

In the evangelical world that I was in, dispensationalism is something that is kind of a default setting for lots of people in some areas of theology. I have grown, I never was particularly dispensationalist and now I’m very non-dispensationalist with time. And I think in my work I have chosen to not align myself in very many specific ways with doctrinal movements.

I do have a little master’s degree in biblical and theological studies and a master of arts degree, but it was at an institution that did not try to train me in any doctrinal settings. So I still am quite non-denominational.

Ruth Perry (12:39)
That’s great.

Scott Harris (12:39)
Although that’s in my thinking and in my theology, I do value belonging to denominations, but working with Christians from a variety of backgrounds, I love working in a non-denominational organization.

Ruth Perry (12:54)
How would you describe…Do you feel like, I think a lot of people are drawn out of denominations right now because of our, like we’re distrustful of institutions. We recognize that one institution hasn’t figured it all out. And so we want to be more open. How do you feel about denominations that kind of plant seemingly non-denominational churches, but they’re rooted in a deep, point of view.

Scott Harris (13:20)
Yeah, I don’t have a lot of opinions on this, but it is a very good question. I will briefly say that I value not getting too specific in what you require of members of an organization. I also value very specific theological education and thought and study for leaders. Those might be kind of paradoxical, but

It’s what I think. One of the things I value most about denominations is what I guess I would call accountability. In a denominator, even though there are different structures of polity in denominations, ultimately you are responsible to some kind of leadership within your denomination and you can be held accountable. And I guess a few years ago, I may not have recognized that value of denominations, but because of so much harm, and I guess I would say leadership abuse coming from the non-denominational world, it gives me a rising value of denominational accountability, even though I’ve never been a part of it. I’ve thought about getting licensed, I’ve never really thought about getting ordained, different denominations do it in different ways. It might be something I would do in the future, but I’ve never been a regular preacher or teacher or overseer of theological discourse. So at this point in time I haven’t sought to align myself with a denomination. I do go to a denominational church.

Ruth Perry (14:52)
So how did you and your wife meet?

Scott Harris (14:53)
What a good question. I was a few years into my doing college ministry and she was actually one of the students who became a leader student in the student group. And as is really good conventional wisdom, staff members working with college ministry should not date or fraternize or whatever you want to call it with members of the group, age difference.

Power Differential, I actually went to work overseas and after a few years of overseas work with her being one of the people I kept in contact with, I found, I guess you’d call it romantic feelings growing. And so after I was overseas for a while and after she had finished college for a while, we brought up the topic of maybe starting today.

It was interesting because this took place overseas. This conversation took place in the suburbs of Paris, France. And we began, she was just visiting there and we got together because she knew me. She was visiting with a friend. And we began a long distance relationship kind of knowing the advantages and disadvantages of them to some degree and this is so far back in time That long distance phone calls were quite expensive We did write some letters, but the most satisfying communication we had as a long distance dating couple was to record and send audio cassette tapes in the mail to each other

Ruth Perry (16:23)
Yeah. How cute is that?

Scott Harris (16:36)
We, very cute, I confirm. We actually have some of the cassettes recorded over. We have a handful of those cassettes in a Ziploc bag and some stuff we’ve stored away. And our adult daughter, young adult daughter, has actually listened to some of them and takes great joy in listening to us. We don’t just say gooey romantic things to each other. We’re giving updates on what’s going on in our lives.

Ruth Perry (16:46)
Yeah. Yeah!

Scott Harris (17:03)
And so she gets a glimpse into the past of her parents.

Ruth Perry (17:07)
That’s beautiful. So you’ve been in ministry for 42 years.

Scott Harris (17:11)
Correct.

Ruth Perry (17:12)
And I, one of my, I think one of the driving forces behind me wanting to podcast is just the sheer number of people who’ve left the church in the last several decades. And so this is what I want to address with my podcast is how can we address the issues that are driving people out of the church.

And what can we do to build a more beautiful kingdom in the United States, particularly as my location, but in the world, obviously. I feel like it’s not just the issues that we’re having here in America are in some ways very unique to our situation, but they’re also leaking out into the world in harmful ways. And that…

Scott Harris (17:52)
Hmm.

Ruth Perry (17:53)
I think that’s something that I really appreciated about our friendship. I’m not sure exactly how we got connected, but I’ve made all these little connections on the internet. And with someone with your giftings, I could see how I know that you invited me into a book study that you were doing with some of your Facebook friends. But I’m assuming that we became Facebook friends because of the Beautiful Kingdom Builders page, that maybe that’s our initial connection was.

Scott Harris (18:20)
a networker, as a networker, undoubtedly a friend of mine had posted something from it I wouldn’t be able to say and I began to follow and like what I found there. That’s undoubtedly the beginning of

Ruth Perry (18:20)
I comment, what’s that? As a networker.

Well now I have really appreciated your friendship Scott because what is the thing that you say when you post things? You always share things and you say, this challenges me to follow Jesus Christ. ⁓ Let me see, do you know it off the top of your head what you say?

Scott Harris (18:49)
Yes. I have lengthened it recently, but the older version is this challenges me to follow Jesus and his ways fully above all else, including many things many Christians consider important.

Ruth Perry (19:09)
And then you’ll share a quote or an article or something newsworthy that’s happening. ⁓

Scott Harris (19:17)
or something from

the beautiful Kingdom Builders.

Ruth Perry (19:20)
Well, actually half of the things that I post on my page now come from your posts because I’m just I’m very by the things that challenge you Scott

Scott Harris (19:25)
I have noticed that. Gives me great joy.

Ruth Perry (19:30)
So I’m very grateful for your friendship and for your work that you share online and that you connect and serve and fellowship online as well as in person. And I feel like you’re someone, your heart is seeking after the Lord in beautiful ways and impactful ways. And that’s the kind of person that I want to learn from and I want to be in relationship with and grow with.

And so thank you for all you’ve done. You’ve connected me in Bible studies and book studies too that have helped me get off the internet but stay on the internet in relationship with others and hear from others. And I’m really grateful for you, Scott.

What do you think it is that the church, how has the church gotten off track in a way that is distancing young people from the church?

