Author Archives: Becky Buck

What to write when there’s nothing to write?

It’s been a while since I’ve posted anything. I often hide behind the amazing gifting of my co laborer and friend Ruth. I use the excuse that she is much more gifted and competent than I. Plus I work full time now and have 2 boys and a hubby to love on so my time is restricted. But honestly it’s more because I don’t believe that I’m smart enough or have anything important or profound or encouraging to write that hasn’t already been written. We are inundated with blogs and videos and links almost constantly. Why would anyone want to hear from my crazy ADD, anxious, creative brain? And then I read my friend’s beautiful post about her struggle with body image and I realize I receive that knowledge that pierces my darkness with light because I know her. I can hear her voice and see her eyes in her writing. And I love her and being loved by her, so the truth she plants in my heart with her written words roots deep down into my soul. What a gift! We read each other’s writings to move us out of despair and into hope. We read over and over again similar truths and stories because they reach deep down into our souls and wring out the pain.

So this is my public confession that I will try to do better and be braver, Ruth. To hopefully be used in writing a bit more to pull others out of despair into hope through the power of written word and wring out the pain into God’s overflowing bucket of redemption, grace, mercy, justice, and love.

Beautiful and Dangerous: Body=Image; Sex=Symbol

Join Ruth and Becky as they interview Lisa Wells who is the Family Ministries Director at North Harbor Community Church in Topsham, Maine. Lisa is a gifted teacher and musician and a mom of 3 beautiful girls and is married to Dan Wells our lead pastor at North Harbor. The 8 week sermon series is called Beautiful And Dangerous. Lisa’s sermon is part 5 and is entitled, Body=Image; Sex=Symbol and the link to listen to it is here: http://www.northharbor.net/

And here is the link to our interview:

You may also want to watch the Amy Cuddy body language talk that Lisa references.

Be blessed!!!

 

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder…

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What do you see when you look in the mirror? Go on. Go look. Ok. What was the first thought that popped into your head? Mine was, “Yikes! I need my brows waxed!” Was your similar? Why is it that? Why can’t we look in the mirror and say, “Wow. I am beautiful.” After all, isn’t that what God sees?

I get asked often as a hairdresser and makeup artist about a thousand questions about what to do with ones hair. Then that goes into what cut should I have, what style should I wear, do I need color, what makeup and hair products should I use, etc. and mind you this happens EVERYWHERE. I’m talking the grocery store, while washing your hands in a public restroom, restaurants, church, you name it. Because I am a cosmetologist I should have all the answers about beauty and how to make you more beautiful. But here’s the thing. YOU ALREADY ARE BEAUTIFIL!

I believe that we are putting way too much pressure on ourselves to be what society’s definition of beautiful is. What is that definition? Well, first advertisers make you presume that something is wrong with yourself and that they have the perfect services/products to fix you. This aggravates me. Makeup and hair should be tools of creative expression that tell the story of who you are. Not cover it up so we can spare no expense to make you look like Kim Kardashian.

In the garden of Genesis 1-2 we see that everything God creates is very good. (1:31) The Hebrew word for good is tov. It means the broadest sense of good. That what is good literally is desirable, beautiful, and pleasing. We as human beings that bear the image of God are desirable, beautiful, and pleasing just by being.

Now go back to that mirror. Ok. Now I want you to audibly speak this to yourself: I am desirable. I am beautiful. I am pleasing. See yourself dear one the way that your Creator sees you and let’s commit to stop hearing and believing lies.

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