Scott Harris (20:19)
of course, so many things to say about that. First of all, thank you for your very kind words. likewise for so much that I learned from you as well. Let me answer your question. Let me answer it first by how I feel like I’ve gotten off track a little bit. You were interested in my story and it’s just the story that serious Christian faith during my time in high school became attractive to me because I felt like it was a true understanding of the world.

The word worldview is used by variety of groups to mean a variety of things, but at that time I felt like a properly understood whole Bible worldview helped explain things and help explain what God calls people to. Although I’m using that term whole Bible at this point because at that time I think it was basically Paul’s writings and the logic and the priorities and the emphases and it was kind of the traditional evangelical gospel outline of we are sinners, Jesus died for us, we must respond to Jesus dying for us, etc. that… For much of my Christian life, I have thought that the main thing that a Christian is, is somebody who believes in what…

has done for them. And that is definitely part of it. I wasn’t particularly off track to think that way. I was following the movement I was in. I affirm all of that. However, I think the basic thing that it means to be a Christian at this point in time is to follow Jesus and his ways fully above all else.

Following Jesus includes believing in who Jesus is. Following Jesus includes believing in what Jesus has done. But believing becomes a much bigger whole life kind of thing that it involves. Following Jesus as my example, following Jesus as my master, becoming an apprentice of Jesus. I haven’t…

been regularly using these terms for too many years and when I use these terms I realize just what a high calling it is and how much further I have to go and how it is a challenging life of constantly calling oneself into question and revising and asking for God’s help and the help of the Holy Spirit to step forward in ways that more more followed Jesus.

To answer the question you asked. I think a number of people are leaving the church in part, I’m not speaking for all people or all churches, in part because they have been taught to add a whole lot of baggage to following Jesus. The baggage is different in different situations. In recent years in the United States, a lot of the baggage is political baggage or culture wars baggage. Of course, there’s a big overlap between politics and culture wars or the baggage of narrow approaches to how children are raised or how people should be educated or how people should think.

When so much of the New Testament emphasis of following Jesus in the Gospels and in the New Testament writers is really about freedom, is about joy, is about following a person who announces and enacts and acts out the Kingdom of God. And so more and more in the future I’m gonna want to emphasize following Jesus as a living in the Kingdom of God kind of thing. I am not saying that if people just say things and think things the way I do that they would remain in churches.

But whatever going into and out of churches are, whatever the patterns are, whatever individuals or groups or demographic categories are going in and out of churches, I think part of the turmoil that’s going on should be a call to those of us who are leaders and those of us who are regular Christians to call people to Jesus, not to a tradition.

Not to a certain political ideology, not to a framework structure of how to raise children, but call people to Jesus above all else. And that’s a dynamic, ever-changing, challenging life that nonetheless is a life of joy.

Ruth Perry (25:03)
Absolutely. Well said, Scott.

Scott Harris (25:05)
Yeah, that just hopefully I’ve just fixed everybody who’s listening. So they can just think like me.

Ruth Perry (25:09)
Yeah. You fixed me.

Scott Harris (25:11)
I think a lot of people leaving the church are rejecting baggage that is accompanied being followers of Jesus. They may be back, they may be in the future, they may change churches, but what do we do with such people? Winsomely invite them to follow Jesus and encourage them to take thoughtful steps that they decide on with their lives, living up to the expectations of Jesus, not trying to live up to the expectations of other people.

Ruth Perry (25:39)
How do you articulate the gospel, Scott?

Scott Harris (25:42)
Such a good question. At this point, let me say my thinking about how I articulate the Gospel is changing and I’ll give a book plug. There’s a book written over 20 years ago. You’ve probably seen me post about it, Ruth. It is the book Kingdom Come by Alan Wakabayashi.

I had heard about it years ago, I was living overseas, I wasn’t necessarily reading what everybody was reading. I had repeatedly decided that I need to read that book someday. And what happened is I noticed that it was for sale for cheap on Kindle. And so even though some people avoid Kindle, Kindle gets me reading stuff because it keeps my place and it’s right there.

I have read it on Kindle and Alan Wakabayashi does, in the middle of the book, give kind of a gospel outline in terms of kingdom thinking. I have copied and pasted. I intend to work on it. I wonder if any friends of mine who do graphics might want to put some graphics to it. So here is an unpolished summary of some of it. It is more detailed than a lot of gospel outlines are. But Jesus came to inaugurate the Kingdom of God. He calls people to walk with Him in it. He brings them deliverance from evil and from the powers that keep people from walking in it. He brings them deliverance from their own sin and condemnation.

And he calls them to be partners of the Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit, himself and the Father and the Holy Spirit, in living according to the values of the Kingdom, anticipating the full coming of the Kingdom, and inviting others to do the same.

Ruth Perry (27:39)
Amen.

Scott Harris (27:40)
That’s just off the top of my head.

Ruth Perry (27:42)
Wow, that’s beautiful. I did add that book to my wish list when you posted about it, and I got some birthday money this week, so I’ll be sure to order that and read that. That’s beautiful.

Scott Harris (27:52)
And in case it’s worth it for your listeners, it’s been out for a while and at least on that one really main merchant that sells things online that you can get almost anything from, it’s at a really low price. I think they must have had a stock build up in the lowest price. The price is low. You can also get it really inexpensively as a used book. And Ruth, let me give you some advice. If you ever want to go public with communicating with others, I invite you to use the word kingdom in what, you know, if you blog or do some Facebooking or if you do a podcast, I recommend the word kingdom to you because God’s kingdom is beautiful. You know, free of charge. I’ll give that to you.

Ruth Perry (28:40)
Thank you, Scott. Thank you. I love that. Yeah, I wonder about the people who are opposed to the word kingdom.

Scott Harris (28:47)
There’s more than one reason, yeah.

Ruth Perry (28:49)
Yeah, I mean I recognize the reason, but I think personally I am okay using it.

Scott Harris (28:55)
Yeah. and we could just… Yes. Yes. And if you want, can use an actually much somewhat more provocative term. In Scott McKnight’s really literal New Testament translation called the Second Testament, he calls it Empire. So if you don’t like Kingdom of God, you can talk about God’s Empire if you want.

Ruth Perry (28:55)
It’s straight from the mouth of Jesus, so…

Scott Harris (29:22)
The idea is it’s a big deal and it is the one true empire, it’s the one true kingdom. There are plenty of other things. I understand if people have issues and I understand that this part of the world doesn’t have much value for kings and queens, but it’s a useful term if it points to the king. If the king is the lamb who was slain, the lamb of revelation, that’s…the kind of kingdom I want to be in.

Ruth Perry (29:51)
Praise God. That was my next question for you, Scott. What do you feel like your dream for the church would be? How would the church be like the kingdom of God on earth as it is in heaven if we were really following the way of Jesus?

Scott Harris (30:06)
What an excellent question. I don’t have a recipe, I just have bits and pieces. One, to say more briefly what I said at length earlier, the church needs to be about helping individuals and communities together to follow Jesus.

I want to qualify that in so many ways and use terms like inappropriate ways in their particular context, but may the church and may the churches be about the business of helping people in communities to follow Jesus. Second, my dream for the church or the churches is that they would be global churches. They would have an ongoing, interacting relationship.

and conversation and knowledge of other Christians, other churches around the world and other traditions of Christianity in their own context or around the world. I think my dream for the church is that the church or the churches would keep the top priorities the top priorities and by the top priorities I just go straight to this guy who said the first commandment is to love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength. And in the Gospel of Matthew, the second commandment is very similar to the first commandment, Jesus says, and it is to love your neighbor as yourself. So here is an abbreviation that I might throw out there. It’s an intentionally provocative abbreviation.

Maybe I’ll use it more, maybe I’ll never use it again, but I want to promote, and I want churches to promote, LBGAN Christianity. LBGAN Christianity is Christianity that emphasizes loving both God and neighbor. Some Christian traditions emphasize the love of neighbor to in a way that kind of keeps God eclipsed a little bit. Some church traditions emphasize the love of God and the love of neighbor is this optional add-on that you can choose to do or not choose to do. My dream for the church is to emphasize both loving God and loving neighbor.

Ruth Perry (32:20)
I love that Scott, that’s perfect. And thank you for your example of loving your neighbors. You’re not someone who just gives thoughts and prayers, you’re someone who always follows up with action and care and intentionality. And you’ve just been a really inspiring ⁓ example to me and countless others, I’m sure. And so I appreciate that about you and keep on keeping on because you are making a difference. And you’re really wonderful at articulating good news about Jesus Christ, Scott.

Scott Harris (32:44)
You’re so kind. Same Ruth, same. Thank you for your partnership in articulating the good news about Jesus. I am challenged and encouraged by you even though I can’t keep up with all of the content you put out. Now that you’re doing podcasting, it’ll make it even harder for me to keep up with the content you put out, but I really appreciate it.

Ruth Perry (33:11)
I appreciate, anytime you have any advice or correction or you think I’ve gone too far and I’m not loving my neighbors well, I trust your voice and I would welcome you as a friend to please let me know because I know, I mean, it’s, get, what I find my weakness is that I get caught up in the reaction, like the need to react.

And what I want to do is I want to continue to grow and be challenged to follow the ways of Jesus Christ fully. And I know he was not reactionary person. And then that’s a temptation of social media and being online. think for me, this podcast endeavor is kind of, I feel a lot of imposter syndrome and inadequacy about doing it, but that’s one of the things I’m trying to overcome as a Christian woman is the need to be perfect.

Like I know I’m going to mess up and over speak and I’m going to over share at times and I’m going to react. And so what I want to have is a willingness to learn and receive correction and be humble and apologize when that happens, but to continue to just learn in public. Cause that’s what I can’t remember when I started my page, but that’s the best thing that’s happened is that I’ve continued to learn and grow and change my mind about things. And it’s overall, I’d say it’s been a neat experience for me because I’ve met people like you.

Scott Harris (34:29)
It is a total joy to see you doing what you do and now doing a podcast. May God give you wisdom and energy.

Ruth Perry (34:38)
Thank you.

Scott Harris (34:39)
in the days, weeks, months and years ahead.

Ruth Perry (34:43)
Thank you, Scott. God bless you. All right. Thank you. Bye.

Scott Harris (34:45)
Talk to you soon, Ruth. Keep up the good work. Bye.


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003 I Jenna Dunn of Ezer Bible

In this episode, Jenna Dunn, writer and theologian at Ezer Bible, describes her personal journey out of complementarian theology and the toll that patriarchal bible interpretation and church culture took on her faith and marriage. You can follow Jenna’s ministry on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, and more! I hope to have more conversations with Jenna in the future about the Bible and interpreting it through an egalitarian lens. Here is the video of our interview, and you can listen to it on your favorite podcasting platforms.

TRANSCRIPT:

Ruth Perry (00:15)
My guest today is Jenna Dunn, who has a ministry called Ezer Bible. You can find her website at ezerbible.com, E-Z-E-R-B-I-B-L-E.com. And if you scroll down to the bottom of the homepage, there are links to all of her social media.

I wanted to explain briefly that word, ezer. In Genesis 2:18, God says, he made an ezer, a helper, for the man. In English, the word helper can mean someone of a subordinate status. But if you look at the other places where ezer occurs in the Bible, it mostly refers to God, who is our help. So certainly not a subordinate help, but rather a strong help.

Jenna and I talk about the toll that Complementarian Theology took on her faith and her marriage. And we talk about her love for the Bible, even though reading it through a patriarchal lens almost cost her her faith. I hope you enjoy this conversation with Jenna Dunn and follow her Ezer Bible ministry.

Ruth Perry (01:14)
Well, tell me more about your background. So you live in Oregon? Is that where you’re from?

Jenna Dunn (01:18)
Yeah, yeah, I’ve lived in Oregon my whole life. I was not really raised in the church. I used to go to the church a little bit. Like as a teenager, I went to a Baptist church, but, when I got married, my husband’s family was very involved in Calvary Chapel. And so for a long time we were Calvary Chapel people and he became a pastor. He went to the Bible college.

Calvary Chapel has like a Bible college in Arizona. And you know, he read systematic theology, the Wayne Grudem stuff, you know, in Bible college. And then we started a church. And I mean, if you’re familiar with Calvary Chapel, you probably kind of know.

Ruth Perry (01:50)
Yeah. So I’m thinking it’s charismatic. I don’t really know much about Calvary

Jenna Dunn (02:02)
It’s like a charismatic Baptist church. It’s not reformed, but it’s complementarian. And it’s a little political, at least ours was.

Ruth Perry (02:12)
Is Calvary Chapel, is that the one that the Jesus Movement sprang out of? Okay.

Jenna Dunn (02:19)
Yeah. So, I mean, there’s some really neat things about that, the origin of that movement. Like I do like that origin story, but I think what Calvary Chapel has become is much more similar to like the Southern Baptist Convention or like the Reformed Complementarian Movement.

Ruth Perry (02:22)
Yeah.

Jenna Dunn (02:41)
Most the people in Calvary Chapel are reading a new King James Version Bible, not an ESV Bible. But they very much listen to teachers of the Complementarian Reformed Movement. And I remember, that was always like a point of contention is there would be certain Bible teachers or leaders who were Reformed and it’s like, well, we’re not Reformed. So, you know, trying to figure out like where the theology lined up, but…

but definitely that commonality of holding to, you know, complementarian theology or the idea of gender roles and women not being in leadership. And I think, once you accepted that viewpoint, it opens you up for some of the more extreme Christian patriarchy ideas. So in the church context, I was in, it wasn’t a part of our church’s belief system, but I was still exposed to the Pearls. So like I have Created to be His Help Meet. That was a book that was given out to all the women, not from the church leadership, but just from somebody going to the church. you meet a nice homeschool family and like they give out these materials. I was also exposed to
a lot of Mark Driscoll type teaching. And the pastor that ended up coming in and kind of being the lead pastor was an Acts 29? is it? Yeah, the pastor was trained through that. And he quoted Mark Driscoll a lot. So there was that influence. I remember my ex-husband

Ruth Perry (04:00)
It’s 29. Yeah, Mark Driscoll was one of the founders of that. Yeah.

Jenna Dunn (04:15)
like going to a men’s leadership retreat at Mark Driscoll’s church and it, you know, like Voddie Baucham. We were very adjacent to some of these more extreme things. And, and I was always, I’ve always been more like inclined towards theology. I read it, you know, like I go and look up these people and like, I read it and I’m like, whoa, these ideas are, you know.

Ruth Perry (04:24)
Yeah.

Jenna Dunn (04:35)
I just, it was, it’s a weird position to be in because I, I do like actually listen. Like if I go to church, I listened to what the person says and, and I read my Bible and in some ways I had more theology training or a Bible training than the men in leadership around me in Calvary Chapel. Like usually the pastors don’t actually have very much seminary training. They’re just charismatic men who I don’t know, there may be mentored a little bit by older pastors.

Ruth Perry (05:00)
They are called and God equipped them. That’s all they needed.

Jenna Dunn (05:05)
Yeah, and you’re not really in a position as a ministry wife to change anything, so. I did that for over a decade and I was very unhappy for like the last five years and it did slowly tear apart my marriage. There’s a lot of ideas within Complementarian Theology that are really unhealthy for couples and for families. And then I think if you add to that, there’s ideas in our culture, right? So like even though

My ex-husband didn’t really embrace, like he was just not a theology person. He just was like, I just love people and he didn’t think about it. But he also didn’t understand that like the things that we were a part of were problematic. Like he just didn’t see it. And, you know, it caused a lot of conflict. Like it was just very hard on our relationship to navigate that and not have the same understanding.

But I think a lot of good has come from it because it forced me to learn the Bible really well. I always had a message prepared. I always had like in my, the Bible I used at the time, I had seven passages bookmarked and I’ve made a Bible study guide about that, but there’s seven verses starting with Romans 16 that I would break down, This is what the Bible actually says about women in ministry and about men and women. And I was always kind of ready.

And I think, I had convinced my ex-husband and he was kind of just, you know, we kind of had this understanding, he would open the door for me, given the chance. Like if there was a chance I could convince other people in leadership that this is what the Bible really taught. Then, you know, he wanted to see me be able to do that. But he also encouraged me to just pray and And, you know, things change slowly. And so we stayed in this really unhealthy church structure for probably way too long and just kind of hoped that like, people would change, you know, but I, I don’t really recommend people stay in those types of environment. It’s, it’s tempting too, cause you’re like, well, these people all believe the Bible and they love Jesus. So they’ll figure it out, you know, but it, just, it’s a hard,

Ruth Perry (07:08)
Yeah.

Jenna Dunn (07:11)
It’s a hard mindset to bring people out of. But the good of it in my life is just what I’ve learned over the years. I was really influenced by so many amazing theologians and Bible teachers. When I started Ezer Bible, I was really influenced by Is it Carolyn Kustis James? I read Half the Church and it was the best thing I ever read. mean, it was like water in the desert for me. just, she was so brilliant. And I was really influenced by Rachel Held Evans. This was like a lot of women over the years that I just found people online to learn from and to learn what the Bible actually says was better to me than to just leave a sort of toxic mindset and just not believe anymore, which, you know, was the initial path, but when God brought me back to Him and I began healing, was mostly through learning what Scripture actually says. That’s far better than just saying, I don’t want anything to do with that over there. Sometimes I tell people I left Christianity. I walked away from God over one Bible verse. There was this one thing I could not accept and it made me so angry.

First Corinthians 14 with the whole women are to be silent where Paul’s quoting the oral law or quoting the law, “As the law says “. In my Bible at the time, which I think was, the new King James, it has a footnote to Genesis three 16 as if that’s the law that it’s quoting from. That was what I was being taught about that, that Paul is saying that women are to be silent in church. And I just couldn’t, dismiss that and be like, that’s just cultural. And, you know, I just don’t like Paul. I just couldn’t accept that the Bible said that. So it was kind of a final straw moment for me where I was like, I know I’m technically a pastor’s wife, but I just, was sort of a closet atheist for a while. I I walked away from God and I remember at that time in my life being in the position I was, was actually easier. Like if I kind of thought atheism was true, I still cared about people. I remember a few times people would ask me to pray for them and I was like, well, yeah, that’s fine. It helps them. I still wanted to help people, but I didn’t really believe that.

the way the Bible had been presented to me and that understanding of God could possibly be true and I didn’t want to be a part of it and I just thought that’s ridiculous that God would silence women and that.

Ruth Perry (09:30)
What was the emotional journey of that, of losing your faith? What was that like?

Jenna Dunn (09:37)
Yeah, think that there was really so much behind that. Like I had gone through years and years of hurt and being sidelined in the church and I had a very, very traumatic birth experience with my fourth son. And I had been exposed to all kinds of toxic ideas. I had a lot of things that happened.

But was like, that was the final straw. And I think that there was really a lot of wounds and things underneath that. But I do remember just throwing the Bible across the room and just, I just stopped reading my Bible for a while. And I was very mad at God about that one verse. But you know, years later, I did eventually come back to God through that verse. What God showed me about that verse was so healing for me. So I’m…

I’m glad to have what I think is the proper interpretation of that section of scripture and a better understanding of Paul.

Ruth Perry (10:23)
Yeah. Did God reveal it to you in some way that you weren’t anticipating? How did that come about?

Jenna Dunn (10:37)
Um, yeah, I just remember I had read like different interpretations of it. I’m always researching things, who knows? But at one point I remember reading these quotes about what some of the beliefs were about women. You know, like there’s a quote outside of the Bible, but about women not knowing anything but the use of their distaff and about it would be better for the words of scripture to be burned than to be entrusted to a woman. There’s some different quotes that float around in the teachings of the rabbis.

And I remember seeing a quote that was… It literally said, the voice of a woman is filthy nakedness. And when I did a word study on 1 Corinthians 14:36, it says, the voice of a woman is shameful. And I looked up the word shameful and it was the same word as like filthy. And I was like, wow, that’s really similar.

you know, to say that a woman’s voice is filthy, it really sounds like Paul’s quoting this Jewish oral statement or some kind of slogan or, you know, he’s quoting this idea and then rebuking it. So like, that’s the thing that was so healing for me is like, Paul’s not agreeing with that. He’s rebuking that idea. And then you see that combined with how affirming he is.

Ruth Perry (11:53)
Yeah.

Jenna Dunn (11:59)
And how he’s partnering with women in his work. It made the whole Bible more consistent. Like now I see a more cohesive picture of Paul where he’s affirming female leaders and calling them coworkers and co-laborers. And I’m like, okay, that’s a Paul that I can understand. And then also the strength of his rebuke, like to actually, you know, be like, you men, you think that the Bible came from you. You think the word of God came from you, but it came to us all, you know, it’s actually a really strong rebuke. And so I find that really comforting, like Paul’s on my side.

But yeah, It was a process. I was mad at God for a long time. I was really in a bad place for several years. I kind of came back to God and I was still a pastor’s wife and I was still in an unhealthy situation. I tried to make the most of it, but you know, it was really hard on my marriage. It was really hard to raise my kids in that environment.

I have some really sad stories about women who I was very close to that, I saw them go a different direction. I saw them embrace a more strict legalistic form of Christianity. You know, there’s women I know who I watched their marriages just turn very ugly, People that I even knew before we were saved, before we got involved in ministry, there’s people I was friends with. And so to see the fruit of complementarian theology play out in people’s lives and marriages and how they parent their kids, I have a pretty strong aversion to some of those ideas. And I also just think it’s such an incredibly twisted way to read the Bible. I think it imposes this framework on to Scripture that just makes it really difficult for people to understand the Bible.

Ruth Perry (13:48)
Yeah, that’s one of the hardest things for me. I appreciate so much of my upbringing. I grew up Baptist and there’s so much that I appreciate and I definitely always met God in the churches I’ve been involved in and I appreciate the sincerity of the faith I’ve seen, but I have also seen so much dysfunction and so much spiritual abuse and harm.

And it’s hard, the experience of starting to awaken to the dysfunction, the toxicity of the theology. Talk to me about that experience of your relationships in Calvary Chapel. How were they impacted by your journey away from that culture and that theology?

Jenna Dunn (14:28)
I think you could probably imagine like in a small town, if there’s a couple that’s the pastor and the pastor’s wife and they go through a divorce, It was just it was a nightmare. mean, I was just kind of trying to do things in the least dramatic way possible. Like, as quiet as possible. didn’t want it to harm my children. Like, I just didn’t want there to be rumors, that my kids would hear. My kids were, you know, all their friends were in the church. And, you know, like the church was our family. And, you know, those people that we had birthday parties and baby showers and people that we had known for years and years.

I actually had to work together with my ex-husband to be like how can we make this the least traumatic possible? And I really thought that they would have him stay in ministry because he was more like the administrative pastor. He did all of the the building projects and maintenance and sound equipment set up and like that type of stuff. He wasn’t like the guy in front. He wasn’t like the teaching pastor. But it was a pretty unhealthy leadership dynamic. The church I go to now is a Four Square Church, and a few Sundays ago they had a new pastor and pastor’s wife that they were installing is what they call it in four square but so they were this couple was like gonna start being in ministry and it was, I literally still cry about it. I cried during that service. I came home and cried because it was so healthy. Like everybody in the church promised to pray for the people that are leaders, pastors, and their families. They said, we’re going to pray for you. We’re going to support you. And like, make sure you put your marriage first. Make sure you take care of your kids first. And it was so beautiful to see like the community sort of rally behind these people that were willing to dedicate their lives to serving.

Just the recognition of the toll that that takes on your family. But we care about you first, not just what we can get from you. We’re not gonna put you on a pedestal. You’re just like us, but you’re willing to do this. And it was so beautiful. And that was not my experience at all being in ministry It was very toxic. And we were so afraid to let people know that we were struggling in our marriage or in our family. We didn’t, have support and, yeah, it’s like, it’s just completely different. I’d say there was like a lot of bullying. So like I remember one man that was a leader for a while, they ended up moving away, but it was like his wife was too domineering, right? So was like he was kind of made fun of, like, your wife wears the pants. None of these women were trying to control anything, but it was just like the men had to be a certain, have a certain sort of traditional masculine vibe about them. And so there was some bullying that happened if they weren’t and the main teaching pastor was very much like the guy in charge and everybody else is a yes man. And, you know, we were very afraid of not being able to pay our rent and not be able to pay our bills if we stepped out of line. So yeah, that’s basically what happened is we were forced into a position of of just having to be like, yes, okay, but this is not good. And if you’re the weak link, if you show weakness or they know that you’re struggling in your marriage, they’re gonna turn against you. It’s like you’re the sick chicken in the flock and they’re gonna pick you to death. So it’s like, you can’t show that weakness when you’re in a team like that. I very much identify when I hear people talk about what happened at Mars Hill. Like there’s people that were involved in leadership there and they talk about what that felt like. it just, was so, it was similar to the dynamic of what we were involved with.

Ruth Perry (18:08)
Yeah. My family, my dad was a senior pastor and my brother was his associate pastor and then my family attended the church and they had this big conflict erupt. And it was like, the church just kicked us while we were down. It was just like that. It was like, oh my God, this is so much worse than it had to be. And I’m just so frustrated that Christians aren’t the most loving, caring people. It makes me so mad.

Jenna Dunn (18:42)
Yeah, yeah, it’s weird to see those dynamics and you know, I kind of imagine that in the healthier churches, know, part of what besides there’s sort of being a system of checks and balances so that there’s not just like one main guy that’s the whole everything’s around that guy, you know, but I think in some of the healthier churches, it’s like you do see like the husband and wife ministry teams and you see women in positions of leadership so that they can provide like perspective of like what things are like for women in the church.

I remember saying that at one time I was like, well, if I was struggling, where would I get help? Like all of the leadership are all men and I don’t want to talk to them about that. They’re like, be like, oh, so and so’s wife. And I’m like, yeah, but she’s not in a position to change anything. The wives have to support their husbands. Like I knew, how many times I was in a leadership meeting and I knew that they did not want me to open my Bible and to say something that contradicted what they were saying. Like I know to stay in my place and not make my husband look bad. They don’t want me to lead or to be interested in theology or to have the right answer or to help them. They actually just want me to stay quiet and play my part.

And it was always hard for me because I knew what God wanted me to do. I feel like God called me to be a teacher. Like I actually would find myself in situations where we’re having a two hour long meeting about this topic and I know the answer and I could very easily show you in scripture and it would just end this meeting and we would just all be on the same page. But it was like, that was not what they wanted from me. And I didn’t want to risk my, you know, it’s sad. I wish I…hindsight I wish I would have been more willing to risk my reputation or my standing or whatever like even if it caused a huge problem I mean my life fell apart anyways like staying quiet didn’t serve me either you know so I wish I would have had more courage

Ruth Perry (20:34)
Well, it takes so long to undo all of the toxic teaching that we’ve absorbed and learned. I’ve been doing the Beautiful Kingdom Builders page for a long time. And just recently I’m finding my own voice in personal relationships with other people. Or pursue my own goals apart from my husband and stop waiting for my husband to be the ministry person that I support. It really takes a lot of time, even as your eyes are opening decades before, it still takes time to undo that cultural conditioning that we received.

Jenna Dunn (20:55)
Yes. Yeah, for sure. Yeah, I think I bought the domain name Ezer Bible, like, 2012. I mean, so that’s how long ago I’ve been, not doing this. And it’s because of the mindset hurdles that I’m up against. So, I started my business and all of the same issues that I was having just in my relationship with God were manifest in my business. So I’m like, why am I struggling so much as a small business owner? I’m chronically undercharging, devaluing my time, devaluing myself. I just came across so much personal problems, because of my background. I just really can’t, can’t, you know, let God fully heal me from like some of these really toxic mindsets.

And I think too, when I go back and read some of the stuff I was writing during that time for probably five years, most of the things I wrote, if I read it now, it’s not the voice I want to put out there. That’s not how I want to sound. Cause what it is, is like, I’m, I’m talking or writing from a place of feeling really inferior, trying to prove myself, right? Like trying to say I actually know something about the Bible. I know something about theology and this is why you should listen to me. And, you know, God isn’t asking me to do that, but I just feel like I know the person I was when I was a Calvary Chapel ministry wife, I felt…so disempowered and so not worthy and like my voice didn’t matter and nobody would want to learn from me or hear from me. They just wanted this silent role, a supportive role. And I just thought who am I to think I know something about the Bible or who am I to challenge complementarian theology? I felt just really inadequate and it’s been so hard to overcome that.

Like there has been growth in that area, but I think that’s kind of why I don’t put myself out there. I put my voice out there. I do more with my marketing. And I think that that’s kind of helped me warm up to the idea of like, I have something to teach. But yeah, it was so hard to start kind of moving forward in my gifting just because of how some of those mindsets had. influence me and I think too sometimes I have a voice in my head like I can imagine the objection already without even anybody hearing my ideas I know the voice of these men that come against the ideas that I have. I’m very aware of the other side. I’ve read a lot of complementarian literature I understand all their arguments and positions and And that’s a good thing, because I can refute those objections. But yeah, I very much understand the mindset and there’s so many people who shut down women. so I feel shut down sometimes even without even sharing my idea. I’m like, I’m going to write this and I’m like, I already can hear the objections and the way that they would shut me down if I share this. I was really active. ⁓

Ruth Perry (24:07)
I would really encourage you, Jenna, to please use your voice. I’m really impressed and amazed by all that you’ve just shared in this short conversation. I think you definitely have a gifting and a calling from God. And part of the challenge of being a woman that grew up in these complementarian spaces is giving yourself permission to follow that because nobody else is going to. And so you have to just take that leap of faith and you are going to have pushback.

But honestly, I think the complementarian men are not trolling the internet as much as we fear and they’re really easy to block or to just like not approve their comment. Like it’s just, you can protect your space.

Jenna Dunn (24:39)
Thank you. Yeah, I see women with a lot of comments and interaction online. I see it’s not as bad as I think. I think I used to be really active. I would debate things with people on Reddit. And so Reddit used to be very anonymous. And so some of the people representing a very reformed comp view were really harsh.

Ruth Perry (24:59)
Bye. They’re the worst.

I mean, even if you’re not being mean, people can still read the tone of your whatever you write and whatever tone they’re hearing in their head. You can’t control that. You just have to like put the message that the Lord has on your heart out there. And it’s not going to be for everybody. if it only reached one person, I feel like you’ve made an impact that matters. So I would encourage you.

Jenna Dunn (25:20)
Yeah.

Ruth Perry (25:35)
to go ahead and be courageous. And I think that it would be really meaningful and fulfilling to you to start putting your work out there. I would listen to your podcast and I’ll share your articles. I’m excited for you.

Jenna Dunn (25:35)
Thank you. Yeah.

Yeah, think I’m going to spend some time this upcoming year focused on developing as our Bible. I definitely over overthink. You know, I overthink a lot.

Ruth Perry (25:59)
Yeah, have you done any enneagram work?

Jenna Dunn (26:01)
What? Yeah. I’m like an INFP. Yeah.

Ruth Perry (26:08)
The enneagram numbers are one through nine and you strike me as number five.

Jenna Dunn (26:13)
yeah yeah yeah, the number one. I’m like a f-

Yeah. What are you?

Ruth Perry (26:18)
I said, you strike me as a five, but I’m a five also, yeah.

Jenna Dunn (26:21)
I think I was a four, but I… Yeah. Yeah, I think so.

Ruth Perry (26:24)
You might have a five wing, but the four part of you would be the more sensitive part. Like for me, I don’t really care if people disagree with me. I’m okay with like online interactions and I actually really enjoy listening to people and reading people who disagree with me. But I think part of that is just my personality is I’m the observer and I enjoy observing people.

Jenna Dunn (26:34)
Yeah, people are interesting for sure. Yeah, no, I am very sensitive and like I think about things a lot and I really take things to heart and like I will sit on an idea for years sometimes before I share it. So yeah.

Ruth Perry (26:49)
Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. Me too. I’m an INFP also. And I don’t feel like I ought to podcast number one, I feel like I have the most annoying voice in the world who would want to like listen to this voice. I don’t know. So I just would I had the idea. So I mentioned it to people and everybody tells me that’s a great idea. So now I feel like I have to try it. But personally, I wouldn’t do it. I have imposter syndrome. I would rather just keep reading other people and thinking about other people’s thoughts. But I do feel like I’ve had this platform on the Beautiful Kingdom Builders page and you can’t really have nuanced conversations when you’re sharing a meme or an article. And I just want to host longer conversations with people that just show that you can be a Christian that loves God and loves the Bible, but you’re not a gun-toting, militaristic, and anti-CRT. You don’t have to subscribe to all of that. You don’t have to believe in penal substitutionary atonement. There’s other ways to be Christian that I feel are more faithful to Jesus.

Jenna Dunn (27:53)
Yeah, it’s so true. And it’s so important to hear other people’s stories. I really do love the medium of podcasting. Like I listen to a lot of podcasts. And some of my favorite Christian ones are just like people sharing their stories.

Ruth Perry (28:26)
Why do you feel like a Beautiful Kingdoms Builder podcast is beneficial to the church?

Jenna Dunn (28:32)
Yeah, so I think it’s such a gift for women just to have a place to share their stories, like just to have their voices heard. I kind of believed I had to like build that all myself. Like I need to somehow earn the right to have my story heard and that’s how I learned web design. Like I was like, I wanna…build a website. But I always had that in the back of my mind that I was going to do Ezer Bible.

So it’s like I went down this whole other path of like, now I have a whole business building websites for people. And I do a lot on the internet. I do all kinds of marketing. But doing it for myself, for my calling has had a lot of obstacles. And I think that a lot of people would never be able to do that. I mean, it takes a ton of time to learn everything, to build your own platform. I love that the internet exists and women can build their own platform, but not everybody’s going to be able to do that. it would be great if there was more places women could just share what God’s showing them and share their stories and share their testimonies. Because if you’re coming out of a context like I was…you’re really feeling like your voice doesn’t matter already, right? And so just the fact that there’s platforms where they’re like, hey, you know, we actually do care about your experiences. We want to know, what following God has been like for you and what God has shown you. I mean, that’s huge. I mean, you just basically holding the microphone up to women and being like, we care about what you’re experiencing and we want to hear from you. Like your voice matters. I think that’s a huge thing. And so

I was going to ask you what prompted the change from Beautiful Kingdom Warriors to Builders.

Ruth Perry (30:09)
The warrior’s name came from Carolyn Custis James. A friend and I, Becky Buck, started the page 10 years or more ago. And we were thinking about the word ezer that it doesn’t just mean helper, it means like a strong help. And then it’s frequently used in the context of military. So like we’re in this battle.

to bring God’s kingdom, which would look like flourishing for all and peace and joy and like the fruit of the spirit and all these things, like building a Christianity. But the, well, see the building part came later in my thought as I’m thinking less about fighting battles, because I’m really tired of culture war. I don’t want to be a culture warrior. But that was so deeply embedded in me 15 years ago.

Jenna Dunn (30:54)
Yeah.

Ruth Perry (30:59)
that warrior seemed like a good name. But now I want to be a part of building something beautiful. Because we’re ambassadors, we’re builders, There is the spiritual warfare aspect of life. But really, the battle is God’s. And I just want to be a part of building a more beautiful Christianity, because I’m really…disappointed in the Christianity that I was formed in.

I know so many people who have walked away from their faith because of the culture warring and the politics and the bad theology and the subjugation of women and the racism and all these things. And I just want to say you don’t have to walk away. There’s a better Christianity that you could be a part of.

Jenna Dunn (31:46)
Wow. Yeah. Yeah, I think about some of the positions that I’ve taken more recently and I’m like, I hope that that focusing on theology or what the Bible really says isn’t just another turnoff for people. Because I’ve known Christians I’ve really cared about over the years who have more of like a shepherd’s heart for people or their…

maybe like more prophetic, they’re, just, they don’t get into theological discussions and they don’t understand half the things I want to talk about. They don’t know the terminology or the different people who wrote whatever books, but they just really love people and they just really have God’s heart for people. And they care about reconciliation or they care about seeing people grow in the Lord. And they don’t geek out about

the Bible or theology like I do and I’m always like, I really want to make sure I keep those people close to me so they keep me in line and I don’t go off in this whole other direction that’s not people focused, right? Because at end of the day, that’s what matters, you know. But yeah, I do think that, you know, that’s a really beautiful change to make it about building the kingdom and being a part of building the kingdom. I was really interested
in that because when I first found the Beautiful Kingdom Warriors, I was very much like, ooh, warriors. And I also was so influenced by the idea. I mean, like, I got like an ezer tattoo. Like, that’s how much ezer was like. And on my muscles, I’m like, it was. It was because I was, I had been influenced and seen so many women’s lives influenced by the ideas.

Ruth Perry (33:16)
Yeah! That was a mind-blowing revelation, learning what AIDS are meant.

Jenna Dunn (33:30)
that are represented by Created to Be His Help Meet and that idea that a woman being ezer means she’s subordinate and then to like see the truth about that in scripture was wow such a radical shift and so yeah I really I really bought into that identity of like being like I’m an ezer like that’s super freeing and healing for me

Ruth Perry (33:53)
Yeah, it is a long process, healing and unlearning and relearning. I think for me, really started, the domino started falling away from my early faith formation about 15 years ago. And 15 years, that’s a long time, almost all of my adulthood.

Jenna Dunn (34:11)
Yeah.

Ruth Perry (34:11)
Or not really, no, that’s because I’m 44 now, so I’m like late 20s. Just really when my home church went through all that conflict and it impacted my family and we experienced a lot of abusive behavior towards us and shunning. And it was just really painful. And then all the little dominoes started falling. And the first thing that I noticed was if the women in this church had any say, this is not how this would be handled.

Jenna Dunn (34:39)
Yeah.

Ruth Perry (34:41)
And then I started wondering why don’t the women have any say? It doesn’t really make sense. And so that was the thing that for me, but I’ve just, last year, I finally went and did some EMDR therapy because over 15 years of me learning new things and working on all of this, I was still carrying the wounds and they were still wide open and painful and

Jenna Dunn (34:45)
Yeah.

Ruth Perry (35:05)
Just going through that EMDR therapy last year was really transformational.

Jenna Dunn (35:09)
Wow.

Ruth Perry (35:10)
And I think maybe that that’s where now I’m getting the I’ll try a podcast courage. I don’t know. I’m not as scared anymore.

Jenna Dunn (35:15)
Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah, I think sort of gathering together women especially, but also I know when I think about like the strategy behind Ezer Bible, I didn’t want to make it just for women because if I see a Christian man that’s like actually teaching the Bible like the right way and like is understanding how important the voice of women is and how important women are to building the church. That’s actually so beneficial. I don’t like the idea of men and women are against each other. It’s actually just there’s men and women that are a part of the kingdom and it is a very supportive, helpful… I think about all the women that Paul was partnering with. They wouldn’t have been able to accomplish what the early church accomplished without those partnerships.

I had noticed if I say patriarchy, like I almost don’t want to use that term anymore because I talk to many people who when they hear me say patriarchy, they think I’m saying something against men. And like to me, patriarchy doesn’t mean men, men and women hold up patriarchy. I’m not saying anything negative about men. So it’s like to me that the divide should be the people over there that support patriarchy and then the people that are building the kingdom and following Jesus and laying down their lives and serving and submitting to each other. so but yeah, it’s an interesting thing because I think as soon as you try to bring men like I just was so comfortable talking about talking to women you bring men into it. I think there’s just this default that women will just back down and let men lead like there’s just our culture has conditioned us to be like, there’s a man in the room. Okay, I’ll shut up now and just see what he says. How do you get women to participate and to leave behind that sort of cultural conditioning? That’s something I think about a lot. But yeah, I really am super excited that you’re gonna do a podcast. And I hope that that ends up being something that more women…

you know, will start sharing.

Ruth Perry (37:11)
Is Four Square, that’s the denomination that Amy Semple McPherson founded, right?

Jenna Dunn (37:17)
Yeah, You know, it’s weird. There was a four-square church in the small city that I was a ministry wife in, and I had friends that… Even some of the leadership team had been raised in the Four Square Church. And so it’s weird to me. I’m like always wondering, why did they adopt this view of male and female gender roles and male-only leadership, if that was their background? But that particular Four Square Even though…their denominational belief system included women in ministry. They didn’t actually practice it. There wasn’t any women in ministry that I saw. Maybe the pastor’s wife was a little bit more outspoken than in other faith traditions, but they didn’t really practice what they believed, right? But the Four Square Church, now that I’m in a bigger city, actually the city I’m in, there’s so many good churches. Like there’s also a denomination here called Open Bible.

And it’s a bunch, it’s usually a husband, wife, pastor team. And I went to a few of those and like, I just cry. Like a woman gets up front and starts preaching. I just start crying. It’s just beautiful. I don’t know how to explain it. It’s not about one person. There’s a team of people. They take turns teaching. People take turns doing worship and. They just make decisions together as a team and there’s not like women defaulting to male leadership. The women share what they think and it’s just really healthy. I’m still blown away about it, I guess.

Ruth Perry (38:37)
Yeah, I’m glad you found that church.

Jenna Dunn (38:39)
Yeah.

Ruth Perry (38:40)
And I’m glad I met you, Jenna. This is so nice. We’re friends now.

Jenna Dunn (38:42)
I’m glad I met you too. Yeah, I am happy too.

Ruth Perry (38:47)
Thank you so much, Jenna. You shine the light of God from your whole being and everything you’ve shared has been really beautiful and impactful. And I feel like God has definitely gifted you.

Jenna Dunn (38:58)
Thank you. Thank you so much.

Ruth Perry (39:02)
So if you need encouragement, I’m encouraging you. Take the risk, do it, because I love it. I love it. I feel like you’re a beautiful soul.

Jenna Dunn (39:06)
Aww, that means a lot. Thank you so much. Yeah.

Ruth Perry (39:13)
So keep on keeping on, Jenna. You’re doing great.

Jenna Dunn (39:16)
All right, you too. Thank you so much, Ruth.

Ruth Perry (39:18)
Thank you.


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